To err is human. In the process, people get hurt. If only one could turn the clock back and undo what happened.
But there is a way.
Everyone makes mistakes. We hurt others. Others hurt us. Luckily, we have the choice to come to terms with the situation and let go of the painful memories so we can move on with our lives.
“Forgiveness is not something we do for other people; we do it for ourselves – to get well and move on.”
If you’re thinking forgiving someone lets the one that hurt you off the hook, that’s not it. Forgiveness is all about feeling happier and releasing the suffering to make us feel better. Thing is, suffering does not help anyone.
Here are some wonderful quotes on forgiveness:
“Anger makes you smaller; while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were”
Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing your were the prisoner
Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die
“Forgiveness is a process. Forgiveness is not about giving your approval of an offender’s wrong-doing. Its not about viewing what they did as less harmful than it truly was. And it’s not about giving the offender a “free pass” to keep on doing wrong actions against you. Forgiveness is about recognizing that staying resentful creates an “Active Echo” of the pain the offender caused. By saying that the awful offense the offender did is “beyond forgiving” you give them the power to keep their offense alive in your heart. Forgiveness begins with the mind recognizing that there’s a truthful logic in how the past cannot be changed, but happily the present and future can be. Eventually forgiveness progresses to the heart – with the heart deciding it will no longer allow the offender’s pain to take permanent residence. Yes it is a process, but eventually the mind and heart together recognize that the choice to forgive is both logical and spiritually liberating.”
Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was OK, and it doesn’t mean that person should still be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go. – Unknown
Forgiveness brings freedom
freedom from being controlled by the past, from the emotional ties to the offender
freedom from the continual inner conflicts of bitterness and hate
freedom to become whole and enjoy the fullness of life
– Jeanette Vought
I would love to know your views on forgiveness. Do you think it is easy? tough? worth it?