happiness

With Love and Gratitude

Vidya Sury love

We did not sleep well last night.

Sury is down with the ‘flu.

Vidur’s allergic dry cough is back with a vengeance and he had long bouts of coughing through the night.

My injured leg suddenly became much worse and showed signs of the same allergy as my arm, which is healing now. The foot is quite swollen and I can barely walk around without wincing.

The morning, however, dawned bright and clear.  Thinking about this special day, I was full of love and gratitude.

At 6.45 am, as has been the tradition for sixteen years, my dear friend phoned to wish us a Happy Anniversary.

(This friend has never missed my birthday or my Mom’s from the day we met in November 1987 when her son was about five months old, and after I got married, never missed anniversaries and birthdays of Sury and Vidur)

The sun did shine brighter after I heard her voice.

We waited for 9 am so we could go see the doc.  We did. Rather than feel sad that our outing on this special day was to the doc, I chose to see it as an investment in our health and was full of gratitude that we had access to a good doctor we trusted.

Normally, we would lead up to Feb 9 with all sorts of plans depending on what day of the week it is on – and finally either have a special lunch at home together or go out for dinner and sometimes, a bit of shopping. Since 2010, Feb 9 has been somewhat sad as my Mother had just passed away on Feb 8, 2010. But as my Mom would say, “respect the dead, celebrate the living” – we hold each other close and feel grateful for what we have.

  • Unconditional love and gratitude
  • Compassion for each other
  • Trust in each other
  • My folks think i am a great cook and will appreciate whatever i make
  • Health – most of the time, such as it is
  • A kind and loving son
  • A nice home
  • A decent income
  • No debts
  • Close friends who care
  • Loving friends who email or call to ask how I am doing
  • Wonderful memories together
  • Happiness
  • The ability to keep standing, no matter what
  • A spiritual backpack full of joy
  • Not being stuck in a rut

Sixteen years have sped by, or so it seems. It feels like just the other day when I wrote about 15 years of being married in a post titled secrets of a happy marriage. Like most marriages, ours wasn’t perfect. We argued, we disagreed with each other, we had ego problems. Yet at a basic level we are always united. We’ve grown together over the years, and grown on each other. In sickness and in health. Through joy and sorrow. With love and gratitude.

We are not worried about not going out to dinner, as we are just as happy sitting at the dining table regaling each other with “do you remember” stories.

We did not worry about gifts, as we give each other gifts throughout the year, without waiting for special occasions.

Our house is filled with love and humor. And dust. But I don’t care about that right now. My heart is full and I am happy.

16th anniversary Vidya Sury

Let me conclude by reproducing last year’s Haiku dated Feb 9

United
 
I need no padlocks 
to keep you inside my heart
My love is enough.
 15 16 years of bliss.
Together we unlocked joy 
Through sad and hard times
Vidya Sury Love
Question for you, dear Friends….
Hmmm.
No question. The answer is love and gratitude
Found the cute locket with the owls from Zazzle.com
Love the pair of birds in the bracelet  from etsy.com

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22 Comments

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    Eric West | Friendship Society
    February 9, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    Happy anniversary and congrats on 16 happy years together. We’re coming up on our 16th anniversary in May. Your reflection on love and gratitude sound like a great antidote to the illnesses you’ve been dealing with. I’ll send you some healing energy if you are open to that type of thing.
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    Josh
    February 10, 2013 at 5:17 am

    “respect the dead, celebrate the living”

    I love that. It is one of the greatest expressions I have ever heard– so very true.
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    Harleena Singh
    February 10, 2013 at 9:29 am

    Wishing both of a very Happy Anniversary Vidya, with many more to come. 🙂

    Just as I mentioned yesterday, even though it seems like a tough trying phase of of life presently, such moments make the journey more worth while – isn’t it?

    Take care of each other and am sure all will be well within no time. 🙂
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    Terri Sonoda
    February 10, 2013 at 4:40 pm

    Happy Anniversary dear Vidya! It warms my heart to read your words of reflection and happiness. I am saddened, however, to hear of your illness. Wishing you a swift recover. Much love coming from over my way. XOXOs
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    My Inner Chick
    February 10, 2013 at 4:55 pm

    Happy Anniversary! xxx

    Please send me your address again, Vidya.

    Sending you Love Love Love. Xxx
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    Betsy/Zen Mama
    February 10, 2013 at 11:02 pm

    Congratulations on your anniversary! The years fly by don’t they? We have now been married 25 years! I still can’t believe it. We don’t worry about gifts either. We do like to have a special dinner but it’s often at home. Love your list of the things that you are grateful for in your life. Beautiful!!

    So sorry that Sury and Vidur are sick and that you are still not healed. I’ll be thinking of you all.

    xoxo
    Betsy
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    Glynis Jolly
    February 10, 2013 at 11:22 pm

    Happy Belated Anniversary! I do hope the doctor was able to help with your and Vidu’s troubles. Coughing through the night is exhausting and I’m sure his throat is raw from it. I’ve never heard of allergies effecting legs and arms before. I do hope your leg gets better.

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    Dorothy
    February 10, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    So many wonderful things in this post. Gefeliciteerd met je anniversary! Continued heeling and health in your home!
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    Carolyn Hughes
    February 10, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    Wishing you a very Happy Anniversary and many, many more!
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    Sandi Amorim
    February 10, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    Love, humour and dust…sounds like our home Vidya! And thank God for the humour 😉

    Happy anniversary and thank you for sharing and celebrating your marriage with us. xoS
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    Janet
    February 10, 2013 at 8:13 pm

    This is a lovely post, Vidya. Congratulations on reaching sixteen years together! We just celebrated our 12th anniversary on the 8th. Time is such a funny thing, isn’t it? No matter how much time has passed, we always have just this very moment! I am happy that your moment seems quite full, and I wish you both many more!!

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    Paige | Simple Mindfulness
    February 10, 2013 at 8:22 pm

    Have a wonderful and joyous anniversary Vidya! I’m still sending lots of hugs and loving, healing energy to you. I know how hard it is but maybe more rest?? Despite your injuries, you’re still “everywhere” online. You’re a completely amazing woman. Thank you for your inspiration!

    Great Big Hugs!!
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    Ben
    February 11, 2013 at 3:53 am

    Congratulations! That is awesome to be together that long and still happy!

    I continue to be impressed at the gratitude you show despite the things that come up in your life, a great example for others to look at and learn from!

    -Ben
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      Vidya Sury
      February 11, 2013 at 5:01 am

      Thank you, Ben, for the kind words. We realized, long ago, when we went through tough times that the best thing was to trivialize and laugh together. It has worked for us – and so, gratitude is a natural outcome for me. 🙂 Always happy to see you!

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    timethief
    February 10, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    Happy anniversary! Best wishes for rapid healing for all three of you.

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    Vanita
    February 11, 2013 at 7:40 am

    i seriously hate that you’re all so sick at home. best wishes for speedy recoveries for everyone and happy anniversary girl! i love that you guys are always united. it is the best thing about marriage…having a partner in crime! 😀
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    Pattu
    February 11, 2013 at 5:34 am

    Happy Anniversary!
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    Debbie
    February 11, 2013 at 5:20 pm

    Happy Anniversary and wishing you many more. Isn’t love great. In marriage we can go through good times and rough times, but when we have that special person beside us, we know that we can climb any mountain that gets in our way.

    Wishing you a good recovery and i love the attitude that at least you have a good trusting doctor to go too.
    I love those nice cozy dinners at home. They can be the best.
    thank you for dharing,
    Debbie

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    Victor
    February 11, 2013 at 9:06 pm

    Happy Anniversary, Vidya!

    I wish you many, many more. Blessings to you and Sury! 🙂
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    Elle
    February 11, 2013 at 9:36 pm

    Happy belated anniversary Vidya. Sending everyone healing love and blessings.

    xoxo
    Love Elle
    PS Yes I smiled today when I read your post!
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    Angela Artemis|Powered by Intuition
    February 12, 2013 at 1:00 am

    This is so beautiful Vidya.

    You have a lot of wisdom to pass on about the “secret to a happy marriage.”

    I wish you all a speedy recovery and to you and Sury a wonderful 16th anniversary.
    xoxo,
    Angela
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