Do you have a pair of cozy slippers?
Slippers you are really fond of?
Those cushy ones, or maybe tattered ones you just can’t let go of, because they feel like home when you slip your feet into them?
I have those. My home slippers are mismatched. One black one red. I used to like both pairs, the black and the red. Then the strap of one left flipflop broke. So I started wearing the other pair. In a little while, strap of the right flipflop broke. Now I had a left and a right, even though they were different colors, they were perfect. Of course my husband quickly bought me another pair, which is safe inside the shoe shelf. Because the mismatched pair is so cozy. The left slipper is one size smaller than the right, but still the right size for me.
You know, it is believed that shoes show our style. Shoes also take us places. I mean, who steps out barefoot on a rough road, eh?
There are countless styles and types of shoes and for those of us with a shoe fetish, we like to have different shoes for specific occasions.
Shoes are rather like the people in our lives, in some sense.
Like shoes, our relationships take us places and each one plays a role in our lives.
So I ask you, who is that person in your life whom you see as your cozy slipper?
That person you can rely on, no matter what?
Who is your stylish high heel shoe, who is fun yet not much support during tough times?
Who is your gym shoe, that person you can grab and go with, regardless of the terrain you have to cover?
Or do you have that one trusty pair of shoes that plays different roles at different times?
It is nice to take stock of the different types of relationships we have and how they benefit us in various ways, every once in a while.
Relationships that fit well, just like shoes, make us feel safe and balanced.
When we have a favorite pair of shoes, we take extra-special care to make them last for as long as we can.
Are we doing the same for our special relationships?
When a special pair of shoes becomes damaged, we desperately try and find a similar pair.
Is there someone who cares for us, for whom we care, that we’re overlooking?
Life in isolation is like being barefoot.
Barefoot is not a bad thing, in fact it feels liberating to feel earth under our feet. But if the path is uneven, it hurts, it bruises.
Good shoes, like good relationships, cushion us with care. We feel better equipped to face the challenges life throws our way, especially if the ground is uncertain.
So, who is your cozy slipper?
Who is your let’s-go-anywhere shoe?
How well do you understand the power and functionality of your connections in life?
Something to reflect on:
When was the last time you took stock of your relationships?
Take the time to do it.
Open your shoe closet.
Think of each pair as a relationship.
Too few shoes? Add imaginary pairs.
Are some of your relationships collecting dust?
Which ones are missing from your closet?
Are you celebrating these relationships for the joy they represent in your life?
Now may be a good time to clean out your shoe closet and get rid of the pairs that hurt or don’t fit.
Say good bye to toxic relationships.
And while you are taking stock and cleaning up, think: what kind of shoe are you for others?