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An Unexpected Date

by Vidya Sury February 14, 2016 22 comments
Date on Valentine's Day Vidya Sury

Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

Of course you know that we don’t need a special day to show love – nevertheless, it feels good to see that love is the predominant feeling today as people go the extra mile to show their loved ones they care. And so, yes, it is nice to celebrate!

I wasn’t planning on a date, but it kind of happened unexpectedly. When I woke up this morning and got wished for Valentines Day, I grinned. I was asked if I had a date planned and I said, playfully, Yes!

I brushed my teeth, and splashing water on my face, I looked in the mirror and said, “Hey, how about a date?” And she said, “yes!”

Once the idea trickled into my head as I leisurely enjoyed my coffee with my feet up and a book in my lap, I liked it more and more. I decided to make it a proper celebration. I felt happy that I didn’t have much planning to do!

First, I finished my coffee, savoring it to the last drop, because it is Sunday and there was no rush to do anything.

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

Then, I brought in the newspaper and tossed it aside, as usual.

I made oatmeal for breakfast as I listened to music.

I contemplated my kitchen to see if i felt like making any changes – oh, I am wired like that with a mind that enjoys overwork – and made a mental list. When I thought of the phrase, mental list, naturally my mind wandered to The Mentalist and I smiled as I stirred the oatmeal. Then, I enjoyed my breakfast. Slowly, reading. I know! But it was a murder mystery and one of those psychological thrillers and I hated that I couldn’t sit up all night and finish it.

After breakfast, I continued to read and finished the book. Sigh. What joy to relish a book and how sad when it gets over, but again, how wonderful to think that I have a whole stack by the same author waiting for me to devour. Bliss.

Then I planned lunch, which was easy – sprouts, rotis and stir-fried peppers with a big bowl of salad, and a bowl of yogurt. Took me all of half an hour to get that ready.

Finishing a book always makes me a bit restless, as I like to process it in my mind for some time and this is usually best done accompanied by some housework. So I tested the tap water to make sure it was warm and got to work, emptying the sink. I love to do this – so therapeutic. Housework always is – as instant gratification is guaranteed via instant results. Dish-washing deserves to be rewarded with a big mug of coffee and I set about making one.

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

I sat by my verandah, enjoying the play of sunlight making patterns on the ground as the clothes danced on then clothesline. Even when my coffee cup was empty, I continued to sit, watching the pigeons prancing around, possibly pretending they owned the place.

Laughing at the thought of scraping up the shit – a Sunday job that I postponed to Monday – because who scrapes shit on a date, eh?

I confess I did contemplate turning out the closets but put that thought to sleep – after all, who spring cleans on a date? Heh. Don’t answer that.

I compromised by making a few goody bags to take out later when I went out for a walk – quite a few of the vendors in my area have little ones. Also, a couple of active constructions are in progress nearby – and these people have kids who, I thought, would enjoy some eats and toys.

That pleasant job done, I figured I would wallow in a long bath and did exactly that. I pulled on one of my favorite t-shirts – a bright pink one with “life is a full time job” written across it and headed to the kitchen to have lunch. I don’t know about you, but a bath always sets my tummy growling.

Yes, lunch was delicious and I ate, watching comedy on TV.

After clearing up and putting things away, I thought I’d check email – and did. Answered a couple and then thought of doing one of my favorite things – looking through my photo albums.

I thought I’d lay down for a bit and read some more. I may or may not have dozed off a little – toasting those toes in the afternoon sunshine seeping in through the netted door, watching the criss cross pattern on the wall, accompanied by the pigeons talking can do that.

A good two hours later, my brain nudged me for another cup of coffee. Of course, I obliged.

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

After a bowl of boiled chickpeas for a snack, I took my giveaway bags and pushed off for a walk around my area. I usually walk on my terrace, but today, I felt like a change.

After enjoying a lot of laughter, smiles and happy conversations with the folks around my area, I came back home, pleasantly tired.

I sat down to sip a glass of water. Sweet!

With half an hour left for dinner, I thought I’d catch one of my favorite programs on TV.

I did.

Dinner was a simple affair – I had everything left over from lunch and had another round of it.

That done, I was ready for another round of reading. I thought I may probably even sleep early today, but that’s highly doubtful because – you never know when you start reading a book!

Oh, my day was sprinkled with some very welcome extra doses of love via phone calls from my son and husband and a couple of friends.

I enjoyed the date with myself very much. It was almost perfect.

Sometimes it is so good to drift along without feeling the pressure of having to do something – or if there is something to do – being able to put it off. Also, it doesn’t really take much to be happy!

Here are some pics from my walk. I love this veggie vendor!

Love their tomatoes – they’re unusual and called apple tomatoes.

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

The peppers are their specialty.

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury


A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

They also sell fruits

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

I usually pass a fruit vendor in the corner of the street and like to chat with him. The fruit is eye-candy!

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

I took one of these babies home to enjoy over the week! And of course, drooled at the masala sprinkled mango slices!

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

And of course, I took a selfie today, as I thought, why not be trendy!

My gift to myself this Valentines Day?

TIME. Precious time.

So how did you enjoy this day?

A Valentines Day date with myself Vidya Sury

I am with the gorgeous Unknown Mami ♥ for Sundays In My City

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Vinitha February 15, 2016 at 2:22 am

A date with the self! Sounds wonderful, Vidya. I had a good day too. It was like any other Sunday, but it was good. That’s good, right? 😉
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Vidya Sury February 15, 2016 at 2:33 pm

100% A-Okay, Vinitha 🙂 It is perfect! Thank you for coming by!
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Ellen Bard February 15, 2016 at 9:08 am

I love this post Vidya! It just bubbles over with fun and love. And it’s a wonderful example of self-care – we should all spend some time like this every now and then <3

Vidya Sury February 15, 2016 at 9:48 am

Thanks Ellen! Best part is – it just happened naturally and I am glad I responded!
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Nabanita Dhar February 15, 2016 at 2:19 pm

Looks like you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day, Vidya…So important it is, this time…You just described a perfect day, a day to simply be!

Vidya Sury February 15, 2016 at 3:41 pm

Thanks Naba. Sometimes it feels great just to follow our hearts! 🙂
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Shailaja February 15, 2016 at 5:31 pm

What an absolutely full and fulfilling day you’ve had 🙂 Mine was spent with the family, teasing the husband and being teased in return, cooking lunch for them and savouring the weekend moments together. As you know, I look forward to the weekends even more now. So glad you had a lovely and memorable day 🙂
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Claudya Martinez February 16, 2016 at 2:30 am

I smiled through this entire post. You are a GREAT date. I recommend you keep dating yourself.
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Vidya Sury February 16, 2016 at 7:35 pm

Hehe. Thank you Claudya! I think I will, too! I am looking forward to the next one, which might be in March!
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Rachna February 16, 2016 at 3:58 pm

Such a tranquil, beautiful day. I enjoyed the mugs of coffee and the book the most from among the things you shared. For me, we started the day by wishing each other and then indulged in some leg pulling. The elder son wanted to buy us gifts so he asked what he should buy. Of course, the answer was simple. So I choose a book I wanted to read and he ordered it for me. He also bought a large box of doggie treats for Coco that have to be delivered yet. He then had to go for some NSO exam to school. I prepared a nice Mexican rice with grilled fish and stir fried veggies (done by hubby). We ate, napped, chatted, went for a walk and then I caught a movie on TV. A simple, lazy Sunday.
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Vidya Sury February 16, 2016 at 7:34 pm

What a pleasant day, Rachna! This reminded me of Vidur pestering me about what “product” I wanted and he wouldn’t rest until I chose something! I would bully him about doing a lot of things as gifts but he was cleverer 🙂 Did Coco’s treats arrive? I love these easy Sundays, don’t you? Nothing like cozying up with family! Thank you!
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Rachna February 17, 2016 at 9:04 am

Not yet, Vidya. Both the gifts were ordered online. Hopefully should arrive within the week. Oh, I absolutely love easy Sundays. 🙂
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Vidya Sury February 17, 2016 at 8:51 pm

Hugs! Hehehe, now I’ll wonder every day if the gifts have arrived!

Rajlakshmi February 16, 2016 at 4:32 pm

that sounds like a perfect day… the ones which are fulfilling and you get most of your things done 🙂 You do love your coffee don’t you 🙂
Loved that “Life is a full time job” quote. Beautiful and colourful pictures 🙂
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Chicky February 16, 2016 at 7:11 pm

Loved those peppers. We don’t get them anywhere nearby. And I agree with Raji… you DO love your coffee! 😛
I had a working Sunday, so was at my store the whole day. Thought of going out for dinner with Dad, but he caught the flu sometime in the evening, so he wasn’t feeling up to it. We ended up watching India’s Best Draamebaaz on ZeeTV, which was okay too.
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Vidya Sury February 16, 2016 at 7:32 pm

Yeah! I am crazy about my coffee! Actually – although we get the colored capsicum in our area in most shops, they are very expensive. This guy sells them cheap and funnily enough, the other veggies are expensive with him. I am sorry about your Dad’s flu! But I am glad you caught a tv show together! Thank you Chicky!
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Shalini February 17, 2016 at 1:29 pm

What a wonderful day!
The pictures are beautiful and the spice sprinkled mangoes made me drool!
Wish you many such happy peppy days, Mam! 🙂
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Beth February 17, 2017 at 1:11 am

Hello Vidya,
This is the first time I am reading your blog.
I came across it by looking for an image about self-love to use in a program that I am teaching.
A question for you: do you own the cups in the photo or did you clip the picture to use as an illustration?
I am asking because I knew the artist who made them. She was a very, very dear friend.
I am not asking about copyright infringement so please feel safe with my question.
I am asking because I wonder if you knew Kris, got to know her over the purchase of them.
If you did not know her, she was an Etsy top-seller and I expect this photo was one of many on her Etsy site.
I knew Kris for 33 years. We were as close as sisters. Her heart held so much compassion and love.
Ironically, she did not know how to make a date with herself. She never allowed it. Never allowed self-love.
Kris took her life on September 2, 2017. I miss her dearly.
Your post, seeing her art work, was a beautiful & stinging reminder of how important self-love really is and how the ripples of not allowing one to love oneself become tsunamis to the ones who are left behind.
Keep up the good work. Inspire others to love themselves so that they may wholly shine their light, onto themselves, and onto others.

Vidya Sury February 19, 2017 at 5:51 pm

I am so sorry to hear about Kris, Beth. The cup in the post is available on pixabay dot com and that’s where I got it. I had no idea about the artist. Thank you for letting me know. I visited your blog a few months ago to read a green living post. Hugs!
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Beth February 20, 2017 at 12:11 am

Thank you for your response, Vidya, and thank you for visiting my blog. I’m looking forward to reading more of your writing.

And, thank you for my unexpected Valentine from Kris. <3

Beth February 17, 2017 at 1:12 am

By the way, if you did not know, Kris’ last name was LOVE.

Vidya Sury February 19, 2017 at 5:46 pm

Awww, Hugs, Beth!
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