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Is your child safe when you see him/ her off in your car, unaccompanied?

Family safety: Is your child safe when you see him/ her off in your car, unaccompanied?

“I just sent my daughter off unaccompanied in my car. Will she be safe?”

“My mother is elderly and not always lucid. Will my driver reach her safely at my brother’s?”

“My driver has gone to pick my son up. They should have been back by now. Where are they?”

How safe is your family when you wave them goodbye after they get into a car?

This is one of the top most questions  in almost every parent’s mind.

For every parent, family safety is supreme, especially when it comes to young children and elderly parents. You wish you could be with them, always protecting them from danger. You wish you could keep a remote eye on them from the second you see the car pulling away, until the moment they arrive at their destination.

“I wish I could keep an eye on them”

With infants, you use baby monitors to keep track of them even if you hire a nanny. Then once they start school, you or someone you trust accompanies them to and fro. But as they grow up and become more independent, it becomes much harder to always keep track and you become that parent who’s constantly looking at the watch and wondering whether your child is safe.

Even if you send your teen out with your own chauffeured car, how safe is she? What if she gets into bad company and you come to know only when it’s too late?

It is a parent’s inbuilt tendency to worry!

Whether it is sending your child or aged parent out, unchaperoned, in a chauffeur driven car, you can’t help holding your breath until you know that they’ve reached their destination, safe. And I am willing to bet you prefer to video call them to know.

Driver woes – what’s the solution?

Last month, one of our friends visited. In the course of conversation, she mentioned that she was looking for a reliable driver who could drop her kids to school and pick them up on time, and then also ferry them to their classes afterwards.

Big responsibility to hand over to someone, right? But she had a hectic job and so did her husband. How to find a trustworthy driver who was honest and punctual? Word of mouth usually works best in these cases. However, at the end of the day, only time will tell. She jokingly mentioned that she wished she could put a GPS tracker on her kids. We laughed. Later, I couldn’t help thinking that it was probably a good idea!

Another friend mentioned how his disgruntled driver, bugged over some minor issue, took off with his car for the entire day, turning up only late at night and acting arrogant about what he did. Unsurprisingly now, they too are looking for a new driver.

And then there are these news about child molestation, driver misbehavior, the elderly being hurt, sexual assault on women, and substance abuse. No wonder it is terrifying to send someone off alone in a car with a driver not being able to keep track of what’s happening inside the car.

There’s this friend who has a really nice driver,  well-liked by the entire family. But the  thing they just can’t control is the fuel pilferage. They are hesitant to let him go because, other than this lousy habit, he’s a very good driver. How long can this go on for, though?

I have to confess that I would think twice before letting my child go alone anywhere with a driver. My cousin has made it a policy to accompany her kid everywhere—whether it is going to tuition classes, sports practice, party at a friend’s, etc.

Family safety – what parents expect

Let’s look at what a parent would expect in terms of family safety: keeping their child and elderly parents safe, when they depend on a car with a driver.

– that their child should go to school/class/friends’ outing and come back safe.

– that when their aged parent(s) has to go somewhere, they must be transported with kindness and brought back safe.

– that the child should be honest and not get into substance abuse.

– that the child should not be trapped by strangers.

– that he/she should not become the victim of any kind of abuse or bullying.

– that the driver should be well-behaved, honest and do her/his job sincerely without misusing the car or over speeding or showing road rage.

And more—depending on the situation.

What if there was a device to keep family safe?

What if there was a way to keep one’s family, particularly children and the elderly safe when they travel alone with their chauffeurs and drivers? What if there was  a way to watch them in real time with alerts on route deviation? Get real time updates from the moment they leave until they reach? This would also prevent drivers from tampering with the device or other “out-of-line” behavior as they will be aware that they’re being watched.

Imagine breathing peacefully knowing your loved ones are safe and happy.

Isn’t that what we really want at the end of the day? Family safety?

What do you think?

What do you do to keep your family safe?

Family Safety - Is your child safe when you see him/ her off in your car, unaccompanied?

Family safety first!

12 Comments

  • Reply
    Julie
    September 2, 2019 at 1:40 pm

    I worry about my children all the time when they are not with me. I think this is every parents greatest concern and all we can do is our best to ensure that our children are safe.

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    Janice sisemore
    September 3, 2019 at 1:55 am

    When your children are young we always worry if they are safe or not. Of course if we worry even if they are grown. I try not to think about with my daughter sine she lives far from me.

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    Felicia Austin
    September 3, 2019 at 8:38 am

    The only place my children go without me is school and to a friends’ house. I just started letting them walk to school by themselves. We live on base and close to school so it’s not far..but I always had that fear of someone trying to pick them up. Even when they go to a friends’ house they still have to let me know if they go anywhere with the friend (mall, store, anywhere else) because I worry constantly about them. Even if I know the parent, which I have to meet them first before they go to their house. Yes, I’m that parent lol. My kids who are 10 and almost 13 thinks I’m too strict but it’s just because I want to protect them. I don’t know what I’m going to do when they go off to college haha. They may have to face time me every day lol.

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    Iuliya
    September 3, 2019 at 5:48 pm

    Definitely a legitimate concern. You never know what might happen

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    Lynne Huysamen
    September 3, 2019 at 8:33 pm

    Vidya this is such a huge worry! As a general rule my children are with me, with my husband or with our parents. I don’t let anyone else drive my kids anywhere and I go with my kids everywhere. The exception is when they are at school.

    They are still young – 5 and 7 years old. Last week my daughter was going on a school day trip to the closest big town in the school bus. The day before she left I found out that a school bus in another town crashed on a similar day trip and 2 children died! And it was the same chain of private school. My heart goes out to those parents.

    I always worry when they go on a school trip because I feel so out of control… but at some stage parents have to let go the control.

    So we let my daughter go even though I spent the whole day in a twist!

  • Reply
    Kez
    September 3, 2019 at 9:28 pm

    I don’t have any children, so I don’t have to worry about this!

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    Patrice
    September 4, 2019 at 2:26 am

    Yes, this is always a worry with children. Some good tips here!

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    Nomads RTW
    September 4, 2019 at 2:57 am

    As Kez mentioned before, so far we don’t have any kids so is one thing less to worry for now, but at some point, we’ll need to know what’s best
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    Eric Rafael Gamble
    September 4, 2019 at 4:27 am

    We are not parents yet but I can only imagine how one would feel when their child is riding unaccompanied by a trusted family member. Perhaps that is why when we travel we love using apps like Uber because it allows others to track and follow the riders travels if the rider sets the app to follow.
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    Tricia Snow
    September 4, 2019 at 8:58 am

    When I was a kid I went everywhere alone and my parents had no idea where the kids were. I had to raise my children differently. So much has changed. Great tips!

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    Jenny Bhatia
    September 4, 2019 at 3:55 pm

    I remember, too, being a kid and walking to the bus stop and a friends house. Often we hung around in the neighborhood until we were hungry. True story. We cannot do this anymore, unfortunately. My kids are teens, and I am just now starting to leave them alone at home. It is rare when I need help driving them somewhere, luckily they have classmates who live in the neighborhood with reliable parents who can help out when needed on those rare occasions. I am not sure what the answer is.
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    Teresa
    September 8, 2019 at 11:37 pm

    Yes, this is always a worry with children. Thank you very much! It is very interesting and useful article!! I think I can use some tips from this article in future! thanks again!!

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