I meant to have this book review up last week, but got caught up with my son’s college admissions and related activities. But here I am now, most things wrapped up and looking forward to an interesting new phase in life. I was in excellent company, though, because I read THE NEW SINGLE: Finding, Fixing and Falling Back in Love with Yourself After a Break-Up or Divorce by Emmy-award-winning television personality and producer, Tamsen Fadal which is one of the best books I’ve read in recent times.
I consider it a privilege to have received an advance review copy of this book from the Worthy Marketing Group – it is a treasured companion and I have it on my favorite book shelf.
The author’s fairy tale wedding was featured in The New York Times. Her divorce landed smack in the middle of Page Six. After a weeks-long pity party on the couch with her chihuahua, she realized, it was time to start over.
The New Single by Tamsen Fadal
THE NEW SINGLE: Finding, Fixing and Falling Back in Love with Yourself After a Break-Up or Divorce is a post-breakup survival guide to everything you need to know about starting over again.
After hearing from so many women in similar situations, Emmy award winning television journalist Tamsen Fadal made it her mission to show these self-sufficient, empowered New Singles how to start over — finding themselves first, with focus on career, finances, food, friends and everything in between.
She shares her secrets, stories, and sometimes-painful lessons for surviving, thriving, living, and loving as one of a growing group of women: The New Single with tried and true advice along with nearly two dozen seasoned experts including best-selling authors and entrepreneurs Gabrielle Bernstein, Melanie Notkin, Peter Shankman, Judy Goss and more.
Humorous, heartfelt, and always honest, The New Single: Finding, Fixing and Falling Back In Love With Yourself After a Break-up or Divorce is a motivational roadmap to rediscovering your power and living your best life and most passionate life now.
With complete candor and humor and understanding as well as the insight of someone who’s gone through it herself, Tamsen will show you how to:
- Starting over 90 days at a time with a self-care plan
- Embrace the person you are today
- Emerge with confidence
- Take better care of yourself, inside and out from your career, home, health, fitness, and finances
- Avoid repeating toxic patterns and making dangerous missteps
Now that you know what to expect, here’s my impression of the book. Obviously I adored it.
The New Single by Tamsen Fadal
When I saw the gorgeous cover, the first thought that came to mind was: What a fabulous role model!
Breaking up in a relationship is always painful and it is natural to want to wallow in self-pity and think of all the ways one could have, should have made it work. The worst part is the unending sense of guilt alternating with anger and hurt. We neglect ourselves, we stop caring about ourselves. It seems like life is not worth living any more.
But hey, it is. Because, you know what? You deserve to be happy.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” E M Forster
The New Single celebrates being single and emphasizes why self-love is so important, as is self-care, no matter what you are going through.
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Even though I am in a good place now, the book helped me come to terms with certain feelings tucked away in the past in my brain. I went through my fair share of painful relationships and didn’t always have someone to talk to. Some of it was easy to get over or work out, some, not so much.
The New Single offers fantastic life lessons and obviously, I thoroughly enjoyed the book and read it more than once.
Very thoughtfully designed, the layout of the book makes an easy read with each chapter starting with a gem of a quote, followed by personal stories and actionable advice from experts, and backed by“A-Team” features and lessons from smart women. The writing is succinct, without mincing words.
What I liked best about the book is this: even though the author’s mission is to help “The New Single” I feel that this book is not just for those who find themselves single after breaking up from a relationship they’ve grown into and possibly took for granted. It has great advice and tips for every woman, and perhaps man, who is…
- contemplating a relationship
- for anyone who is in a relationship – helping them to keep it going
- just out of a relationship and is single and needs to get over it
I even found I could share parts of the book with my 17-year old son – for example – the tips on building self-confidence with powerful action points that would apply to just about anyone.
The language is humorous and the chapter titles are witty. The author packs in nuggets of wisdom in short sweet sentences throughout the book.
The bottom line is, no matter how bad you are feeling now you can recover from heartbreak, rebuild your confidence, and come back better than ever!
The book teaches you to focus on self – after all, you are responsible for your own happiness. It is so important to be at ease with oneself before interacting with others.
One of the highlights of the book, for me, is the advice about soul suckers.
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The book focuses on self-development that includes mental, emotional and physical care.
The author also offers the following valuable info:
- Hair tips
- instant ways to feel good
- tips to choose happiness
- how to move forward when you’ve broken up because dealing with hurt feelings is never easy
- nutrition guide – she even helps you plan your pantry – emphasizing on the importance of eating well, eating healthy with yummy recipes.
- tips for reframing attitude about food
- diet tips, juicing tips, foods to eat, foods to avoid
- what healthy food you should eat and why
- dating advice
- body language tips
- make up tips
- finance advice – something most heartbroken people won’t even think of
- and much more
Best part is, she doesn’t just tell you what to do, but exactly how to do it and why.
When you are recovering from a breakup, it makes sense to make an appointment with yourself. Not sure how to plan a date with yourself? Tamsen offers plenty of how-to ideas.
She highlights the importance of falling back in love with yourself and explains how to create the environment that empowers you and make your space your own. It is natural to drown in misery and unexpected tears every time a memory is triggered. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
I especially like the “A-Team” feature from Andrew Mellen author of the fantastic book “Unstuff your life” In “The New Single” he discusses how clutter in the home affects clutter in your head or “emotional clutter”.
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I loved “The New Single Rules” which I think everyone of dating age should read and practice!
Tamsen covers all the sticky questions one might encounter as the new single – with answers. She also discusses cyber dating/online dating with advice on how to create an online profile with dos and don’ts. She wraps up the book with Q&A with sensitive yet hard-hitting answers, work out logs for the New Single and Yoga tips.
To summarize, the book is everything you’d want in a close friend who has your best interests at heart, no matter what.
I’d call it a holistic guide for all-round wellness, to be at peace with yourself, love yourself. It is a blueprint for the good life, divorce or no divorce.
If you are going through a disappointment in life or a tough phase after facing failure and want a fresh start in life, this book is for you.
When you go through a tough time, you need to feel good – this book makes you feel good.
Call this your relationship bible or guide to self-development and happiness. Read it thoroughly and read it often. You’ll cherish the book!
What can I say? I loved the book. And can’t wait to read the author’s other work.
And now, of course you want to know more about the gorgeous author.
Tamsen Fadal is a 4-time Emmy award-winning journalist, producer, author, and entrepreneur who has interviewed Presidents, power-players, and newsmakers from across the globe. Tamsen is the PIX11 Anchor of the 5pm and 10pm news at PIX11, Tribune’s flagship station in New York City.
Tamsen has co-authored the self-help books, Why Hasn’t He Called? (McGraw Hill); Why Hasn’t He Proposed? (McGraw Hill) and Don’t Date Dumb. Her new motivational book, The New Single, May 2015, St. Martin’s Press, is a guide to empowerment after a big life change such as a breakup or divorce. She has appeared nationally on The Talk, The Today Show, Good Morning America, Lifetime, and A&E, just to name a few. She is a contributor to The Huffington Post, SheKnows, Daily Worth HealthStyleNY and EmpowHer. Tamsen’s writings have been featured in publications including Elle Magazine, Moves Magazine, Complete Woman, and the New York Times. Meet @tamsenfadal on Twitter
When you read the book I’d love to know what you think!
Buy The New Single on Amazon (Affiliate link)
Paperback: 320 pages
Publisher: St. Martin’s Griffin (June 2, 2015)