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Move On #ThatsWhatSheSaid

move on vidya sury

I was sharing my Triberr mates’ posts when I came across Katy Blevin’s post about a fun blog hop “That’s what she said” – where we write a post around a quote by a woman. .

Each week we will pick a quote, the quotes we choose are women’s words… get it? That’s What She Said. The link up will run for 2 weeks this week. Starting February 5th we have the linkup live for 5 days! Each week will provide the next week’s quote.

More about how to play here

This week’s quote is fabulous.

“Don’t stumble over something behind you”

If there is one inspiring quote I will always hold in my heart, it is this. “Don’t stumble over something behind you”.

How often do we allow something that happened in the past to hold us back from moving forward towards happiness? How often do we allow ourselves to be shackled in fear and hesitate when we’re on the threshold of a wonderful experience?

None of us can escape from our pasts. What we can do for sure is leave it behind and move on.

I know I am guilty of letting my mind play yo-yo between the past and the future, when all I ought to be doing is living in the present. It is not as if I lack in self-confidence or self-esteem. Somehow, it has become second nature to weigh everything before putting that step forward. That’s not a bad thing – after all, it is good to look before one leaps. When this wipes out spontaneity and that nice dose of impulsiveness, it can become tedious.

I am taking stock of what I am guilty of stumbling over. Here’s a to-don’t list I am focusing on:

  • Stop looking back on hurtful experiences. Move on.
  • Stop wasting energy on doing what does not make me happy. Move on.
  • Stop underestimating myself. I am so capable and more than enough
  • Stop looking for “perfect”. Some things just don’t deserve the stress. Move on.
  • Stop listening to the “inner critic”. Move on and indulge in fun stuff.

This year I am going to stop people pleasing – except with those that really matter and focus. Come on, I am nice like that! I am not going to look back on the times that upset me or the things that went wrong. Years ago, I made it a practice to be present and celebrate the small things and I am going to continue to do that.

Here is something I wrote on my Mom’s birthday last year. I used the first letters of the word “GRATITUDE” to begin each sentence. I have more “that’s what she said”s from her than anyone else I know – and I know it has shaped me into the person I am.

Mi Vidya Sury

Here is my own “That’s what she said” quote

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”

Eleanor Roosevelt

move on vidya sury

 When you see the quote “Don’t stumble over something behind you” what comes to mind?

Please share in the comments!

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11 Comments

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    Rachna
    January 21, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    Completely makes sense. It is true that we have to break from the shackles of bad experiences in the past to give oneself the opportunity to really move forward. But at the same time, I would like the learning to stay with me so that I don’t repeat the same mistake.
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    nabanita
    January 21, 2015 at 6:16 pm

    ‘Move on’ that’s what comes to my mind immediately Vidya… Just to move on and not hold grudges…
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    Susan Scott
    January 21, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Beautiful post and I loved reading your poem again for your Mum – Gratitude .. thank you. Eleanor Roosevelt said so many wise words …
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    sweety
    January 21, 2015 at 10:34 pm

    Very lovely post.
    We do tend to live in the past or future.

    Wish I could stop stumbling over the past. Grudges, regrets, words said and words left unsaid,
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    Irish Carter
    January 22, 2015 at 8:16 am

    Hi Vidya,

    Love inspiring quotes and LOVED the message for your mother. Beautiful. I think we all yo you at times over our past because things set us off and we have triggers that brings us back to those moments. I try to teach myself to identify triggers so that I can catch them down the road when they resurface.

    Thanks for inspiring like you do.

    Irish
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      Vidya Sury
      January 22, 2015 at 9:42 am

      You are right, Irish, the key is to identify the triggers. That’s something I’ve been consciously working on for years. It is sometimes crazy how a seemingly harmless thought can trigger an avalanche of memories we really do not need.

      Hugs..thank you for the kind words! Did you get my email? 🙂
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    dreamzandclouds
    January 23, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    beautiful post….cant agree more with your words 🙂
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    Corinne Rodrigues
    January 24, 2015 at 11:00 am

    A lovely prompt and you’ve aced it, Vidya.
    I try not to look back too, but sometimes we all do. I think it’s important to learn the lessons of the past, but not allow the past to colour our present!
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    Debbie
    January 27, 2015 at 7:03 pm

    Excellent quotes and attitudes, Vidya! 🙂 We cannot allow the past to hamper our present or future. Eleanor Roosevelt was so right, too. Or, put another way (can’t remember who said it first) “What others think of you is none of your business”. Shouldn’t matter at all.
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