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Of wedding anniversaries, strollers and life

blessed to live through two decades with my best friend

Yesterday was our twentieth wedding anniversary. Yes, we missed our son, who’s away at college. It was a working day and both of us had our long to-do lists, but my husband, being the nice person he is, returned home earlier than usual so we could spend the time together. So yes, we were working, but it was nice to have each other around. We agreed to take a coffee break at 4.30.

As we savored our cups of coffee, we naturally reminisced about life over the years. And of course, inevitably, about our eventful wedding. This was followed by pleasant thoughts about our trip to the Northeast and the urge to look at those photos we clicked. Here’s one of us—my favorite—from our trip to Kaziranga national park.

Of wedding anniversaries, strollers and life

Soon after we returned, by the end of March, I discovered I was pregnant and our joy knew no bounds. Of course we wanted to rush out and buy all kinds of stuff for the baby we were going to welcome into our lives, but some unexpected travel plans postponed that. We also decided that my Mom should come live with us, which meant winding up house in the city I used to live in.

We strolled down memory lane, recalling all the happy times we had had together when my Mom was with us, and how life had changed after she passed away on Feb 8, 2010. This has become a bit of a ritual for us, because her death anniversary is the day before our wedding anniversary.  Still, we consider ourselves lucky to have so many precious memories to gloat over.

I always feel grateful when I think about how, even though we are quite different from each other, we do have some solid things in common. Our love for simplicity, P G Wodehouse, Columbo, and our impatience with the same things.

After our break, we got back to work. As I tried to force my mind back to the present, I saw an email from our son. He had written a poem for us. And of course I cried my eyes out. I couldn’t help thinking how our little boy had changed. So mature, so wise.  For a moment, I wanted to sulk a bit as I read his loving email. Mommy’s heart, no? The wish-you-were-here syndrome. What to do?

I thought I’d extend my break to quickly look at some old photo albums. And came across a photo of his stroller, which I clicked when I gave it away in 2011, to a friend who was having a baby.

Of wedding anniversaries, strollers and life

Never mind the mess around it. I still laugh at the never-used potty!

Sigh.

I knew had to get back to work, but thought I’d see just one more album.  It is funny how I have photos of so many babies in the family, and many of them in strollers.

But I have to say, that my favorite stroller is the one we bought for our son. It was the first thing we bought him. I still remember the pretty shop filled with toys and gear. Oh we squabbled over the color—there were only two—blue and red—and red won. In fact, come to think of it, we hardly bought anything blue for our boy.

And the memories flooded in again.

Of those days when we loved to stroll all over our campus, and on the way back, finish our veggie shopping and put our bags in the space below.

Of the days when he refused to sit in it, preferring to walk unsteadily, holding it.

Of the days when he loved to ride in the supermarket trolley rather than his stroller, which we usually filled with our shopping bags. Talk about multi-tasking!

Of the days when he loved to fill it up at home and push it around the house, conjuring up all sorts of games.

Of the time when we used it to take stuff from one room to another in the house, simply because it had wheels.

Just looking at the picture took me all the way back to nostalgia town. Sometimes I really wonder where the years went—and then I smile at the milestones we have crossed together, and feel blessed. We’ve had our ups and downs, but we’ve managed to laugh through it all. Also, he takes care of the laundry at home. Enough said.

Happy twentieth wedding anniversary to us!

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    Angel Stew & Devil's Brew
    February 10, 2017 at 5:45 pm

    Happy Anniversary Vidya! What a beautiful couple you are and what a beautiful post. I was getting all teary eyed strolling down memory lane with you and then, “He also takes care of the laundry,” made me laugh out loud. 😀 Here’s to 20 more years! – PS. I’ll say that again 20 years after that. 🙂

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    Cathy Graham
    February 10, 2017 at 5:49 pm

    Happy Anniversary! What a lovely heartwarming post full of warm memories and love. I always feel so good after reading your posts. Glad you and the hubs had such a nice day together celebrating your special day.
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    Parul Thakur
    February 10, 2017 at 7:13 pm

    What a heart warming post, Vidya. Hugs and love.
    I also love looking at old pictures and talking about the memories we have made together. It’s a joy and I also feel where has all the time gone, it is heartening to know that loved ones have supported us in all thick and thin. Wishing Sury and you lots of love and togetherness in many many decades to come.
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    Rachna Parmar
    February 10, 2017 at 7:20 pm

    Happy Anniversary, Vidya. Absolutely loved the pic you shared. And the memories too. I had a stroller too that lasted a long time. Used it for the younger son too and then passed it in to a friend. I can also spend hours with albums. Stay blessed both of you.
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    Shilpa Garg
    February 10, 2017 at 8:04 pm

    Happy Anniversary, Vidya. This is such a heartwarming post, full of love and beautiful memories. Wishing you lots and lots of happy and lovely times. BTW, that’s a lovely pic of you two and it’s the first pic that I have seen of your hubby 🙂
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    FoundInFolsom
    February 10, 2017 at 8:05 pm

    A very Happy Anniversary, Vidya. Wishing you a life long of happiness together. 🙂 It will be our 15th this year. Man…I can’t believe I am that old already :P. The stroller looks cute. How sometimes one picture brings back so many tons of memories, right?

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      Vidya Sury
      February 10, 2017 at 8:38 pm

      I know, right? Heheh. I love my memories time, Latha. As for the old… hehehe. Just a number, surely? Happy anniv to you in advance! Hugs! Thank you for coming by! It makes me feel so special!
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    Lata Sunil
    February 11, 2017 at 8:55 am

    Happy Anniversary Vidya..so many moments make a Happy life. We will hit 19th year soon and I can imagine how it has been.

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    Anindya Sundar Basu
    February 11, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Happy 20th Vidya. So simple and heart touching post . Loved this . Wishing you many many more.

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    Rajagopal
    February 11, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    Happy anniversary, Vidya. May your years of togetherness ahead be as happy and fulfilling…
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    Wendy M Anderson
    February 11, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    A milestone anniversary deserves time spent in sentimental contemplation. And your choice of the stroller sent me into a backwards spin too… my son’s was a gift from a dear friend and it seems to have lived a similar life to your son’s. Thank you for sharing this sweet memory. I enjoyed it very much.

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    Jemima Pett
    February 11, 2017 at 8:50 pm

    Happy anniversary, Vidya to you both. I’m blessed to have met you online. Wishing you continued happiness and strength through more difficult times <3
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      Vidya Sury
      February 12, 2017 at 10:46 am

      Thank you Jemima! I too am blessed that we’re connected! Hugs! What fun that year was, to be on the same team!

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    Kaarina
    February 12, 2017 at 1:19 am

    Happy anniversary to you! Wishing you well and sending smiles, hugs and wishes for the next 20+ years your way 🙂 xo

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      Vidya Sury
      February 12, 2017 at 10:45 am

      Thank you so much Kaarina! Hugs!

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    Birgit
    February 12, 2017 at 9:35 am

    Happy belated anniversary! It is so nice to remember the times when one first met and the wedding day. Even though I am divorced, I still think very fondly of my wedding. I’m now with my hubby for 10 1/2 years and it is wonderful. We can never choose the day we pass but maybe this means your mom always looks over both of you. Your son is a sweetheart and I think it’s wonderful that he wrote you a poem

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    Debbie D.
    February 15, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    Happy Belated Anniversary to a beautiful couple! You have such wonderful memories. Thanks for sharing them with us.
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    Asha
    February 20, 2017 at 10:54 pm

    Happy 20th Vidya ! Here’s wishing many more happy anniversaries !

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      Vidya Sury
      February 21, 2017 at 6:05 pm

      Thank you so much, Asha! 🙂

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