“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.”
– Aldous Huxley
Having begun with the wonderful/impactful words of a great man, I want to share just four succinct points about self-improvement – thanks to my son Vidur. Now, this dude comes up with some real gems now and then. Often I get that sense of deja vu – and of course, like a million doting moms out there, I am convinced he’s destined for greatness – but hey, that is another very long story – and its not raining today.
Anyway – Vidur very logically says that the more we continue to do things that are working for us, the better we will feel, and the more successful we will be. Now, that’s as profound as it can get. But he went on to give me many examples and these are the principles we filtered out of the forty odd minutes of “discussion”
- Focus on things that are working out well for you. If you are good at something, do more of it. If some methods are working better for you, develop them some more. We all tend to lose track of the things we are good and go after stuff that may or may not work – getting all stressed in the process. (like my goal of cleaning my garage – hey, it’s not going to happen anytime soon!) (like Vidur cleaning his shelves – awww, c’mon!)
- Avoid wasting time on things that are not working out well – don’t just do them because you’ve fallen into a rut and its too uncomfortable to make the change. We all know time is precious – and for many time is money – so if you can quantify your time – now’s the time to sweep out all those time-wasters.
- Begin something afresh! Attempt something you’ve always wanted to, but have not gotten around to doing. Be open to new stuff. Embrace them. Enjoy them.
- Just ditch the things you don’t have to do. (no no – I don’t mean those things). I’d be a millionaire if I got a currency note for the number of times I have stopped to think whether there’s anything I would avoid doing if I really could turn the clock back. Be willing to get rid of anything – anything at all in your life, that you would passionately avoid. You DO NOT HAVE to do things that are unproductive. Be different. Have the courage to let go. Your comfort zone is not always the most comfortable. It is a false sense of ‘feel good’. Take the risk. It will be worth it.
So – to summarize – to improve your life, be daring enough to make a little change. Not only is it refreshing, but also beneficial.
Call it some Vidur Neeti – if you like 🙂