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Lessons Learned

by Vidya Sury September 15, 2014 6 comments
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Let me take stock of what’s up with my life right now and share some lessons learned.

The death of two close family members – I told you about my aunt who passed away unexpectedly. Two days later, my cousin committed suicide. He was in his 30s, married a couple of years ago, divorced soon after and got into deep depression. And last week, he decided to end his life. The family is naturally devastated and feeling embarrassed to announce his death as suicide. Nobody can even begin to imagine how they are feeling right now as they perform the final rites.

This particular cousin’s family was one of our favorites in our rather large family.  Right from my grandmother’s time, who was best friends with her sister-in-law, the whole family has been close-knit in spite of all the crap life has thrown at them. Long story and another post.

For now, I am trying to deal with the sadness that seems to settled on us, but naturally.

I am trying to take one thing at a time, which means:

  • My crashed computer – rather than fret over losing data, I simply decided to fast track its recovery by reformatting and reinstalling the OS.
  • My tummy bug – taking steps to heal
  • Work piling up – one thing at a time, of course.

As I set about resolving these, a step at a time, here are some…

Lessons learned:

  • Never save anything on the C drive. Instead, add a shortcut to another drive on the desktop and save things there. That’s a great tip, people!
  • Keep all installation discs easily accessible in a box instead of searching in various places.
  • Take screenshots of file folders and program files so you know what you need – everything is available online, but only if you know what you want
  • Use free cloud storage solutions like Dropbox, SugarSync, Google Drive and plenty more. Then you can access your stuff from anywhere.
  • Whichever browser you use – Firefox or Chrome – use the “Sync” feature which you can access from that top right corner. When you do that, you can safely reinstall your browser and restore all your bookmarks and other saved stuff. This is a big thing if you tend to have a lot of plugins, extensions and bookmarks
  • Reach out to community – the support is simply awesome. Even if they cannot directly help, they make you feel positive and believe everything is possible. Oh, and they make you feel loved.

Saved the best for last there, eh!!

And now, to choose a quote and write a 100 words.

Naturally, being a quote-enthusiast, I had a tough time choosing. I chose three, which completely sync with me. And so as usual, I’ll rebel by splitting my 100 words (or more) with these three:

Being an author is having angels whisper in your ear – and devils, too.
― Graycie Harmon

 Writing opens up the opportunity to be multiple personalities. I feel a sense of liberation exploring different genres and media. I enjoy writing about life experiences, sad stories, love stories, erotica, poetry and more. What a blessing to write for a living now! Those angels and demons keep me stimulated and smiling as I connect with words.

Write from the soul, not from some notion about what you think the marketplace wants.The market is fickle; the soul is eternal’.
― Jeffrey Carver

Enough said? As a blogger and a writer – I do not stress over recognition or traffic or comment statistics. I appreciate any that come for what they are, a big bonus. My reward is writing. Writing frees my soul and makes me happy.

Write. Publish. Repeat.
Kristine Kathryn Rusch

Enough said!

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subbu thatha September 16, 2014 at 11:41 am

Verily, the market for which so many of us choose to write is fickle . You choose to write for the soul, and that is eternal indeed.

All the Best.

subbu thatha

Vidya Sury September 16, 2014 at 11:44 am

Thank you Thatha! Happy to see you here!
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Proactive Indian September 16, 2014 at 1:35 pm

I hope your cousin’s family recovers from this trauma soon.

The Jeffrey Carver quote is great! I try to practise it.
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obsessivemom September 16, 2014 at 8:02 pm

Very sorry to hear about your loss Vidya. From knowing someone very close to me who’s been fighting depression for the past two years I know what a toll it takes. I love the way you manage to put a positive spin to your post despite all odds. Here’s to a bug free life always – stomach bugs and computer bugs.
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Sebastian Aiden Daniels September 18, 2014 at 11:07 pm

I am sending positive vibes your way right now. It sounds like an extremely tough time in your family. Thank you for sharing your struggles.

On the other side, you have inspired me to look into google drive because I don’t have most of my stuff on my computer saved anywhere.
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earthandink September 20, 2014 at 2:23 am

I am so sorry for your losses. I know something of being the survivor of the sort of loss as your cousin. In the end, I think, they lose a battle that we wish with all of our hearts they hadn’t lost.

My thoughts with your family and with you as you go through this time.
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