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6 proven steps to instant happiness

6 proven steps to instant happiness

I’ll bet that almost each one of you went into reflection mode in the last week of December, 2016 to take stock of the year gone by and contemplated—maybe even evaluated your lives to see if the year had lived up to your expectations.

Did it?

I know it is not the same for everyone—Into each life must some rain fall; but it is always good to look within and be honest about the things you’re mad at, the things that made you feel down and annoyed.

However.

Dwelling on the past negative (sounds tense, eh?) for longer than necessary will not serve us in any way. It is best to acknowledge it, look at it only as long as it takes to pick out any worthwhile lessons, and move on. Who knows what 2017 may bring?

Regardless of whether things change in the New Year or not, how about using this as an opportunity to be the change—flip over the sadness and get creative about making things better. You know what they say

“. . . grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.”

Happiness Vidya Sury

So, how can we create happiness on a regular basis? You know I believe happiness is an inside job, and the longer I live the more convinced I am that it doesn’t really take much to make us happy.

Here are six things I am practising to maintain my happiness quotient, in no particular order. Try one, try two, or try them all.

Less social media

The WWW is the best thing that happened to me and has connected me with some fabulous folks. I’d be the last person to say disconnect from social media. However, it is hard to avoid the noise overload, and this can make us disconnect from our inner selves. I’ve become quite conscious of this and have been practising shutting it out—from my phone, as well. I have been doing the following instead:

  • Reading a lot of wonderful books
  • Walking regularly
  • Traveling
  • Cooking
  • Spending time with friends and neighbors

No wires attached, but still connected. With life.

Spa day at home

I read an article titled Hot bath beats cycling for lowering blood sugar levels for type 2 diabetics and cannot think of a better way to relax, really. There’s nothing like a leisurely bath to get your life back in perspective—at least I think so. Preceded by an oil massage, it can be absolutely pleasurable. Add your favorite soap, perhaps a scented candle or two, some essential oils and your long warm bath can be just the thing to set the tone for your week/month. If you have a bathtub, cool. I prefer running water. Can’t make the long bath? Soak your feet in lukewarm water besides having a shower. Let the water heal and nurture you. Then give those feet a nice scrub.

Laughter

Laughter is the best medicine. And you need no prescription! Spend time with your BFFs and funny friends with a good sense of humor or just catch your favorite comedy shows.   Talk about crazy stuff and laugh your lungs out! Laugh till those tears roll down your cheeks!

Play hooky

Ditch the chores. Just take a couple of days off where you skip household chores, such as doing the dishes or laundry. Free yourself! For a change, use an online laundry service that offers doorstep service—picks up and drops off your clothes. Or, be like me. Get the spouse to take charge of household chores and laundry for a couple of days while you chill doing what makes you happy! Read, listen to music, dance, write, or just do nothing.

Dress like a star

This is a very important tip, at least for me. I know many people telecommute these days, like I do. I’ve heard some say that one of the benefits of working from home is being able to do it in your PJs. So maybe once in a while that’s okay, but I can endorse that dressing to work, even if it is to the dining table at home, to your “workspace” can make all the difference to your mood, and focus. Wear makeup if you like. Dress smart. Accessorize. Looking good makes you feel much, much better.

Enjoy the present moment 

Slow down, once in a while. Take time to smell the flowers. Focus your attention on what you are doing—whether it is eating, reading, having a cup of coffee or just enjoying the sunshine. Take a moment to experience what you are feeling. The warmth of the coffee cup in your hands? The sunshine warming your skin? The texture and flavor of what you are eating? Do it. You will feel calmer and ready to smile.

Yes, there’s exercise, meditation, practising gratitude, call a friend, do something for someone, try something new, sing, and so on and so forth. But hey, nothing like starting with self-care first, no?

Would you agree that these are easy ways to lift your spirits, and raise your happiness levels this year? Can you add to this?

I want to know what you think in the comments. ♥

(Have you joined the December Gratitude Circle? Write your post and add your link: Linky is open here till Jan 15)

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19 Comments

  • Reply
    Kala Ravi
    January 5, 2017 at 5:31 pm

    A bright New Year it is and your cheerful post is here to add that extra sparkle to it! I totally agree to all the wonderful points you’ve shared. I am consciously spending less time on social media and trying to be more regulated. I totally vouch for the chore-delegation and the hot water baths. Laugh I need to do more and enjoy the present moment even more. Taking away with me your wise words and a gentle reminder that all izz well with the world. Love and warm wishes for a wonderful 2017.
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    Rachna
    January 5, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    Excellent tips there, Vidya. I concur with each one. The first one especially is something I am doing actively. Laughter, playing with Coco, listening to music, reading a good book, cooking up a storm, going for a walk all help me. 🙂

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    Damyanti
    January 5, 2017 at 6:10 pm

    Love the tip on playing hooky: I do it all the time 😉

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    Lori Gosselin
    January 5, 2017 at 7:11 pm

    Hi Vidya and Happy 2017! You and I are both looking ahead to this new year with optimism–and plans! Your prescription for happiness, when added to my intentions (some already do overlap) constitutes a well-balanced life plan 🙂 My intention is to live life and not waste it – to do what I came here to do. This lines up with your “less social media” in a way, but more like less screen time – you know; wasting time watching movies online or on a TV! (remember those!?)

    I think the important thing is to have a well-balanced plan and then to execute it. I published mine today at LFI. It’ll be an easy one to stay with because it’s aligned with my goals and fits my lifestyle. I reward and motivate myself notations and symbols in my calendars. It makes it fun!

    Nice to see you again!
    Lori

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      Vidya Sury
      January 8, 2017 at 12:54 am

      Dear Lori! Great to see you and read your comment! Yes, like you, I have a written plan, too, with a list of fun rewards! I want to make 2017 as meaningful as I possibly can. But you know, I love watching movies and TV and have become a sort of expert at working with it in the background. And I enjoy watching shows with Sury–love the peaceful togetherness. I also believe in a plan that works without undue pressure! As for optimism, always! Hugs! Off to the porch now!
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    Ramya
    January 5, 2017 at 9:09 pm

    I want to have luxurious spa bath though it’s difficult with my 2 year old. He will be banging the door and crying in the middle ? ofcourse, talking to friends make me laugh and being free from daily chores is always relaxing.

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    Birgit
    January 6, 2017 at 5:52 pm

    I love what you wrote here Vidya, in fact, I was looking forward to your post like this because you bring reality back in a positive manner. We are actually surrounded by many negative things…deaths, fires, debt, Trump, Putin, post holiday blahs, bad weather etc…. and we have to find a way to balance all this negativity and you give such excellent advice especially turning things off. I would add music to this and not head banging or rap music which can also be negative but music that is calming like light classics, meditative music, dance music so we can dance while we dust! I believe in sitting back reading or watching a good movie.
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    Rajlakshmi
    January 6, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    These are excellent ways to brighten up a day… I specially loved the dressing up part 😀 It works everytime… even applying some make up does that 😀 I really need to work on ‘less social media’ part.
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    Menaka Bharathi
    January 6, 2017 at 8:10 pm

    I love all the pointers here Vidhya Ji! I am one person for the do nothing – spa day! I always let Saturdays be a me time! I also practice gratitude. The less social media is also something everybody would need nowadays.
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    C. Lee McKenzie
    January 6, 2017 at 11:04 pm

    I’ve already cut my social media a lot. Of course, my book sales immediately reflected that cut, but I’m smiling more, Vidya!

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    ARPITA
    January 7, 2017 at 3:14 am

    Vidya, your posts are so awe-inspiring. I just love the joy which peeks out of the posts, one after another. These are some wonderful tips, and I am aligned with you on Spa day at home, and Dress like a star. I am a firm believer of these two. 🙂 Keep writing girl!

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    Lisa Pomerantz
    January 7, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Excellent wayt to turn that frown upside down… When I hear the Mrs. laugh, its magical. When I make her laugh, that is the best. Thanks for reminding us of the small things that are easy to get to and make a big impact! Big hugs to you!
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    Mark Tong
    January 10, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    Lovely ideas Vidya – I’m up for all of them – laughter, play hookey, smell the flowers – I’m off to do all three at once:)

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      Vidya Sury
      January 13, 2017 at 11:49 am

      Right now hookey is my keyword 😛 Hugs Mark! Hope 2017 got off on a fabulous start! <3

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    Darla M Sands
    January 11, 2017 at 7:56 pm

    I have to share how I actually stop at the floral shop inside my favorite grocery store and smell the carnations. ~grin~ You make great points!
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      Vidya Sury
      January 13, 2017 at 11:50 am

      You know Darla, I could actually picture you doing that! Hug!

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    Becky, Cuddle Fairy
    January 16, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    I totally agree with you here & love all of the tips especially playing hooky. I think if we don’t take some time to chill out, our body makes us by getting hurt or sick. So why not take the time to relax & stay healthy too! I’m so glad you came back to join #candidcuddles in 2017 & hope you will pop back again soon xx
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    Teju
    January 18, 2017 at 9:11 am

    Nice tips.. hard to follow everything from day one. But surely it will follow day by day..
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      Vidya Sury
      January 18, 2017 at 9:59 am

      Teju, you don’t have to follow everything. Just one per week can make a big difference. Or even once in a while. 🙂 Thank you for coming by
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