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My wake up call #GratitudeCircle

A wake up call Gratitude Circle Vidya Sury

This is perhaps my most important Gratitude post. We all know how easy it is to feel grateful when all is well. But when life throws a series of shockers without losing momentum, that’s when the way we respond really matters.

“No duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks.” – Unknown

I am a big believer in the balance of life . . . and always take my happiness with a secret pinch of salt. My Mom often marveled at how I would seem a bit detached in the face of a tragedy and focused on finding a solution or coming to terms with it, rather than grieve. Let’s just say it is because life has been an excellent teacher, even if the ride has been bumpy at various points. It is a good thing I enjoy adventure, but sometimes even I reel under the impact of a nasty and unexpected shove.

I confess I was a bit restless when this month, March, began.

So let me tell you what happened.

7 March was a day like many others. I went about my usual routine of work/ housework/ reading/ cleaning/ writing/ listening to music/ feeling guilty about playing hooky for a little while . . . and so on.

Just before dinner, I decided to complete something I was working on and got busy.

A light rain started up outside. The pitter-patter was a relief, as the weather is quite warm and as my fingers typed away, I thought–maybe that will bring the temperature down a bit.

The rain got heavier, and thunder followed.

Looking at the clock, I thought, just fifteen minutes to finish this and I’ll go veg out with my dinner in front of the TV.

Flashes of lightning ripped the sky, as if in tune to the thunder.

The next moment, my computer screen went black. No sound, no warning, no beep.

Thinking that it was one of those protective shut downs, I tried turning it on.

My cpu didn’t respond. Deciding to leave it for the moment, I went and had dinner.

Came back to check again, but nothing happened.

I saw my router’s lights were not on, and checked for wifi on my phone–and realized there was no internet. Sometimes this happens when there’s heavy rains.

As I ran to my bedroom remembering the window that had a tendency to let the water flow, I found there was already a flood there and packed the area with mats.

When I got back to the “study”, a shelf on which we keep our vacuum cleaner just crashed.

A couple of hours later, I called my internet service provider, who confirmed that cables were down and would be attended to, the next day.

So anyway, the next day, I called my computer techie and the ISP.

To cut a long story short:

  • My router was fried
  • My computer was fried
  • My backup hard disks and pen drives, connected to the system at the time, were fried

So

  • All my data and backups, gone.
  • I needed to get a new system since the motherboard and even the processor fan and RAM were gone.
  • I had to buy a new router for internet to be restored

The shock of this hit me gradually as my mind was a bit frozen.

To think that everything I had saved–my work, book drafts, photos, videos, house stuff and other information — were ALL GONE was devastating.

The irony is, I had a load of post drafts – all lost now.

It seemed as though my life had come to a standstill.

Then the new router wouldn’t work properly. So I got another, because it turned out that this particular router came with no warranty. Arrrgh!

I’ve now replaced the motherboard and other parts in my system, but am yet to get a new hard drive.

How will I cope?

Will things ever be normal?

I decided to take a walk, and take stock of my life.

“If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money cannot buy.” – Dean Bunn

I am so grateful to have:

  • A home I love
  • A family I love, that loves me back
  • Wonderful neighbors who are practically family to me and did everything they could to cheer me up
  • Decent health and healthcare
  • Food to eat
  • A comfortable life
  • Work I enjoy
  • Friends I love, who love me back

Which is a heck of a lot compared to most people on the planet.

I am presently managing with an iffy laptop. What’s more, I am also participating in the April A to Z Challenge, because, folks, I want to pretend that everything is normal. I am enjoying handwriting my posts and will type them up.

Also, feeling sad and stressed is not good for my health. Double also, I am just not the type to sit and cry. I prefer to find ways to cope. Too bad the posts I had worked on have gone–but I am resilient. And I still have my brains left.

You’d think that’s all, right?

Wrong.

Two days after all this happened, PayPal locked my account, which meant I could neither receive nor send money. They wanted me to explain a couple of transactions as they felt these might be in violation of their user policy. After a week of correspondence, because they kept on asking for info, they reinstated my account, with an apology. I am grateful it is resolved.

Today, I am grateful for my life, such as it is.

I am focusing on what I have, not what my life lacks.

I am grateful for my loving relationships.

I am grateful for my ISP who replaced the router in two days.

I am grateful for the bus-stop that was close to the point where my cab broke down en route to the airport when I went to receive my son.

I am super-grateful for my son’s short visit for 5 days, which kept me sane and focused, and cooking.

I am grateful that the metal blade we found in the khoya packet to make my son’s favorite sweet was not consumed by anyone.

I am so grateful for friends who rallied around, helpless, holding my hand, hugging me, a little nervous about telling me everything would be okay, because how is complete data loss okay? Their presence is a gift.

What goes down, bounces back up, folks.

I’ve faced far tougher situations in life than data loss. It definitely hurts, but I am thinking, this too shall pass. The loss of the photos hurts the most, but I’ll cope.

No matter what, I know the power to feel better must come from me.

What a wake up call it has been! I know I will respond by focusing on all that really matters, doing things that bring me happiness. Back in October 2011, I wrote about my Happiness Jar. As I added to it today, I was thrilled to see this video on Facebook. Take a look.

I will live even more mindfully.

I will continue to practice Gratitude.

To quote Sylvia Boorstein,

‘The mind is like tofu. It tastes like whatever you marinate it in.’

So . . . tell me two things you’re infinitely grateful for.

Make it a post and join me for March’s Gratitude Circle blog hop.

Here’s your badge.

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Link up below.

The beautiful featured image at the top of the post is from Shutterstock – and yes, I am crazy about watercolor art.

And remember, love is always the answer!

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22 Comments

  • Reply
    Rachna
    March 30, 2017 at 11:55 am

    Hugs again, Vidya. I remember going cold just by hearing what had transpired. Really, adversity hits you in cruel ways. I am grateful that the Paypal issue was resolved. So very sorry that you lost so much precious data. Glad that Vidur’s short visit came at just the right time. Hope April is way better and I am sure you will ace the AtoZ. Lots of love.

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    Obsessivemom
    March 30, 2017 at 2:26 pm

    You are AMAZING. I realised I get frazzled so easily and here you are holding up beautifully AND writing a gratitude post. I am sorry you lost all those drafts and I do hope things get back to normal soon.

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    Nabanita Dhar
    March 30, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    Your posts always teach me so much, Vidya. You are right. What goes down must bounce back up and it is up to us to feel better from within, make that effort. I know it isn’t easy when you lost so much work, so many drafts. But everything will be sorted, they have to be 🙂

    Will join you, Vidya. Writing my post now 🙂

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    Soumya
    March 30, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    I’m grateful for having such an inspirational person in my life. You!

    You know I always think I have a good life and just take it for granted. Then I read a post of yours and go wow! My life is indeed so blessed and you always help me realize that!

    You are handwriting your posts for A to Z to type them out later? That’s dedication, people!

    Lots of love and respect to you! <3

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    G Angela
    March 30, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    Hats off vidya !! I love that spirit of yours, and appreciate you for the courage and the attitude with which you deal with every challenge. Love and hugs to you. Thanks for being my inspiration, I am always energized and motivated whenever I read your posts, thanks and pray that this too shall pass, as you rightly put and soon everything will be well again. Beautiful and apt image on this post… thanks for sharing 🙂

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    Shailaja Vishwanath
    March 30, 2017 at 7:11 pm

    Big hugs Vidya. Know all of the above but still a shocker to read it all over again. I know you and how resilient you are. It’s also okay to cry and let it out. It’s good for you, as you know. Let’s rock A-Z together, what say? And BIG BIG hugs coming your way for all the gratitude you see in the things that matter.
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    Shilpa
    March 30, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    ? Vidya . Your posts are so inspiring Vidya . Life sometimes is so tough and rough, nothing is permanent now a days. The quote about the money can’t buy is very true.All the best for A to Z challenge.

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    Modern Gypsy
    March 30, 2017 at 8:09 pm

    Wow Vidya! I bow to your resilience. Reading your post sent shivers down my spine. We all rely so heavily on our computers and hard disk to back up our lives, and to losr it all…I have no words!
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    Akilah
    March 30, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    I love this. I have found that there is usually good to be found even when things suck. When I blew the tire on my car, I was glad it happened at the grocery store because I really had to pee. It’s the little things.

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    Parul Thakur
    March 31, 2017 at 1:37 pm

    Wow! You are such an inspiration, Vidya. That’s a lot to handle and you are such a star. So wonderful of you to handle this such grace. hugs and here’s all the best for A to Z. You will rock this too.

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    Wendy
    March 31, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    Wow… you are one dynamic Wonder Woman. You are SO productive. I”m struggling just to manage the A-Z. Maybe I will be abe to take my trainer wheels off after the challenge and join a few regular circles.

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    Wendy
    March 31, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    typos…eeek
    See what a mess I am!?!
    And I’m using a shiny new MacBook Pro… no excuse … just inept operator

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    Rubina Ramesh
    March 31, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    You are such an inspiration Vidya. You always have been. Somehow whenever I land on your posts, I find an answer I was seeking. That sheer energy in your post are very inspiring.

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    carol Graham
    April 1, 2017 at 3:27 am

    Vidya, you know what a fan I am of yours. I also know that you realize the traumas I have lived through and have certainly tried to maintain the best attitude possible — always hoping, always waiting for the tides to change and knowing that they will. Some days, like the ones you describe, it is difficult to look at the ‘bright’ side and know things will change but it is so much easier on us when we realize everything we can be thankful for and that this too…..shall pass.

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    Mahathi Ramya
    April 1, 2017 at 4:44 am

    I know, it’s horrible to lose all work and drafts suddenly. Really, this is very important gratitude post of yours. I am glad that you have many more things to be grateful for even in difficult situations.

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    Debbie D.
    April 1, 2017 at 5:10 am

    It’s amazing how you were able to stay so calm, Vidya! I would have had a bloody fit! 😮 You are an inspiration to us all. I almost had the same disaster, when my hard drive crapped out after updating the older laptop to Windows 10. Thankfully, the techie was able to save my files, but I immediately loaded them onto a USB stick, just in case. What a relief to get your Paypal issue sorted out, at least. See you soon for the A to Z!
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    Birgit
    April 2, 2017 at 8:18 pm

    That is horrible and I am sorry to hear about all that you have lost. This makes me think I should update my pictures and I will do that. You are resilient and that is one of the reasons I love reading your blog and think you are an amazing person even though I have not met you. I have been dealing with extreme pain for the past week which has made me feel horrible and think about my mortality. I am better today but still sore but I am happy that I will be with my brother and my mom enjoying an Elvis impersonator at her long term care home today.

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    chattywren
    April 3, 2017 at 1:49 am

    Wow… that’s so much stuff going off at the same time and you’ve handled it in an amazingly positive manner. More power to you… Vidya. Am glad you had a good support system…even the little of things matter.

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    Vasantha Vivek
    April 7, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    Oh … I could feel your agony of data loss. I had also faced this long back. Very painful. But happy to see you find your peace even at these hard times. Hugs to you, Vidya !!!

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    Vinitha
    April 11, 2017 at 1:20 am

    I’m grateful that I finally was able to finish up gratitude post and join you after a long gap. Losing photos is heartbreaking but we will sail through this time too, right? When I think about you the first thing that comes to my mind is that big warm smile, Vidya. Hugs to you.

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    NEHA JAIN
    April 14, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    Feeling bad to hear about your data loss, mam. But moving on is winner’s way to live life. I am more than happy to join you in this gratitude journey. 🙂
    Have a great day!

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