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Finding Motivation

The last few weeks have been crazy (if you’ve heard me say that before – believe me – it is usually with good reason :-))

It seemed like a never-ending round of visiting the doctors, diagnostic center for tests and medical opinions – with no real solution in sight. Things then precipitated, probably because I got a bit frustrated. Let me give a bit of a background first.

My story:
My mother has been ill for over 4 years now almost continuously – with over three hospitalizations that were quite traumatic. She was diagnosed with pulmonary TB in December 2007  and was under treatment, when she developed what is called a major PSOAS abscess in December 2008, which had to be surgically drained. This was done in January 2009, after which the wound healed only around July 2009. But her condition continued to get worse with severe back pain, eventually making it impossible to even sit even through a cup of coffee. For two months, the doctor tried pain management and physiotherapy. Aside from the heavy expenses, with no benefit, we were getting extremely worried. An MRI was repeated in August 2009, which showed deterioration in her vertebral column and it was obvious she had spinal TB. Somehow – still no treatment seemed forthcoming.

Last week, I reached a high point in my tension and had a chat with a friend who is a neurologist and sent her the MRI report. She advised the resumption of anti-TB combination drug pronto with bedrest and good nutrition. Miserable, I met her doctor again, who finally suggested another MRI, which I got done immediately. On seeing the report the next day, he felt surgery was the answer. This naturally shook us up. He set up an appointment with a spine specialist, who was of the same opinion. Alarmed – as you can well imagine, since surgery close to the spine is no jokes, and neither is the exorbitant cost – I decided to get a second and third opinion. I met another neurologist, who felt surgery wasn’t urgent since she was not neurologically compromised, and advised me to see an orthopedic instead.

I did – and was pleasantly relieved when he said surgery is not an emergency and should only be the last resort. He felt instead, that if she can be placed on complete bedrest for at least 2 months – which means eating, drinking and the etc. etc. in bed – with resumption of AKT4, there is a chance she could recover fully. This was music to my ears. Also, the doctor will do a weekly assessment to monitor her.

So – since yesterday, we’ve begun this regimen. It is a lot of hard work, but somehow I am totally motivated and enthusiastic. After the months of suffering she has gone through this seems like as if it is no big deal, probably because of the imminent benefit. Of course we can’t predict the future, but we can hope. And when our attitude is positive, and with God on our side – life can be good.

I have realized many times that a healthy dose of motivation coupled with determination will get you almost anything in life. If you are genuinely motivated, the motivation will:

  • get you out of bed
  • constantly remind you why you do what you do

When motivation is low, here’s what we do:

Step #1: Find your motivator
Motivation stems from having a goal. What is your goal? Why do you want to do what you want to do?
Once you uncover your personal motivator you’ll find that motivation flows quickly your way. Find the REAL reason WHY.

Step #2: Write it down
This makes it more real and put it up where you can see it. The inspiration is amazing. Helps you visualize yourself accomplishing your goal – and gives you focus and direction.

Step #3: Be Practical.
Time for action. You know what you want – and now its time to make a plan to achieve your goal. Be practical. Weed out ideas that wont work.
Plan a routine that will fit into your schedule and you’ll be more likely to stick with it. 

Step #4: Get support
Get the support of friends and family. Share your goal and you’ll be surprised at the support and encouragement you can get.

I am doing it. Its working for me.

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Cheers!

Vidya

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6 Comments

  • Reply
    Sumit
    October 19, 2009 at 2:21 pm

    Thank you for sharing this post, Vidya. I hope your mother gets well really, really soon. 🙂

  • Reply
    YOSEE
    October 20, 2009 at 6:35 am

    Inspiring tips, glad they are working for you.
    But i stumbled on Step #1 itself. Goal ! What do i want ? I dunno which goal to pin down and dedicate my life to with so many swarming around the head !
    Good wishes for your mom to get well soon.
    Regards.

  • Reply
    radha
    October 20, 2009 at 12:23 pm

    Really inspiring post. I hope your mother gets well soon – It’s amazing sometimes that strength and solutions crop up in the face of adversity. Nice blog here.

  • Reply
    Vidya Sury
    November 5, 2009 at 8:52 am

    Thanks, Sumit!!

    Thanks, Yosee – I didn’t get there easily myself 🙂

    Thanks, Radha – do keep coming back.

  • Reply
    Vishal Dharamdas
    December 5, 2010 at 4:45 am

    Wow! Vidya, this is really inspiring. I am sure this wasn’t easy for you…but you gained something from this experiences.
    Thanks for sharing it with us 🙂

  • Reply
    Vidya Sury
    December 5, 2010 at 4:48 am

    @Vishal – I am touched that you browsed to this post. Thanks. Sadly, Mom passed away in Feb this year, just when we thought her health problems were over.

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