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God could not be everywhere

by Vidya Sury May 13, 2012 38 comments
God could not be everywhere so he made Mothers

…and so he made mothers.

And now, I find I have to resort to God quite frequently, especially when I have an argument in my head. The answers are also a little difficult to recognize and decipher because Mom had a voice. God moves in mysterious ways, her wonders to perform. What? You didn’t know God was a woman? Hmmph!

As it happens, every day is Mother’s Day for me.  I had the best Mother in the world. I am lucky my son’s affection makes it a happy Mother’s Day for me each day.  I am happy to admit that my life revolves around him just as my Mom’s life revolved around me.

My Mother

My Mom was a teacher by profession. She was wise, loving, generous. Always cheerful even in the face of the worst times we had. She was also a wonderful writer and cook par excellence. Last year, while looking for a particular recipe, I found her diary and happily settled down to read.  This prompted me to take down my box of letters and read the ones she’d written to me. My Mom wrote beautiful letters. Besides  the usual stuff, her letters were full of wisdom. Each letter had a take-away. I’d like to share some of this wisdom here, because I think they make great quotes:

When she advised me to keep a journal:

My Mom wrote: “Diary writing is far more than a way of exorcising one’s unhappiness. The effect is extraordinary. Distanced on paper, troubles shrink to their true size. You can regard them objectively and see how temporary they are”

About the joy of letter-writing:
My Mom wrote: “When spoken words failed, written words kept us close” (Tweet this)

About reading:
My Mom wrote: “Books support us in our solitude and keep us from being a burden to ourselves” (Tweet this)

When my Mother left us on Feb 8, 2010, she seemed to take away so much with her. But I realized, as I looked back on life, that she also left so much within us. Which is why we talk about her everyday, and sometimes, it actually feels as though she is with us. Except we can’t physically touch her.

My mother and I

She had such a fabulous attitude and had the gift of viewing things positively, always. I remember, during the summer months, a lot of tiny ants turned up in our kitchen. Consequently, we would create little moats of water and keep food stuff  safe from these ants. If, by chance, we left something on the counter top, we could rest assured that the place would be swarming with the little fellas.

Anyway, on one such occasion, there was a tray with water, in which we had kept some juice bottles. And our friends, the ants, managed to reach the rim of the tray, only to find the little strip of water stopping them from reaching the bottles. Now, mind you, the bottles are airtight. Yet, the tiny specks of the sweet syrups managed to get the ants there. Can ants smell? I don’t know.

So – back to our story. I don’t know what might have happened, but I think one of us must have accidentally kept one of the bottles very close to the rim of the tray. And, sure enough, these ants (probably the ones that qualified for the Olympic long jump) managed to get on the bottle. Which my Mom discovered the next time she went into the kitchen. She called me. As I entered the kitchen, I saw her hunched over the counter top, watching intently. She beckoned me close, as though the ants would hear her if she spoke, and pointed to the juice bottle. I was stunned to see the droves of tiny ants busily juicing it up.

All worked up, I opened my mouth to rant and my Mom burst out laughing. That stopped my laughter in its tracks and I looked at her, question marks all over my face. And she said, “Vidya – they’ve worked so hard to get there. Don’t you think they deserve it?”. That was so funny and of course, I laughed too.

Happy days with my Mother

From that day on, whenever we were careless enough to leave something on the counter top – or anywhere else and saw ants on it – we looked at each other and sedately said “They deserve it”. This applied to so many other things too.

Oh, the wonderful memories!

Today, on Mother’s Day, I especially value life and everything my Mother meant to me, taught me, nurtured in me. She influenced so many lives and it warms my heart to know that so many remember her with love, and tell me that they do. I am grateful to all of them. And I am grateful for all that she taught Vidur, my son, about kindness, value, love and being gentle. She adored Vidur.

And so, I share some photos that were very special to Mom:

 11-day old Vidur in Grandma’s arms

My son My Mother

She was very proud to give Vidur  his first bath. He was eleven days old

My mother with my son

Vidur, six months old. Happiest baby. Always laughing.

Mummum with Grand Mother

Mom and Vidur at an outing

Happy outing with grand mother

And here is my bouquet to all  my Mommy friends – 

Mothers day flowers

The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world!

And now, let us head off to the lovely Unknown Mami’s blog and give her a group hug, and travel the world from there, together.

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Harleena Singh May 13, 2012 at 1:15 pm

Beautiful tribute Vidya!I always love reading more about your mom, and at some places she seems to much like my own mom :)The episode of the ant as you mentioned is something that will always remain with you lifelong. In the same way, their every lesson taught, values instilled, and their nurturing are so deep embedded within us.Wonderful pictures of you and your mom- I wish I had as many, and the ones I do are mainly lying with my dad and sister. I guess it’s a good reminder to get them uploaded and keep them with me.My mom was (also) the best mom anyone could have had in the world I think. And there can never be enough words written about mothers I think – because there’s so-so much to share and write about them- isn’t it?Wishing you and everyone a very Happy Mother’s Day! I think you are doing a commendable job of raising Vidur just the way your mom would have wanted you to. 🙂

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:36 pm

Thank you for your kind words, Harleena. My Mother was my Mentor and best friend and there will never be another, our connection was so complete. I love sitting with my photo albums – and going down memory lane, especially together with Sury and Vidur. You’re right about how wonderful it is to share. Hugs and Happy Mother’s Day to you, too! We are lucky we had such great Moms.

Wayne W Smith May 13, 2012 at 1:52 pm

Happy Mother’s Day all around.

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:37 pm

Thank you, Wayne. Very much appreciated!

Terri Sonoda May 13, 2012 at 3:22 pm

Firstly, Happy Mothers Day, dear Vidya! I can’t begin to tell you how beautiful this post was and how much it moved me. Your Mom was amazing! But I guess I don’t have to tell you that.
With many things on my mind, I take this with me and will use it to help me through —> “Distanced on paper, troubles shrink to their true size. You can regard them objectively and see how temporary they are”
I hold on to your mom’s wisdom. Troubles are temporary. Thank God and “her” wisdom as well.
Lovely lovely tribute to your Mom. Thank you for sharing!

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:38 pm

Dearest Terri, thank you for the lovely wishes. Happy Mother’s Day to you, too! I cherish my Mom’s diary which is full of beautiful words in her lovely handwriting. I am lucky she was my Mom. I owe her everything I am.

Love and hugs to you!

Keetha Broyles May 13, 2012 at 12:54 pm

What a lovey tribute to your mom. I LOVE all her quotes and the ant story is priceless.

Happy Mother’s Day to you, Vidya!

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:30 pm

Thank you, Keetha! She was remarkable and I am lucky to have so many fantastic memories! Happy Mother’s Day to you, too!

del king May 13, 2012 at 11:05 pm

Both you and your mother are very wise and beautiful women.
Happy Mothers Day

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:46 pm

Thank you, Del King! 🙂 Happy Mother’s Day to you, too!

Betsy at Zen Mama May 14, 2012 at 3:13 am

What a special post and tribute to your mom. I feel like I know her in many ways. And the pictures are incredible!! Thanks, too, for the link! I don’t know if it was Mother’s Day in India today, but I hope you had a wonderful day since every day is Mother’s Day for you!! 🙂

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:47 pm

I did, Betsy! 🙂 Yes, you would have loved meeting my Mom. She was such fun. I don’t think we have an India Mother’s Day – we just follow the US dates for these things. 🙂 Thank you so much for being here!

Cathy |Treatment Talk May 14, 2012 at 3:17 am

Hi Vidya,

Beautiful tribute to your mother. Love the quotes and pictures. How pretty you both are! Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day.

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:48 pm

Thank you, Cathy! 🙂 I did. Hugs to you and wish you a lovely Mother’s Day!

AutismWonderland May 13, 2012 at 11:01 pm

Your mother soiunds like an incredibly wise woman!

Happy Mother’s Day to you 🙂

~ Lisa

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:45 pm

Thank you, Lisa! Happy Mother’s Day to you, too and I am really happy you came by!

Vetrimagal May 14, 2012 at 5:36 am

Lovely post and touching !

Thanks for sharing.

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:48 pm

Thanks, Pattu!

Rahul Bhatia May 14, 2012 at 10:20 am

A lovely post Vidya! Agree as god could not be present everywhere, he created mother:)

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:49 pm

Yes, Rahul! So happy you came by!

Kimberly May 14, 2012 at 11:13 am

I am in tears.
What a beautiful soul with such an amazing insight to the world.
Now everytime I see an aunt I’ll think the same thing too. Her memory will live in canada 😉
Happy mothers day to you

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:51 pm

Hugs Kimberly! Everybody loved her, you know. Happy Mother’s Day to you!

zephyr May 14, 2012 at 1:44 pm

Now I know from where you got the dazzling smile! Mothers indeed are the bedrocks on which a culture and a civilization are built. Since everyday is a mother’s day, I won’t wish you specifically on one day in a year. Hugs!

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:54 pm

Hehe, Zephyr – my Mom was very pretty, yes. Sigh. Happy Mother’s Day to you! Am thrilled you came by!

My Inner Chick May 14, 2012 at 11:24 pm

–Beautiful. Heartbreaking. Tender. Funny. Sweet.

My heart filled up, Vidya.

I sooooooo much savored this post. Thank You.

You are definitely your mother’s daughter. Xxx MUCH LOVE FLoooowing.

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:55 pm

Thank you, Kim. Love you right back! Oh, how i miss her!

Lori Gosselin May 14, 2012 at 11:27 pm

Hi Vidya! I’m happy to have found your blog! I too missed my mother on Mother’s Day! You had such a beautiful relationship with your mother too! I remember fondly laughing with Mom. I can relate, too, to wanting to hear her voice though I do feel her close in spirit.
I’m glad you had a good Mother’s Day with your son! I was happy when my son arrived home a day early and was here for Mother’s Day.

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:57 pm

Welcome, Lori! It is great to have you here! 🙂 Mothers are the best. My friend used to say that no matter whose approval we got, the final approval that really mattered was our Mother’s. 🙂 Happy day to you, too! Do come again!

StarTraci May 14, 2012 at 7:15 pm

Your mother was obviously very wise and very loving. It is also obvious that she instilled the same in you. Happy Mother’s Day to you today and every day.


Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:55 pm

Thank you, Traci! I cherish her memories. Happy Mother’s Day to you, too!

Unknown Mami May 15, 2012 at 4:43 am

Your mother was a phenomenal woman. I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day. You reflect so much of your mother’s wisdom.

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:59 pm

Claudya, Mom meant everything to me. She was such a wonderful influence. I was a also lucky that Sury was just as fond of her and that Vidur had the chance to grow up with her for twelve years. Sigh. We all miss her every day!

thoughtstomull.com May 15, 2012 at 11:21 pm

This is an absolutely beautiful tribute to your mom, Vidya! Loved it!

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 5:59 pm

Thank you! 🙂

thoughtstomull.com May 16, 2012 at 12:59 am

What a beautiful tribute to your mother! Wonderful post, Vidya!

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 6:04 pm

Thanks again! 🙂 Glad you’re here!

Pamela Fagan Hutchins May 16, 2012 at 2:39 pm

Wow, your mom was wise and wonderful. What a tribute you are to her, and Vidur as well. Happy Mother’s Day, every day, Vidya.

Vidya Sury May 17, 2012 at 6:06 pm

Thank you dearest Pamela! 😀 Same to you!


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