Learning is a lifelong event.
But there are pockets of time when some lessons arrive when we need them most, regardless of whether we subscribed to them or not.
Ms. Life is cool that way. She kind of looks out for us. (of course it is a she! Who else could be so patient + awesome rolled into one?)
My biggest, and perhaps most valuable lesson has been to…
Focus on self-care and health
Of course living with diabetes helps, as it automatically makes it mandatory to focus on heath via diet, exercise and constant blood sugar monitoring. Sometimes I am guilty off slacking off. I wonder why, when we are so conscious and enthusiastic initially, we tend to fizzle off over time. That may not be such a bad thing except with diabetes, there is really no compromise. We reap what we sow… or just weep!
While I have not exactly wept I have come pretty close to it. I have found excuses, justifying why I did not do certain things. But that is just like painting a wet wall, as my Grandma would smilingly say.
And so, once again I am re- learning to pledge to focus on heath and self-care.
Do the things I want to do without waiting for some day.
I don’t know what it is with me sometimes – but I keep thinking that when l’m 40 or 50, depending on my state of mind at the time, I will get a really short haircut. Then I realize that I am actually 52 and that makes me laugh. Hard. And I still haven’t got my haircut unless one counts the hurried snipping off of 3-4 inches from the ponytail when I am stressed. I know, dangerous. Nevertheless, it feels good. So haircut aside, I have made a wishlist I am going to tackle steadily.
Listen to lessons from a 3-year old
In the first week of January, I spent three days with a 3 year old. We were quite inseperable. In the course of our “conversations” she strongly felt I should cut my hair really short, just like hers. She also gave me other useful and easy to follow beauty tips. Guess what? I am actually following them.
What I am actually saying is, I am learning not to wait for an auspicious moment to do things. I’m trying to be like my 3 yo friend with whom, to think is to act. The minute she has an idea, she wants to see it happen. Pronto. But because I am an adult, I know I must think before I act. At least sometimes.
I’m also learning that…
Things that stressed me out earlier, no longer do.
This one’s major. Things that used to matter a great deal no longer do. Which is a good thing, since it means my priorities are shifting. I’m learning to focus on the things that bring happiness and not waste time on what is unlikely to matter in the long run. Ask my dust mites!
I have also learned to scale down on buying stuff – be it for my kitchen, myself or home in general. Learning to focus on needs, not wants, with material things. Oh that does not apply to books, but I compromised by sticking to only digital versions as much as possible. No dusting required!
I must manage time better
Time management used to be one of my strong points but I went slightly haywire last year taking on more than I could handle at times. I didn’t really plan well, what with a lot of unexpected travel, but I did remember to enjoy every moment no matter what I was doing even if it wasn’t always planned, which really made it rather delicious. Still, I should get rid of those time-sucks that are no good to anybody!
Dreams come true
Okay, with a Mom like mine, I’d be crazy not to believe that. But experiencing it for real in a big way is something else. I wished I could meet the Dalai Lama and I did. Glorious moment. I prayed that my son should get into a good college and he did. That my eyes fill up often, thinking of him is a different story.
Other random things I learned, or allowed life to remind me about were:
- I can write with my finger. Seriously. This post is proof.
- My Mom was mostly right. The difference is, earlier I used to argue futilely, now I realize she actually was right and I feel very happy about it
- I am strong. I’d better not doubt it.
- I must be careful when I am refilling the containers for mustard seeds, black sesame and cumin seeds. I often mix them up. On the flip side, I know an easy way to separate them.
- A Q tip can only be inserted so far into the ear. Farther results in bleeding. I found out the hard way. Still recovering!
- I am terrified of the “snooze” button. I wish there was a way to remove it. Of course, I could simply get up.
- Some things (and people) that are seemingly impossible and unbelievable are actually possible and believable.
- People freak out when they discover I am not wearing my mangalsutra (this is like a wedding band, except it is a chain around the neck). They think I am courageous or bold, not to wear it. They don’t know it is pure laziness.
- I must not run when the doorbell rings. I almost always trip over something. Not fun.
- I must not read from my iPad when I go to bed. The thud on my face when I drift off hurts more than the thud of a book. Also, books don’t break. Enough said.
- Almost everything has a funny side. When we see it, things are easier to handle. Wish I could say the same for people!
- I am free to change whatever I want, I don’t need anyone’s permission
- I don’t want to hold on to things. Letting go can be fun.
- It is okay to not want to think sometimes.
- I do not obsess over housework. Or laundry. Or washing up. It is quite alright to slack off occasionally.
- And of course, as always, connect with friends as often as possible. Life can sometimes be too short to postpone the important stuff
Yes, Life is a strict teacher. And she’s reaaaally good at her job.
There’s no time to grow old. Just grow.
If you are still reading, thank you!.
So what did you learn last year, or wish you had learned?
P.S.: The January 2016 Gratitude Circle bloghop went live yesterday. Linky’s open till Feb 11, 2016. Do join in with your posts and link up!