It is Day 16 of the #AtoZChallenge and it is P for Parenting Perspectives. When I first realized I was expecting a baby, I was nervous about whether I would make a good mother. Like everyone else, I read books, explored parenting perspectives, tips and of course, received a lot of it – solicited and unsolicited.

Then, at one point, I realized that experience is a great teacher as far as parenting is concerned, just like any other role or aspect of life. And my Mother advised me to take a day at a time, think positive and simply enjoy what life brought along. That’s what I did. Most of the time. Of course I got all worked up but by and large, when I reflect, I think I have been singularly lucky to learn a lot.

Some parenting perspectives

Some of the things I’ve learned – sometimes the hard way, sometimes easily are these:

  • do more things with kids than for them
  • if you want happy, resilient kids you go first
  • raise your small family with a big family mindset
  • make the most of the opportunity years (before teens)
  • work on your relationships as they give you leverage
  • expect kids to behave well
  • catch kids being resilient and persistent
  • attend to your kids’ mental health
  • don’t be a family that’s always on the go
  • make sure kids help at home without being paid

parenting perspectives

  • build scaffolds to independence
  • reward responsibility with greater freedom
  • build self-knowledge in kids
  • move kids down the road from ‘me’ to ‘we’
  • teach your kids to do what’s right, not what’s easy
  • strengthen your family by creating a strong food culture
  • create a culture where there’s nothing so bad that ‘we’ can’t talk about it
  • parent from the same script, even if you’re not together
  • do things with your kids
  • don’t let kids drop out of the family
  • connect with other parents
  • every child needs someone in their life who says you can do this
  • make the most of teachable moments
  • avoid your first impulse when kids misbehave
  • build a strong family brand

parenting perspectives

Michael Grose’s Parenting Ideas and Information is a great resource for parenting perspectives.

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Today, I recommend

Privy Trifles’s blog 
Priyanka Dey’s blog

19 Comments

  1. My parents followed all these maxims .. They taught more by example than words and so the lessons have stayed with us through our lives.
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  2. Wow! Will remember to apply every single one of these the day I have kids 😉 🙂

    Bhavya
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  3. Kajal Kapur Reply

    A very insightful post. Even though children teach us so much as they grow, along the way we also get a whole lot of opportunities to be the best we can be. We must identify them and leverage

  4. Such wonderful lessons and perspectives …loved the first perspective to bits . Today my nine year old rolled out chapathis and I absolutely loved the sparkle in his eyes when I told him I couldn’t have done it better 🙂
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