Encouragement

Dream

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If you can dream it you can do it

Walt Disney

Dear Vidur

I actually wanted to pick the word “Do” but after Attempt, I thought “Dream” would be a better idea.

You know, when I was around your age, I was almost conditioned to accept my lot and be content with what I had. While that is not such a bad notion in itself, since it was not unusual for women to restrain themselves from being ambitious, from dreaming, it irked me that I had to follow the herd. Our family, with good intentions, believed that I would be lucky to complete that Bachelor of Science before I got married and settled down. That’s not the life I had in mind, though. I wanted to do a lot more, achieve great things. I had to rebel to do what I wanted because I couldn’t bear to let my dreams die, such as they were.

I was fortunate to have your Grandmother who always stood by me, supporting me in whatever way she could. Today, I am lucky to have your Dad in my life, who encourages me to go ahead and do the things I want to do. Little did I know, 15 years ago, that I would be living my dream today doing what I love!

Today, here is my message to you, Vidur:

Dare to Dream

A dream is a wish your heart makes. You have a duty to yourself to fulfill it.

Unless we dream, we don’t get the impetus to go after it. When we are passionate about what we want, we put in our best effort. You’ve heard me saying this so many times – how much we want something is directly proportional to the effort we put into getting it. We humans are like that. We work harder for the things we want than the things we need. But that’s okay.

I encourage you to dream. It doesn’t matter how impossible it seems now. You’ll be surprised how easy it is to sometimes get what you want. Most people are too afraid to want something badly assuming they don’t deserve it. For others it is the fear that stops them.

Look at Saina Nehwal! She had a dream and she got there sooner than she expected. Did Daddy tell you about how he met her on a train journey Bangalore to Hyderabad in October 2003 when he was traveling to deliver some lectures in a nurture program meant for talented mathematics students? In his compartment, there were 4 kids traveling alone. There were three very young girls – all around 13 – and one boy who was slightly older – around 16.  From their conversation, he guessed that they were returning to Hyderabad after a badminton training camp in Bangalore. They were talking about the pathetic conditions and the “politics played” by the coaches and hardships that they experienced. To encourage them, he told them that in a couple of years, the conditions were bound to improve, and that they would represent the country one day. He also added that when that moment arrived, they would feel so proud that all their hardships would have been worth it. I remember he said he wasn’t sure if he himself believed it at the time! They must have thought, “here is another middle-aged bore spouting inanities”. Your Dad asked them their names. The boy said `Kashyap’ and a very serious-looking 13 year old girl said `Saina’. Today, he feels as though his meaningless words may have had something to do with Saina becoming world number 1 and he regrets that he forgot to ask for their autographs!

See? No dream too big!

During my childhood, my dream was to finish an entire pack of 10 biscuits.

And no dream too small!

Point is, regardless of size every single dream is worth chasing. Why? Because it makes us happy. The amusing thing is, at every stage we think it is tough to get close to that dream, until we decide to go after it. And oh, how enjoyable the process is! You know that better than anyone else!

I fondly remember, when you were around 6 years old, we would ask you what you wanted to be when you grew up. And you would answer “Illustrator, artist, editor, writer, publisher, musician…” and the list would go on. Do you know I still have that cassette tape where you recorded a mock interview with a reporter, talking about your upcoming illustrated book Hanuman? You were 5 years old! And yes, I do have your “manuscript”!

I am proud of you for holding on to those dreams and I know you are going to do it!

So, I dare you to dream. And do what you have to, to make it come true.

We are right behind you to cheer you on!

Love and hugs, Blessed to be your Mom.

P.S.: If you ask me what I am dreaming of, I’d say I hope to meet the Dalai Lama one day!

A to Z Challenge 2015 – Day 4

D is for Dream
D is for a Diet Tip at Life Hacks For Diabetics
D is for Detox at Life Hacks for Happiness

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10 Comments

  • Reply
    Darla M Sands
    April 4, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    Beautiful and insightful words. I never decided what I want to be when I grow up. My dad, many years retired, said he feels the same. ~grin~ I guess the lesson is that it’s never too late to dream.
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      Vidya Sury
      April 4, 2015 at 8:25 pm

      That’s true, Darla! I remember meandering around quite a bit until Universe somehow took my hand and led me to where I am now – family circumstances also helped me explore options. I like that we’re never too old to “set another goal and dream another dream!” Your Father is a wise man! Thanks so much for visiting. Love!
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    Susan Scott
    April 4, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    Ah! Again I’m smiling from ear to ear Vidya. What a lovely story about your husband chatting with those young children on the train! Your posts are like this too, making a meaningful impression every time. Thank you!
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      Vidya Sury
      April 4, 2015 at 8:23 pm

      Thank you, Susan. Funny how memories get triggered! Incidentally, Saina Nehwal became world no.1 last week…but sadly lost her title in a match today. Still, the fact remains that she did reach her goal and will be motivated to work harder to get it back! 🙂

      By the way, the best part of writing these posts is when my son reads them and gives me a hug! 😀
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    Nick #thisyearinmusic
    April 4, 2015 at 11:16 pm

    The Lama is on tour at the moment, so maybe this is your year!

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      Vidya Sury
      April 5, 2015 at 11:36 am

      🙂 Thanks for stopping by, Nick. Although it would be better if he weren’t on tour – since we live in the same country 🙂
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    My Inner Chick
    April 5, 2015 at 3:04 am

    DREAMS
    Come
    True.

    Love you more than strawberry ice-cream drizzled w/ caramel. xxxx
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    Swathi Shenoy
    April 5, 2015 at 11:27 am

    Loved this one 🙂 If we dare to dream, then we will always achieve things, right? 🙂
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    Parul
    April 5, 2015 at 11:34 am

    I loved this one too Vidya! All your letters are so beautiful that I can read them all over again 🙂 Can’t just pick a favorite..
    I believe in dreams and however small tehy may be, I believe unless we dream, they can’t come true..
    Just sharing a little dream from my past – I come from a small city in UP and when I was a teenager, I was in awe of IISc Bangalore..I wanted to do a research there.But in those days, Bangalore used to be a foreign land. The max people I believed was being in Delhi.I graduated from Delhi and out of the blue my first job landed me in Bangalore 10 years back. This was the city I first met my husband..Years later, when we again went back to studies, he chose IISc, Bangalore and I went to Nagpur. I was to do a summer internship and one of his professors offered me a research position for two months. There was a gap of good 20 years of seeing a dream and actually living it..But hadn’t I dreamed, I would have never loved my 2 month stint in one of the world’s finest research institute 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      April 5, 2015 at 11:40 am

      Wow. That’s a wonderful experience, Parul! I am so glad you dared to dream! You know, my Grandma used to say – when we yearn for something and focus on it, Universe conspires 🙂 Thank you for commenting and sharing your story!
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