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by Vidya Sury August 7, 2017 18 comments
Girlfriends Vidya Sury

The old adage goes that “birds of a feather, flock together”.


But if you really look around, you’ll find more examples of peaceful co-existence.

The variety of people we meet right from the time we begin school in the diverse classroom.

How interesting it is to see it proved over and over again that opposites attract!

I fondly think of my closest friends. We are practically like chalk and cheese. (On an aside, we’ve eaten both! Ewwh.)

In some cases we hit it off from the word “go!” but in many others, we did not hit it off right away. Still, as Universe intended it, situations arose that led us to bond–as if to make up for lost time–and all is well.

I like to think of each one of us as part of a jigsaw puzzle–just waiting to fit into each other’s groove, seamlessly.

I feel fortunate to have friends I’ve known for decades–for most of my life–and I am grateful that we are in touch regularly.

Sure, we fight and argue and chew our brains off sometimes, but overall, there’s always the undercurrent of unconditional love–unshakable, permanent and, like a giant hug just waiting to enclose me in its warmth.

The circles of women around us weave invisible nets of love that carry us when we’re weak and sing with us when we are strong. – Sark

So anyway, sometime last year, I came across this beautiful piece about “Girlfriends” in my timeline on Facebook. I connected with Deb, whose page it appeared on, and we had a pleasant conversation. Then I sought her permission to post it here. I was excited when she readily said yes. However, I did not get around to doing it right away.

This morning, I was rummaging through my folders and came across it and immediately felt that warm glow from reading it again and want to share it with you all. It is a lovely passage that speaks to my heart, and speaks about my own girlfriends.

My wish for each one of you is that you have a friend(s) you can share this with.


Girlfriends Breathe It In


by Melody Morgan

As we chart new paths, begin a new journey, or even face life’s decisions on our current path, it becomes so very clear that our circle wraps it’s loving arms around us tighter and tighter. Those who are closest to us, almost instinctively know just what we need. I have noticed this everyday in my new walk. It is a fabulous feeling, just knowing that you have the love and support of those you hold dear to your heart. How do they become so dear to us? The experiences they have weathered with us creates that. I am so very blessed to have that circle around me. This circle can be comprised of both female and male but I can tell you, the women are the most precious.

Women need other women. They always do. It is a special bond. It is like no other. Our circle, our posse, our tribe, our girlfriends. They become more and more important as we grow older. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of our life.

After almost 50 years of living in this world, here is what I have learned:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Love waxes and wanes.
Hearts break.
Careers end.
Jobs come and go.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Men don’t call when they say they will.

BUT, girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out. My friends bless my life! The world wouldn’t be the same without them, and neither would I.

When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

My heart overflows with the joy and happiness my circle brings to me. I am forever grateful that God has blessed me with the incredible women in my circle! I truly could not do it alone!


Breathe it in is Deb’s personal Facebook blog. It’s purpose is to empower with love, inspire through bravery, and heal with the sharing of hearts and lives.

Do you have a circle of (girl)friends?

Do you tell each other how much you love one another, often?

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Bhavya August 8, 2017 at 6:45 am

I do have some girlfriends who mean the world to me. This was a passage that brought warmth to my heart. Thanks Vidya 🙂

Vidya Sury August 8, 2017 at 11:00 pm

Reading that note fills my heart too, Bhavya! I am so glad you have your own circle! It is a gift!
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Shalini August 8, 2017 at 9:39 am

How true! Girlfriends are the support system you need to bring joy on a difficult day and to simply gup-shup. Loved this post, Mam 🙂

Vidya Sury August 8, 2017 at 10:59 pm

I agree! Just thinking about them is such a wonderful feeling, right? Thank you Shalini!
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Sheethal Susan Jacob August 8, 2017 at 12:23 pm

I remember this picture and write up by Deb. Infact I have shared the same then. The support Girlfriends give esp when the whole world is against you, is priceless. Have experienced that and am so grateful that got a few who mean the world to me. Thanks for reminding this again, Vidya. 🙂

Vidya Sury August 8, 2017 at 10:59 pm

How lovely, Sheethal! Thank you for your comment! Stay blessed!
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Galen Pearl August 8, 2017 at 8:02 pm

I love both those paintings, and I love SARK’s writing! I have always wanted that–a close knit circle of girlfriends. I do have several close girlfriends, but we seem to have more one on one friendships, with each of them moving in different circles. So while I am blessed with good friends, and I treasure them, it would be nice to have a small circle where we are all friends with each other.

Vidya Sury August 8, 2017 at 9:59 pm

Galen! First, a big warm hug! Always so happy to see you here. You couldn’t have put it more perfectly! In fact, this post was a result of feeling exactly that way! It seemed like there was a time when the circle was a close one, but now, with most of us getting married and having families, it is…different. Of course we are close friends, but it isn’t exactly the same. Still, I am grateful for what I have. And secretly wish we could go back to being the way it was. With relationships going more digital than ever, it is becoming tougher to meet face to face and spend time together. Sigh.

I would love to be in your small circle. Hugs!
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Galen Pearl August 9, 2017 at 12:39 am

You are ALWAYS in my small circle, Vidya!

Vidya Sury August 9, 2017 at 11:52 am

What a wonderful message to wake up to! Thank you Galen! You are in my heart!
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My Inner Chick August 9, 2017 at 5:56 am

I have 4 Root friends. We’ve been together since the beginning of time and shall be together at the end of time, too!

We love each other unconditionally.

Great post , Vidya!👸❤❤💋👄

Nabanita Dhar August 9, 2017 at 9:46 am

True, true. So true.

I don’t have many friends but the few that I do are all girlfriends. You know we don’t need much from each other, the girlfriends but just being there to talk our hearts out, disliking the same thing or the same person without asking questions and sharing laughs, lots and lots of laughs even on the worst of days.

Darla M Sands August 9, 2017 at 7:55 pm

I do not have a close group of girlfriends. There are a few, though, who I know are there when I need them. Be well!

SHALINI BAISIWALA August 10, 2017 at 6:57 am

My girlfriends mean the world to me and yes women need other women. Mine also wrap me up in their love and banter and are actually my mirrors for they tell me what no one else will !

Loved reading this piece – thanks so much for sharing such a warm article Vidya!! Kudos to Melody for writing it!!

Shantala August 11, 2017 at 3:00 am

I completely agree, Vidya. Girlfriends are the best kind of support system. This post made me smile, and reminded me that I need to call some of my girls, ’cause it’s been too long, so thank you. 🙂

Mansi August 11, 2017 at 8:20 am

Girlfriends are the most integral part. Boyfriends come n go ,breakup happens but something that hold you strong are your girlfriends and as I am growing they have literally become lifelines..loved your post.

Ronald Mckim August 11, 2017 at 7:23 pm

Hi, Vidya! I really love this article, Very informative. And love your slogan too. You collected my smile.
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Shilpa Gupte August 18, 2017 at 4:40 pm

This is such a beautiful post, Vidya! I remember seeing the picture above on Fb and shared it with all of my closest girl friends. Friends who have been with me since my childhood. Friends I met in college and some friends I met online. I wonder what it is that brings us closer despite never having known each other’s life story. We simply connect with each other so quickly, as if we were meant to be together. I had a lump in my throat as I read this post and thanked God for giving me some really wonderful friends. Hey, I also thanked Him for connecting me with you – you sweet sweet girl! Thank you for the post, Vidya, and thank you for being my online friend. <3 Let's hope we get to meet someday! 🙂


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