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About Emotional Strength

by Vidya Sury June 18, 2010 1 comment

Here is a lovely excerpt from the book “Principles for Personal Growth”: A very interesting read – and something that is easy to practice:

The Secret of Emotional Strength

SOME PEOPLE are emotionally stronger than others. They can take a lot of stress and strain without falling apart, while others collapse into a whimpering heap at the smallest things.

The core difference between an emotionally weak person and an emotionally strong person is what they think when things go wrong. When they encounter problems, the weak one is in the habit of thinking: “This is more than I can stand.” A tough one thinks: “I can handle this.”

It doesn’t matter what specific words a person puts to the two different kinds of thinking. But the thoughts that make people weak are feeble and impotent: “I can’t take it, it’s too overwhelming, it’s too much to bear, I can’t stand it, I’m not up to this, I’m not emotionally ready for this,” etc.

The thoughts that make you strong are capable and resolute: “I can take it, everything is going to work out, I’ll get through it, maybe there’s a lesson in it for me, adversity builds character, I’m tough, people have been through worse, if I try I can find an advantage in all this, when this is over I’ll be wiser,” etc.

To become stronger, change your thoughts. Emotional strength is as simple and uncomplicated as that. Start saying something different to yourself during emotionally difficult times. When you feel stress, coach yourself, “Come on, [your name here], you can handle this. When this is over, you might even be a stronger person because of it.” Think strong thoughts and you will be tougher, braver, and more resilient. Just like that.

The stronger thoughts are truer than the weak thoughts. You can take it. Human beings, including you, can withstand a tremendous amount of strain without cracking, as even the briefest reading of true survival accounts, war stories, and reports of disasters demonstrate.

Strong thoughts won’t be habitual at first, of course. The way you think is as much a habit as the way you tie your shoes. But keep deliberately thinking stronger, and after awhile it will become habitual. Eventually, you’ll wonder how you ever thought differently.

Would you like to be stronger? Would you like to have more emotional calm during normally upsetting situations? Would you like to stand as a pillar of strength when those about you are crumbling? Sure you would. This is the way. Change your thoughts. Make them stronger. Don’t think you can do it? That’s the first thought to change.

(Thank you, Adam Khan)

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Anonymous February 10, 2012 at 9:05 pm

As far back as i can remember & still to this day I’ve had people from all walks of Life, social & financial status, Friends, Family, psychologist etc. tell me that i’m one of the “strongest” persons they’ve ever met. I acknowledge I’ve seen & have been no stranger to some of Lifes dark realities ie: w/Siblings we endured child abuse, neglect, rejection by our own not only intelligent divorced parents but babysitters, stepmother etc. We were drug addicts yet kept jobs, were not in prison & took care of our Children, I’ve been raped, robbed, in horrible fire, I’ve lost 29 people including my Sister & Husband both murdered same day, my Brother, 2 ex husbands who i stayed close to, 3 Best Friends, the 18 y.o.Child of one them only a year after her Mother’s death, i’m epileptic w/chronic hep C & a heart disease, my only physical pain is in my back. I cry everyday for 17.5 years for my Sister & 11 for my Brother yet i somehow control my grief now & my sobbing is usually in private. I honestly don’t know if i”m sad or happy. At this very moment i am okay. I battle frustration & anger daily but in company of others i’m pretty funny & my humor feels sincere. I’m definitely a loner yet i long for someone to love & to love me but have failed in one or another in every relationship. I seem unable to bond at 100% & fall out of love within 2 or 3 yrs. How then can this be called having “emotionally strength” or anything other then a coward, a weak person, a looser?


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