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What the parenting books won’t teach you

What the parenting books wont teach you . Vidya Sury

Parenting is like a roller coaster ride – exciting, adventurous, fun punctuated with a healthy dose of nervousness. It is demanding, stressful and challenging. Most of us secretly worry about whether we’ll make a good parent the moment we start the countdown to the day we’ll bring our precious one home and later, get so busy being one that there is no time to even think! And then, there’s the advice pouring in from every soul you meet about how (not) to do everything!

I realized early on that trying to be the perfect parent is quite like going after the Holy Grail and we would do well to remember that just as parents strive to bring up good children, children also constantly strive to bring up good parents. Truth!

I enjoyed writing this guest post at the World Of Moms website titled:

20 parenting rules that the books won’t tell you.

Here’s the thing. Being a mom or dad is undoubtedly a rewarding experience and to ensure that we do the right thing, most of the time, anyway, it is only natural to dig into parenting books for wisdom and tips.

However, life rarely happens by the book and parenting is no exception. We often end up reacting by the seat of our pants and have to rely more on instinct than anything else. And about a 100 times a day, we wonder, “Why did no one warn me of this?”

Here are 20 parenting rules that the books won’t tell you.

  1. You will read parenting articles that tell you what you should and shouldn’t do. For example, staying at home with your child is the right thing to do. If you feel guilty about having to go to work, your child will quickly pick up on this and manipulate you. So take advice with a generous pinch of salt. Yes, the advice will pour in, along with criticism. Let your child know you are on her side by thanking the giver and letting it go.

  2. Parenting styles are all very well. They’re just a reference point. They simply help you redefine your own role as a parent, so don’t fall into the “style” trap. The phrase perfect parent is a matter of perspective. 

Continue reading the post here: 20 Parenting Rules You Are Unlikely To Read In Books!

I’d love to know what you think – and your comments, even more!

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3 Comments

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    Eli
    January 20, 2016 at 11:34 pm

    Hahahaha, dear Vidya – I could absolutely relate to most of those pointers:-) ! Very funny read – Yup – wear white—- good luck with that. hahaha. And being suspicious if its quiet for too long. Oh yeah! And its ok to cry….:-) Now the small babies are almost adults – every age has its charm, but they are always our babies. ..
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    Birgit
    January 21, 2016 at 1:25 am

    I am not a parent, unless you call furbabies being a parent:), I read what you wrote and it was entertaining. I wish more parents said No and truly meant it. Often they say no but don’t stick to it. My mom never made empty threats…she meant them! We found out the hard way:) I also wish most parents didn’t overspend on their 1yr old or 2…or 3-kids won’t remember. Great write up!

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    Parul
    January 21, 2016 at 4:13 pm

    Such sweet tips you got there. I am sure parents would have agreed 🙂 🙂
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