Can you change this?
- Improve your self-image with regard to creating relationships. Rather than think you’re not a people person, stop to think what it would be like if you were. Use imagery – visualize yourself as someone who is good at relating with others. Once you do this, become the image, so you’re now looking out into the world through the eyes of the “you” who is amazing at building relationships.
- Leverage your inherent strengths – demonstrate these and increase your self-confidence. Understand that everyone has weaknesses and that we all have an opportunity to improve certain aspects of our lives.
- Develop self-esteem by accepting and appreciating all that you have to offer to the world. Love yourself. This will help you begin to value yourself more, and help you develop healthy relationships. You will begin to depend less on others liking you – as you will always like yourself, no matter what the outcome of your interactions with people.
- Rather than avoid going into situations where there are opportunities to create relationships, actually step into them. Examples are: attending an evening class, joining a gym or sports club – to help you practice developing your relating skills in small chunks. As you do this, you will become better at relating with people, endorsing the fact that you are, indeed, a social person and good with people. Over time, this will erase the limiting beliefs you had about your ability to form meaningful and lasting relationships.
I would like to repeat what I stated earlier: relationships are always a two way thing. We need people to form relationships with.
To build the relationships you truly want, and mean the most to you, try using the tips above. Change yourself. Enjoy the difference.
Have you, like me, worried about not being good enough?
Do you find it tough to form relationships?
How do you overcome this?
Please share in the comments!