Summer vacations during my school days always meant traveling to meet relatives, or having house guests, and invariably attending a wedding or two. It meant happy times with cousins, aunts and uncles and generally having a good time, then coming back home and talking about it for the next few weeks.
I remember how exciting it was to watch the folks at home, discussing ticket bookings, shopping for “grand” clothes for the wedding, and fulfilling wish lists for those we were visiting or receiving. And all the while trying to juggle that budget.
In the bride or groom’s family, a different kind of excitement would be in the air.
Fantasizing, planning, dreaming, and of course splurging well past the budget. While the parents tried to achieve the Holy Grail of finding the balance between their purses vs. making everyone happy, the bride and groom to be would have taken up residence on their respective Cloud 9s, enveloped by the joy of getting married to their soulmates, or the ideal partner chosen for them by their folks.
Oh yes, the more they got to know each other and realized that it was the start of a wonderful relationship, wish lists would grow, dreams would look achievable, and just about anything would seem possible.
If the parents were aware of their secret fantasies, they would try their best-est to make them happen, so what if they had to jump through hoops to meet the costs. After all, for most people wedding is a once in a lifetime joyous event, and it makes sense to make it memorable by having the sort of event one always dreamed of.
In the midst of all this, as I grew up, I wondered if I’d have any special wishes on my wedding day.
When I did decide to get married, the first thing my husband-to-be said was “NO showy wedding. No inviting the whole world. Let’s just have a quiet ceremony at the registrar’s office with just a couple of witnesses from the family, then maybe have a small get-together for our closest friends.”
Of course, this stymied my Mom, who had been saving up for a decent 2-day wedding that involved inviting family and friends in a wedding hall. Sury would have none of it, least of all the long ceremony that is a big part of the wedding. He said, why not donate the money we wanted to spend to charity. I love that man!
Anyway, what with one thing and another, we finally zero-ed down to an Arya Samaj wedding, involving a super-short ceremony, where one is allowed six guests. My uncles and aunts insisted on a wedding reception. After all, am I not their favorite niece?
Well, here’s what finally happened.
- We booked a wedding hall in the last minute because our guest list grew and grew.
- We brought the Arya Samaj priest to the hall for the 40 minute ceremony, tremendously enjoyed by the 300-odd people present.
- My Mom had sensibly arranged catering for 350 people, but in the end, almost 700 showed up—and we woke up to the true definition of “family and friends”. Luckily, our caterer had another wedding two days later, so provisions were not an issue.
- I did not go shopping for my wedding in the traditional sense. I bought one saree to get married in, because I fancied wearing a 9-yard version, shocking surprising everyone.
- We had our caterer cook extra food and donated it to the welfare homes around our area.
- We made donations to various charities, and continue to do so, as gratitude for the life we are blessed with.
In a sense, I was fortunate that we had enough savings to manage the type of wedding we had and fulfill our special wedding wish—basically because both of us had been working for over a decade.
But the situation was very different for my cousin and namesake, who was getting married two days later. Her parents were arranging her wedding with all the traditional trappings, trousseau, and special honeymoon–the works. And I know they had to take a loan to make all her fantasies come true. I also know they were super-cheerful about it, because who doesn’t want their child to be happy on her special day?
If both bride and groom are employed, this becomes a little easier on the parents. My friend, who was marrying her sweetheart, had a good job when she got married, and her partner and she did the smart thing by sharing and discussing their dreams and special wishes. Together, they saved, budgeted, and made sure their dreams came true. I know they took a loan to go away together on an exotic honeymoon and came back deliriously happy. Sometimes I think it set the tone for the wonderful life they have together, now blessed with a child.
I know for some, it might seem crazy to begin life together with a loan. But if you have a wedding wish, the sooner you make it happen, the better, because when you are young, it is easier to manage those finances than live with that niggling regret all your life.
You are probably wondering: why is fulfilling your special wish at your wedding important?
You can also probably answer that question. For one thing, a wedding is one of the most important life events in the bride’s or groom’s life. Why not make it memorable? In fact, it is a brand new birthday of sorts where two people pledge to honor and cherish each other for the rest of their lives. Why not celebrate this momentous decision?
If it means taking a wedding loan, I say it is worth it. Fulfill that one wedding wish which could be anything from a destination reception, exotic honeymoon, that special piece of jewelry, that fabulous outfit, a candid photoshoot to treasure all your life… anything! Why not make your most special day even more exceptional by making your dreams come true?
Don’t worry about living with the disappointment of not doing it because you were strapped for cash. Unfulfilled wishes can be a bigger burden.
“For of all sad words of tongue or pen, The saddest are these: ‘It might have been!'”
And nobody wants to live with regret the rest of their lives.
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Did you have #OneWeddingWish when you got married?
I’d love to know what it was in the comments!
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Aye,Vids, you know, you and I have such a similar wedding story! Hehehe!
Thank you, Christine!
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Yours is such a sweet and a heart-warming wedding story, Vidya!
Yes, one should never live a life of regrets. Go all out and fulfill your wishes and dreams.
That is such a beautiful wedding that you had! And yes, if one has a wish they must try to fulfill it.
Aww thanks for sharing this, this was so sweet! Had me smiling throughout.
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Aw, I LOVE this love story, Vidya. My youngest is getting married Oct. 3rd while my oldest is preparing for the birth of his second child due Oct. 11. This means I will leave Idaho shortly after my youngest’s wedding to fly 2000 miles back east to see my 4th grandbaby arrive! October is going to be busy for me! I hope my son and future daughter-in-law have a great love story to share. So far, so good. All wishes being met. 🙂
That’s a beautiful wedding story, Vidya. Thanks for sharing it! 🙂
Yes, Hubby and I also took out a loan to pay for our wedding, as our families refused to have anything to do with it. When my parents saw we were going ahead without them, they did agree to attend and in the end, paid for our short, local honeymoon. Even though we started married life in debt, there were no regrets. The reception was memorable and everyone had a great time.
We also needed credit to finance part of our 40th-anniversary dream vacation, as our savings fell a bit short. No regrets there either; it was the trip of a lifetime! As long as you borrow within your limits, there’s nothing wrong in doing so.
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You are absolutely right about that, Debbie! I think borrowing within limits is important and the experience is worth it! I know some of my cousins…somehow in my generation many married late, and didn’t bat an eyelid about taking the loan to fulfill their wish with their partner, unlike our older gen which opted to slog …and then, no longer wanted to do the things they wished for when they were younger. So sad. Hugs!
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Thanks for sharing your sweet wedding story, Vidya. In India weddings are such a big deal, no? Glad to know that Tata Capital has introduced special loans for weddings.
I had to giggle that your quiet wedding for 6 extra people ended up being 700! It shows how many people cared for both of you. You know I am a Credit Counsellor so it is very hard for me to approve taking out a wedding loan. I have seen too many people have a loan they truly could not afford to have which is the biggest problem. Many people do not communicate well, believe what the banks tell them and end up in deep debt. Since it worked out well for you and your friend, I am very glad for both of you:)
Indeed interesting read.
Managing Finances for Dream Wedding of ones Choice.