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Elle Sommer's Guest post at vidyasury.com

What goes down must come up. And so it is with me. I believe in literally willing myself to get well, because there’s so much to do, so much to see. I’ve also noticed, after a particular low, there’s always something to take me high. Don’t tell me about falling again, because this time it is a gentle float, light as a feather, that eases me into the normal routine.  The silver lining, you know. And always, the rose-colored glasses.

And today, I think I have a solid silver cloud here with me. I’ve got Elle Sommer of Reflecting a Life. Now, before I say “take it away, Elle” let me say a word or few about her.

Elle Sommer is a motivational blogger. To me, she is a soul-sister. When I visit her blog, I always think – oh, that sounds like me.  And love the feeling. Truth is, she says it better than I. Elle is gentle, kind, charming, positive and humorous. She literally spreads sweetness and light.  She’s a ray of sunshine.  She transforms lives.

What made me fall in love with Elle is her tag line “Encourage One Another” – what can be more beautiful than practicing that?  To quote Elle on her purpose,

To live consciously and generously, full of praise and encouragement.  To reflect back to everyone how strong and brilliant they really are, and to encourage dreams….

Wasn’t that lovely? It is only natural I would want to show her off here on The Red Carpet, so I invited her to guest post.  Stunned is how I felt when she sent it to me – because I have an unfinished draft of a post along these lines, as I am due for an eye-check-up!

Welcome, Elle!

Reflecting A Life

Reflecting A Life

A Clearer View

My Darling One took me out to dinner.  Lovely you might say.  Well wait just a minute, there was something wrong with the menu…I couldn’t read it.  Why do they make things so darn difficult to read in restaurants.

What about trying to read the directions on the medication I was supposed to take…I had to get out a magnifying glass the print was so blooming small.  I should write a letter to the manufacturers.

And just to add insult to injury, I couldn’t make out the text on my phone – of course it was all to do with the poor lighting and the phone itself.  Absolutely nothing to do with me.

It could be worse I suppose, I could still tell a piece of fruit from a cupcake, and no, it wasn’t because I tasted them both thanks very much.

But there was something obviously and terribly wrong with the world.  Wouldn’t you agree?

What do you mean you wouldn’t…you mean to tell me it’s much more likely that the common denominator is me?  That it wasn’t anything on the outside that needed to be fixed but I probably needed to have a new lens through which I could see the world.  Hmmm.

You might be wondering what the heck this has to do with anything.  But it really has to do with everything, because clearly I needed to get my eyes tested.  Even though I have glasses for reading, I obviously needed some new lenses for greater clarity and a clearer view.

And just as what I see through my eyes has a root cause within me so the way I see my world has it’s causes within me too.

Naturally we think we see our world exactly as it is, and every event and condition we experience is caused by something happening…out there.  Not true…we are all seeing our world through our very own and very personal lens.

Our world, and everything in it is colored by our beliefs, our predominant thoughts and feelings, not to mention our previous experiences and when something really sucky shows up, how many of us are quick to say, oh heck it’s time to change my lens.  Not too many of us if I had to hazard a guess.

“Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. Then your time on earth will be filled with glory.” ~ Betty Smith

Just being aware of this can open up a whole new world for us, if we’d apply the same principle to the lens through which we view the world, as we do to having eyesight that’s a little fuzzy around the edges.  It’s just time to change the lens…and we might try out two or three different ones, until the perspective works well for us.

Instead we look at the images we see, the events, the people who show up and we say, well it’s obvious that they’re the problem.  Nothing to do with me.  The economy’s awful, I always meet Mr or Mrs Wrong, that plane must have been filled with germs because now I’ve got a lousy cold.

I know, I know, it’s not the easiest thing in the world to do, to look at our view of life as being the problem, because we’re always looking at life through the lens we have and it seems so rational to say well of course the world is the way it is because that’s what I see, that’s what I experience.

But remember, everything gets filtered through our perspective.  Which of course is why we love those confirmation bias conversations.  Seeking, in which case we’ll always find, the information that confirms our biases, we  gravitate to those people who confirm all our worst fears.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we gravitated more towards the people who confirmed our best hopes?

Not that we don’t do that a little of course, just not all the time and certainly not enough.

It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it. ~ W. Somerset Maugham.

We filter everything that shows up in our life and either accept or dismiss it without a second thought.  Our habits manage that for us and  it’s funny how we happen to be really quick to dismiss those things that don’t fit our preconceived ideas.

In fact we only get to see what’s in our consciousness.  So no wonder when we change the lens through which we look at life we can say…wow…I never saw that before.  Of course you didn’t, you couldn’t, it wasn’t part of you.  You had no thoughts or feelings that vibrated with that matching vibration of energy.

And have you noticed that we’re really, really good at ignoring anything that doesn’t fit our current picture of life.  Or worse, it gets distorted by our wonky lenses because they’re not only interpreting our reality, they’re creating it.  Let me repeat that.  Our lenses do more than interpret reality, they create it.

Elle Sommer's Guest post at vidyasury.com

Imagine for a moment two people, one who believes in himself, who sees himself as successful, who believes in an abundant universe.  These beliefs become part of his internal reality, part of who he is and he acts from this vibration.  This is the lens through which he sees his world.  The other, sadly can only see lack and limitation, he believes everything is hard and good things don’t happen for him.  His world is like an obstacle course, and as he overcomes one challenge another one pops right up.  This is the lens through which he views the world.

Same world, just different perspectives, bringing a different reality.  I think I know which lens I’d be choosing…remembering that we reap what we sow.

So, I’m off to the opticians to have the lenses changed in my glasses…might as well do a little switching on the lens of life while I’m at it.   What say you?

Encourage one another.

Love, Elle
xoxo

Thank you, Elle. My heart is full!

Dear friends, please do visit Reflecting A Life and be enriched! Look for the beautiful “Prosperity video” waiting for you!

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29 Comments

  • Reply
    Mayura
    December 11, 2012 at 10:20 pm

    Hi Elle,

    Wonderful write up and glad to meet you here 🙂

    You are very true about viewing the World through our own lenses 🙂 Someone would say OPEN MINDED, but I doubt, to which extent?

    However I think it’s quite harder for one who has gone through negativity or hard time in his/her life 🙂 Memories always buried deep down in our mind, no? And it could be ignorance ‘causing someone to view the world in that way, which is even deadly as they have no idea how to change their lenses.

    Do you have suggestions for people who don’t seem to get the idea at all, due to ignorance or whatever reason? 🙂

    Have a Wonderful week, Elle and Vidya 🙂

    Cheers…
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      Elle
      December 12, 2012 at 12:44 pm

      Mayura – you are so right, I think each one of us has had our struggles and obstacles in life. Our subconscious mind accepts everything we impress upon it, which is why a change in our perspective is vital so we no longer operate from those old patterns of thought and feeling.

      There are many ways to begin to alter this pattern, but since feeling is what the subconscious responds to best, should I find myself focused on those old negative memories I’ll have an intervention of sorts and find something to think of that allows happy feelings to surface.

      Sometimes, I’ll simply affirm to myself I’m happy.

      And yes, it doesn’t necessarily happen over night – the change in our perspective, but like constantly putting clear water into a pool of mud, eventually clearness
      wins out.

      Hope this helps a little,

      Love Elle
      xoxo
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        Betsy Cross
        December 12, 2012 at 3:53 pm

        Mayura,
        Just yesterday an old friend private messaged me about a picture I put on Facebook that was silly-harmless. Her lif experiences triggered a very negative response in her and she called the picture “racist” even though countless people have said they don’t see what she sees. What she sees comes from inside of her and I can’t change that even after deleteing the picture and listening as she ranted about her point of view. I listened and the conversation continues. She obviously has unresolved pain. As a childhood friend, I was shocked with her perspective, and am unsure of the outcome. All I can do is love her and hope that it turns out well.
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          Mayura
          December 12, 2012 at 10:34 pm

          Hey Betsy,

          That’s a perfect example 🙂 Even we don’t care things much and never meant to hurt someone, different things cross the minds of people. Sometimes it may turns out to a big problem.

          Once a friend criticized the cartoons like Tom & Jerry is ‘causing anger. I get her point about chasing down and fighting. But C’mon 🙂

          Glad you understand the situation very well and act positively on that matter dear 🙂

          Thanks for sharing the story with me too Betsy 🙂

          Cheers…
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          Vidya Sury
          December 13, 2012 at 5:54 pm

          Dear Betsy! So nice to have you here today! I understand what you’re saying. I’ve been through a similar situation offline…and it is very frustrating to get through someone’s concrete point of view, mainly because they’ve already concluded their point of view is the only one worth considering. You are absolutely right about showering love and hoping things work out. Yet, it leaves one with a sense of sadness, no? 🙂 Loved your post at Barbara’s.

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        Mayura
        December 12, 2012 at 10:13 pm

        Well, I think you are right on that dear 🙂 Sometimes just a post or motivational book doesn’t help at all, though for others a single quote can make a difference.

        I think for some people I know, I need to put clear water constantly onto their minds to wash our brains covered with the mud.

        Thank you so much for your reply and help me clear things out dear 🙂

        Cheers…
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          Vidya Sury
          December 13, 2012 at 5:47 pm

          Your comment made me laugh, Mayura. There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to get across to people who have decided to close their minds. 🙂 Thank you for your presence here!

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      Vidya Sury
      December 13, 2012 at 5:51 pm

      Thank you for your comment, Mayura. Going through difficult times can color our vision to a large extent. There’s always an innate fear that things won’t work out, especially when we go by what we have experienced in the past. Actually, Elle’s latest post on her own blog addresses this to some extent. Check it out 🙂 Sometimes we have to get over ourselves to move on!

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    Elle
    December 11, 2012 at 6:45 pm

    Awww Vidya, you honour me with a place on your beautiful new site and with your praise. I’m humbled, truly I am.

    Love and hugs.
    Elle
    xoxo
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      Vidya Sury
      December 11, 2012 at 7:32 pm

      🙂 Your place is in my heart, Elle. I am honored to have you here! Hugs!

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    My Inner Chick
    December 12, 2012 at 1:07 am

    *** because there’s so much to do, so much to see**

    You. Always. Inspire. Me.

    you are a prayer in my universe.

    Xxx Elle is WONDERFUL.
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      Rahul
      December 12, 2012 at 3:00 am

      A beautiful post, Vidya and Elle!! The moment we realize what these great men said is truth, our perceptions too would change:)
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        Vidya Sury
        December 12, 2012 at 4:37 pm

        Thanks for your wonderful thought, Rahul. Sometimes a slight shift makes everything amazing!
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      Elle
      December 12, 2012 at 12:47 pm

      Vidya inspires me too. Isn’t it wonderful to have such inspiration in our world. I love it.

      Love Elle
      xoxo
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      Vidya Sury
      December 12, 2012 at 4:36 pm

      Love you, Kim.
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    Kimberly
    December 12, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    For someone who has gone through so much pain in such a little time, it’s hard to see beyond those lenses. it’s a work in progress. Thank you for this beautiful piece.
    PS. Vidya I hope you’re ok. Hugs
    PPS. I tried to tweet this because I love it but it wouldn’t let me.
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      Vidya Sury
      December 12, 2012 at 7:46 pm

      Hugs, dearest Kimberly. Most of us are works in progress and that includes me. Yes, I am much better now.
      P.S.: Checked the “tweet” button. Works for me. Sometimes it tends to freeze – I’ve had that happen to me on other sites.
      Love you, Kim.
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      Elle
      December 12, 2012 at 8:30 pm

      Kimberley, you are not alone and picture us holding you up in our hearts, till you feel stronger, which you will dear one.

      And as Vidya says, we are all works in progress…thankfully…otherwise we’d be stagnating. Kudos to your courage to keep growing.

      Love Elle
      xoxo
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    Tess The Bold Life
    December 12, 2012 at 4:13 pm

    You’re amazing Elle. I will borrow this as I visit family for the holidays. Leaving today.

    To live consciously and generously, full of praise and encouragement. To reflect back to everyone how strong and brilliant they really are, and to encourage dreams….

    Thanks for all of the love you both add to the world. I feel it!
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      Vidya Sury
      December 12, 2012 at 4:35 pm

      It is a beautiful world, Tess. Perspective makes all the difference. I am so thrilled Elle is here with her beautiful view.

      Have a fabulous trip! Love to you and your family! I am blessed to know you.
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      Elle
      December 12, 2012 at 8:27 pm

      Tess, you know how much I admire and respect you and your comments just fill my heart. Thank you so much.

      Love Elle
      xoxo
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    Galen Pearl
    December 12, 2012 at 11:06 pm

    Vidya, I know what you mean. Every time I read something that Elle has written, I see myself.

    Elle, like now! After a series of failed relationships years back, I took a close look. How was it possible that I had picked the wrong person…again?! I finally asked myself what all these relationships had in common. Oh, right…me.

    You are a master of helping us all see through clearer lenses. Thank you.
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      Vidya Sury
      December 13, 2012 at 5:45 pm

      Dear Galen, you are spot on. But oh, it is so difficult to look within and admit it sometimes! Once we get there, of course, it is very liberating. Thank you for your comment! I love how Elle expresses herself!

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    Elle
    December 13, 2012 at 3:11 am

    Galen, isn’t it wonderful to know that we are all part of the same tribe. I often read what you and Vidya say and find myself nodding in agreement…just what I was thinking. I love being part of this amazing company that I’m blessed to find myself in.

    Love Elle
    xoxo
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    Pamela
    December 13, 2012 at 4:43 pm

    Vidya, thanks for introducing us to Elle! You are both lovely 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      December 13, 2012 at 5:44 pm

      Hey Pamela – I am blessed in the company I keep, no? That includes you, my friend! 😀

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    Carolyn Hughes
    December 13, 2012 at 4:32 pm

    What a beautiful post by beautiful soul-sisters! I love this comment “everything gets filtered through our perspective.” It’s such a truth. We often cant’ change the situation but we can change how we see it.
    Thank you Vidya and Elle!
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      Vidya Sury
      December 13, 2012 at 5:44 pm

      Absolutely true, dear Carolyn. Hugs!

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    vanita
    December 15, 2012 at 2:03 am

    Elle is definitely a ray of sunshine, just like you sis. i have been blessed to meet you both. both of you always make my hours working here in solitude better and i am grateful for you
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