It is fun to see how we go about setting these goals at different stages in our lives. The process is very enjoyable, because we get to sit back (or stand back) and imagine the future, based on what is past. The best part is that feeling of hope and optimism and that sense of “yes, I can” ness. Everything seems possible. Ask my son, Vidur, who thinks nothing is impossible, or rather, that everything is possible!
a/ A cupboard
b/ A bike
c/ A refrigerator
d/ A mixer grinder
e/ A TV
f/ A string of pearls (go ahead, laugh)
We lived in a one room accommodation. This room was one of two rooms on either side of the garage in the ground floor of a bungalow, which was spread across the first floor. There was a regular two bedroom accommodation occupying the rest of the ground floor around the back which was rented by another family. We had the room on the left of the garage, while the right side room was rented by a bachelor. Both rooms had to share a toilet cum bathroom to the left of our room. Our entire living quarters was one room with a granite slab on the far wall, to which was attached a sink with a – oh luxury – a tap with running water. There was a strip of windows at the side of the entry door.
Well, at the end of that year, I only managed to save enough from my meager salary to buy a refrigerator. I also managed to get a mixer grinder, that made life much easier for us, because Mom was the cook-from-scratch type. The cupboards looked somewhat impossible even for the next year, so I simply went and hired a couple of cupboards for the next year. I convinced myself that the bike was not that important because my office was just over two kilometers from where we lived, so I walked to and fro (thereby saving transport costs, adding to the savings). I also kept fit – which happened naturally. I was only 24 and healthy.
The items that were not achieved on the wish list got carried over to the next year, by which time Mom also got a job at the local school – and our income grew. Of course, while we didn’t scrimp on our food budget, we were quite strict with our expenses because we were keen to achieve our goals. And we did. Three months into the new year and I proudly brought home a black and white CRT 14” TV. That we only had a few hours of Doordarshan in 1988 and that I had to hold the antenna if I wanted to watch one of the few TV programs back then, Chitrahaar is another story 😀
Point is –
Our criteria for setting these goals and making our wishlist was as follows:
- Did we really want “it”? Were we being pressurized to pursue the goal?
- Would it hurt anyone?
- Was it complementary to our other goals?
- Were we emotionally strong enough to stick with the process?
- Did we visualize reaching the goal?
- Will I be happier?
- Will I be healthier?
- Will I be wealthier?
- Will I keep my friends, make new ones?
- Will I enjoy peace of mind?
- Will I feel more secure?
Thank you, Mrs.4444