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An Unexpected Break

by Vidya Sury August 3, 2012 33 comments

VidyaSuryMalligai After quite some time, I am enjoying some free time with no deadlines to worry about. So it is kind of a busman’s holiday, since I am taking care of all the pending stuff. But I love that. I could never sit still and “relax” – I prefer to be doing at least two things at a time.  Also, no work deadline actually means I go about my stuff mentally relaxed, while physically on high alert. (Note to self: I really ought to make it to the dentist for a long-pending filling.)

Funny how everything looks different without the tension of a work deadline. I am making good use of the time. Today I did two things:

  • Shopping
  • Prayers

Shopping was, as always, a jolly old experience. First, I went to the flower market. Oh Joy! Humming happily, on the way back home, I went into the supermarket. I enjoyed listening to the radio as I shopped for essentials and checked out an aisle I usually don’t spend time on. And was pleasantly surprised to see some interesting stuff there.

Now, if you’re a regular reader here, I am sure you recall my mentions of visits to my local supermarkets. I consider my morning shopping activity my social moment of the day. Working from home can seriously curtail human face-to-face interaction through the day. I find it an education to shop and watch other shoppers. I am crazy like that. It is so amusing to see someone pick tomatoes the entire time, as I finish my shopping and pile my trolley high. There’s this particular guy who feels each tomato for a few seconds before pronouncing it unsuitable. He only buys a kilogram or less – yet – finds it challenging to pick his requirement from the huge twenty-kilo bins stacked there. Talk about picky. There’s a life lesson there, somewhere, no?

Then what about the guy who keeps on adjusting his “goods” (come on, you know what I mean!) and then surreptitiously sniffs his fingers and looks around to see if someone noticed? Oh yes. I never disappoint. I may be visually challenged, but I have an extra sense for these sights. Then there’s the lady who casually puts her hand inside her blouse and adjusts her innerwear. It is so funny to see that activity going on under the sari draped across her chest. Looks like “inner turmoil” to me!

Incidentally, I realized I missed one of my regulars. There’s this lady who walks in, I am guessing she’s going home after a jog and has decided to pick up stuff on the way. Oy, this woman stinks like crazy. It is an aura around her. The worst time is while we stand at the billing counter, unable to move. I once switched counters just to avoid the smell. Bad smells give me a headache, folks and a headache puts me at less than 100% performance through the day. And guess what? She bought three cans of deodorant. Truth. But it IS rather funny to stand there with twitchy nose. I mean, one can only do deep breathing and breath-holding for so long.

Vidya Sury LampsSo, anyway, I finished up and headed home, because, folks, today is a special Friday for us. This is an auspicious month when we offer special prayers to Goddess Durga. We make a special dish and light a lamp in it. Then, we pray for the health of our family and friends. After the lamp burns for a while, we finish our prayers and distribute some of it to our neighbors.  Since it was Friday, I also lit lemon lamps for the Goddess. As I did these things, I missed my Mom very much. And got a little lost in nostalgia. Impulsively, I also decided to offer prayers to Sri Satyanarayana, an incarnation of Lord Vishnu. We believe, in tough times, if we pray to Lord Satyanarayana, what we wish for will come true. Not sure if it is a kind of Law of Attraction, but let me tell you, while I am not overly religious, I do love some of our rituals – probably because I’ve grown up with them and they are like – routine. As far as Satyanarayana is concerned, I have had a few seemingly impossible situations resolve. Call it faith. I could only call it divine intervention.

It was a peaceful day. Our house is filled with the fragrance of jasmine flowers and a faint smell of cardamom. I actually contemplated taking a nap this afternoon, but thought that would be taking the happiness too far!

Here’s what I learned, as I reveled in my “free” time.

  • I can read my favorite bloggers’ posts without worrying about my time-management
  • I can enjoy a long leisurely bath
  • Saying “no” to projects that take up 80% effort and bring in 20% income feels absolutely marvelous.
  • I do deserve weekends to take a break from work
  • I can catch up on my reading
  • I can actually put myself first, without feeling the guilt
  • I can explore some creative projects

I am looking forward to a nice cozy weekend. I hope you are, too! And then, I’ll be looking forward to Monday. I love Mondays.

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Elle August 3, 2012 at 7:01 pm

What a wonderful day Vidya. The scent of jasmine and spices filling the house and I’d definitely be taking a nap in that essence.

Just love reading about your rituals, the flavour you evoke is so powerful.


Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:07 pm

Thank you, Elle. Home is where the heart is – in this instance 😀

Paige | simple mindfulness August 3, 2012 at 8:54 pm

So glad you finally took the time to slow down and take care of yourself. You have been long overdue! I love the stories of all the little things you notice in your day.Big, Big Hugs!!

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:08 pm

Yes, Paige! I shocked myself and my folks this time! Hugs!

Pamela August 3, 2012 at 10:05 pm

Sounds like a good day!

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:08 pm

Yes! It was. And so will be the day when you and I have that coffee together!

Cathy | Treatment Talk August 4, 2012 at 12:47 am

Sounds like you are settled in for the next two days and will enjoy your time. That is wonderful!

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Was a great weekend, Cathy! 😀 The mood set in very nicely!

Unknown Mami August 3, 2012 at 10:05 pm

Excellent. Just reading this made me feel more relaxed.

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Hugs, Claudya. Methinks you need some R & R too!

Aileen August 4, 2012 at 3:52 am

Vidya, you had me laughing with your description of your fellow shoppers. The finicky tomato guy reminds me of my husband. I can finish shopping while he’s still choosing an item. Needles to say, we found the peaceful solution – not to shop together. How wonderful you had such a day. Days like that are true gifts. Wishing you a cozy and magical weekend.:)

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:11 pm

🙂 My husband is one of those super fast types who will have a mental list and speed it up. I enjoy lingering. But my fellow-shoppers? Hahahaha. 😀 Pure entertainment.

Hugs and thanks – the weekend was everything I wished for!

Terri Sonoda August 4, 2012 at 4:56 am

“Looks like inner turmoil to me.” hehe I LOVE your observations and, even more, your descriptions of your observations. I love it that you see the little things. I am like that,too. I catch things I wish I wouldn’t have seen, ya know. I’m overly observant sometimes.
Great post! XOXOs

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:13 pm

Hugs! Terri! It is fun, isn’t it, to observe and eavesdrop without participating? 😀 Some fellow-shoppers are plain crazy. One thing I really enjoy is imagining what each person’s background must be like! Love you!

personalpower4me August 3, 2012 at 11:33 pm

Nice to have some real free time Vidya and really soak in your surroundings
be good to yourself

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Thank you, David! It does feel good. See, I took your advice!

My Inner Chick August 4, 2012 at 3:13 pm

Shopping. Praying.

& I wonder why I love you.

Savor the moments, dear Vidya.

Sending you kisses and hugs from Minnesota. Xxx

btw– the people in the shop sound like characters from a book you must write.

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:14 pm

😀 I savor them very much, Kim. People watching is something I simply love. Sury also told me the same thing you know – about weaving these characters into a book. Hmmm. Let me give it serious thought! 😀 Hugs – and love right back at you!

carolynhughesthehurthealer August 4, 2012 at 4:00 pm

Wonderful observations as always Vidya that made me smile and brightened my day.
I wish you would take that nap – you deserve it! 🙂

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:15 pm

That nap is elusive, Carolyn. I am crazy enough to think that sleeping is a waste of time – during the day, even though I keep fantasizing about it! Hugs and thank you for being here!

Betsy at Zen Mama August 5, 2012 at 3:43 am

Hi Vidya,
So glad you enjoyed your Busman’s Holiday! Love hearing about your day!!! I’m looking forward to some days like this when I get home from my conference. Enjoy!!

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:17 pm

🙂 I am sure you will, Betsy! Hope you’re having a wonderful time at Blogher12!

J.D. Meier August 5, 2012 at 2:56 am

> one can only do deep breathing and breath-holding for so long.
You crack me up.

The lemon lamps sound got me curious if they smell as good as they sound.

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:17 pm

JD, so good to see you here! When the wick is about to burn out, that is when the lemon skin burns a little. It does smell good. But as long as the lamp has oil in it, (it is the lemon half with the juice squeezed out with a wick and oil), there’s hardly any smell.

Oh, I love the people I get to watch. My imagination runs pretty wild watching their behavior.

Have a superb week!

Hajra August 5, 2012 at 11:09 am

Looks like you are having a good time! 🙂

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:18 pm

Yes, Hajra. Even if it is not so good, I have a good time! 😀

Bill Dorman August 5, 2012 at 11:42 am

I don’t know if you follow Kaarina, but she just did a post on what would you do if no one was looking. Well, we certainly know about finger sniffer, huh?

Markets are fun to me. I enjoy seeing the people and being part of the vibe if gives off.

Glad you are having some ‘down’ time; it seems this is the time of year where everybody is slowing down some.

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:20 pm

Bill, yes, I do follow Kaarina (with great pleasure) – and loved that post. 😀

I’ve got to tell you that people gave me rather strange looks when I burst out laughing remembering a certain blog post a certain blogger I happen to be fond of, wrote, when I saw the guy doing what he was doing.

Time of year or not, as a freelancer I have to grab the free time I can get. The last few months have been more hectic than usual, for which I am grateful!

Vishnu August 5, 2012 at 1:58 pm

Interesting story Vidya. After you got a chance to see what people are doing, do you still want to take things slow in the market. haha. maybe it’s time to rush through. Just kidding of course. people watching is fun – especially in airports:)

glad you’re taking a break and enjoying your weekend. why do so many people hate Mondays? best day of the week:)

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:23 pm

Hahaha, Vishnu, yes I still want to take things slow. Because you see, I now have ammunition in the form of a perfumed tissue. *Evil laugh* The lady and I smile at each other now 😀 as I see her around our area. Same with the goods-adjuster. Only, I know their little secret! 😀

Monday has always been a day I loved. All fresh starts! Ah!

Hiten August 5, 2012 at 1:53 pm

Hi Vidya,

I was laughing a lot as I was visualising the man adjusting his “goods” and the woman who smells. It was hilarious!

I really enjoyed the pictures you created in your post. Also, it seems that when you’re out and about, you are truly in sync with your surroundings and are taking it all in fully. This is great.

Your post reminded me a little of when I go on meditation retreats. With no talking and no contact allowed, I always end up creating names for the guys walking around me!

Vidya Sury August 6, 2012 at 2:22 pm

Hiten, I love to go shopping, for self and others. And I really enjoy the sights i see. 😀 Now it really is funny to encounter the goods-guy as I think of him. I see him often, as we both shop at that supermarket.

So I know what you mean about creating names. Do you find it interesting to connect when you know their actual name? Does it ever sync with the name you give them?

thoughtstomull.com August 12, 2012 at 8:02 pm

Ohhhhh, I love those days without deadlines, without expectations, when I can drift wherever I feel the pull to drift! Those are wonderful!


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