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The Cozy Warmth of Gratitude

by Vidya Sury October 27, 2017 30 comments
“Gratitude is one of the sweet shortcuts to finding peace of mind and happiness inside. No matter what is going on outside of us, there’s always something we could be grateful for.” #GratitudeCircle Vidya Sury

Time passes in a flash, but gratitude lingers on in a lifetime.” – Christine Ang

Much of October went by in a blur. Or that’s how it seems like to my somewhat clouded vision. I feel somewhat disoriented, probably because of the flu. Have you noticed how, when there’s a viral fever, there are moments of crystal clarity followed by total exhaustion? I am enjoying those waves.

As I lay in bed and drifted in and out of dreamland, I had pleasant fantasies. I spent time lounging on the sofa, watching random movies, crying a lot, laughing, dozing. And before I knew it, the day would be over. Oh, I am recovering, slowly.

As usual, it has been a eventful month. Let’s look at the fun bits, those parts I am most grateful for.

​I feel intense gratitude for …

Hospital visits

As annoying, and as time-sucky as they are, I must say it is weirdly okay to sit in a place where there is no internet or phone signal. We are losing work hours but have resigned ourselves to it. The dental treatment my husband is going through is painful, but the doctors claim it is working, and the silver lining (besides the ones in our hair) is that, it cannot continue beyond two weeks. We’re trying to deal with it by joking about it, although right now, we’ve run out of those.


Ours was low-key, but I had fun dressing up in traditional attire and visiting neighbors and enjoyed their doll displays. I even put together a post about it, but didn’t get around to publishing it. I might, one of these days. What do you think? Grateful for the sneaky little shopping expedition my friend and I ran off on, one day, to get some saree blouses that are fabulous! Can’t wait to wear them.

A blogger meet

What I love most about these is getting to meet my friends. We had a good time. At the end of the meet, the heavens opened up and everyone struggled to get transportation back home.  Finally, just two of us were left. We waited over two hours before we finally managed to leave the venue. Waiting is a pain, but not when there’s fun company. We laughed practically nonstop! Overall, a great evening!

Twitter lockouts

Yep, Twitter has been locking my account continuously since the past three-four days. I vaguely wondered why, then discovered others were going through it as well. We’ve no idea what’s going on. So it was a surprise to see my account actually up when I awoke this morning. I don’t really hang around on Twitter, but the lockout did urge me to review all the app permissions that were in force and I had a good time disconnecting/revoking access. Nice to spring-clean, no? So that’s a good thing. Also, strangely, I found myself engaging a little more than usual, what with all the conversations going on. That was good too!

Hot water

Seriously, this one! After two days of sweating and having to just have a wash, I was blissed out when I could have a long bath. Oh, when I say bath, I mean running hot water filled in buckets. My nose was blocked but I had a wonderful time imagining the fragrance of the soap and shampoo and felt fabulous. It is all in the mind, sometimes.


Being sick means loads of time. It is a gift. To use exactly as I like. And I chose to rest. I did minimal housework during the last week choosing to make soups and one pot meals. I enjoyed going through old photo albums, reading my son’s poems written over the years and dozed, holding the papers in my hand. Of course, I had a notebook and a pen near me–what if I had some brilliant nuggets of wisdom–I had to note those down, right? I did. Being offline rocks!

Working from home

There is not a day when I am not grateful for working from home, flexible, on my own time. I felt particularly fortunate for not missing deadlines during this time. The manuscripts I was editing were out either for proofreading or layout and there was no pressure over those. I have a new manuscript I will start on this week and it is a feeling of happiness. On the blogging front, I’ve managed to keep up. Sort of.

Delayed repairs

Remember my reference to the seepage from the flat upstairs into ours? After a year and a half of complaining, they are finally done with their repairs and I had made an arrangement with the contractor to scrape the damp walls in our house–which included two  bathrooms, one bedroom, and the kitchen. Of course he didn’t turn up the day he was supposed to. Did I fret? Nope. Total Zen. Let things happen in their own time, I thought. My son was leaving the next day and it was nice not to have workers marching in and out. As it happened, they did turn up four days later, started the work and left with the promise of returning the next day. It is six days now. Again, grateful, because I wouldn’t have been able to play assistant to them. All in good time. Sigh.


Yep, as busy as she was, my “sister” found time to make me some soup and come over and was just in time to sit and enjoy a mug of my special ginger-lemon-pepper-honey tea. Grateful for the interlude.

And while I was sleeping…

…my favorite magician and sister, Vanita Cyril quietly installed the SSL certificates on all my six blogs and moved them to https, then took care of all the related stuff that needed to be done. All my websites/blogs are now secure with https addresses.

So grateful to her for her constant support, her unconditional love, her daily nagging, her tell-it-like-it-is, that keep me grounded. Every day, the moment she logs in, she asks me “What did you do for your soul today”, and because by the time her day begins I am halfway through mine–I’d better have an answer ready!

Son’s visit​

​See how I saved the best for last? Our son was home for a week and of course, we built up the excitement leading to his arrival. I kept the week absolutely free and in spite of the hospital visits, we managed to enjoy many happy hours with him–cooking, eating together, talking late into the night, watching TV, movies, visiting our favorite bookstore, and even eating out one day. The togetherness was awesome. All too soon, the week came to an end and he went back. And now, we’re waiting for the next break!

As I wait for my sense of smell and for my taste buds to awaken, I will continue to enjoy endless cups of tea and eat as usual. There’s a special joy in imagining taste. And oh, in a burst of energy, on one of these days, I made a big batch of avocado muffins. My niece enjoyed them.

I am grateful for October, exactly as it was.

What about you?

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Modern Gypsy October 27, 2017 at 8:26 pm

I love your positive spin and acceptance of things. I hope you feel better soon, and that your husband’s tooth surgery is a success. xx

Ramya Abhinand October 27, 2017 at 8:54 pm

There are things to learn in everything around us, in illness and in health. NEvertheless hope theres better health and the dental treatment for the husband too goes through fine. And despite this and the repairs, you managed to get a quick shopping expedition? as they say, it is retail therapy indeed. The best thing is the month saw it all, with the son coming home and with moments of family time.. Cheers to the Cotober that went by for you!

SHALINI BAISIWALA October 28, 2017 at 12:21 pm

Avocado muffins- ok you have me intrigued and I know the post is not about them but still you cant write muffins and not even show a pic!!! *fuming* I want!!!! 😉

Loved your chatty post about life and where its been taking you. Your sister is such an angel, wish I could entice her away and you manage and write on six blogs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!* fainted*

I wish you best of health though I can see you have been enjoying it as a forceful break from the humdrum of life!!
Cheers Vidya for feeling a 100% soon and may your hubby have success in his tooth surgery too!!!

G Angela October 28, 2017 at 3:07 pm

Interesting post vidya, sorry to know about your health conditions, despite all the discomforts – i love your attitude and its inspiring to see how get to see the best in every situation. Thank you for sharing:)

Vidya Sury October 28, 2017 at 3:12 pm

Thank you dear Angela! Not being positive is not an option for me sometimes. Something or other always turns up! Hugs!
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Aditi Kaushiva October 29, 2017 at 1:49 am

I love your positive outlook and how you find a silver lining in all aspects of life. So much to learn from you, Vidya! 🙂 Thanks!

Rachna Parmar October 29, 2017 at 10:08 am

Love your gratitude post as always for putting things in perspective and for always seeing the silver lining in the dark cloud.

I followed your updates on flu. Terrible when that happens and really bogs us down. Your indomitable spirit is of course kicking the crap out of it. Glad that you are doing better.

Hope Suri’s dental treatment are not stretched out. Having spent the first 6 months of this year struggling with an extraction and then a difficult root canal treatment, I actually cried when the treatments just got prolonged. Feeling so much better now. I know it is tough to handle. Sending my best healing vibes your way.

That blogger meet was so much fun especially because I loved catching up with you and Shailaja. Wish we continue to keep meeting and sharing laughter.

What a joy to read about Vanita. It’s such a blessing to have such people in our lives who take care of these niggles effortlessly.

And finally I can see how much Vidur’s visit meant to you. Till the next one then.

Do try having nimbu achaar. My mil says that it restores taste after an illness like a flu.

Hope November is a wonderful month for you absolutely devoid of any illnesses and pesky social media account lockouts. Very baffling that twitter lockout. That it happened to Shailaja and your account was even more surprising.

Vidya Sury October 29, 2017 at 11:05 am

If there’s one post I really love writing, it is this one, Rachna. It is wonderful as well as grounding to take stock. Also, it is one of my easiest posts as I make points throughout the month daily, in my gratitude journal. Started off because the journal was so pretty, and what better way to build a habit!

Thank you for your kind wishes. I am recovering and I think I had a pretty good time being sick. I could easily get used to being offline and bingeing on tv. Okay, I am kidding. I was busy with some DIY, the result of which you’ll soon see. I was practically surviving on nimbu achaar. I buy the citron and spiral cut them, and pack them with haldi and salt and let them sit. The result, after a couple of months, is pure bliss. 🙂 It is our go-to remedy for various things.

The dental treatment is a little more annoying because we have to visit the hospital. Can you believe that we’ve spent all our Mondays for the last two months in hospital? Not really happy with the treatment process and after our follow-up visit tomorrow, we will take stock on our next course of action. Keeping everything crossed!

Yes, Vidur’ visit was the highlight. Waiting for Dec 3 now! And by the way, his birthday is also in Nov and can you believe he’s going to be 20? I am still getting used to that thought!

Always a pleasure to meet you and Shailaja. We really should not wait for events to make it happen 🙂 I have a feeling we’ll meet more often in 2018.

Hugs, Rachna. Thank you for your presence in my life.

(Thank you so much for your comment–sorry the first one got sucked by cyberspace)
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Shilpa Gupte October 29, 2017 at 4:44 pm

I hope you have regained your health by now, as well as the sense of smell and taste, Vidya, dearie! Falling sick can be such a pain, but you take it all in your stride! Loved this positive tone to your post…I hope November blesses you with loads of happiness and good health…that’s most important, no?

My Inner Chick October 29, 2017 at 7:45 pm

**there are moments of crystal clarity followed by total exhaustion? I am enjoying those waves.** ( I like that )

And I love how you saved best for last! Before my boys come home, I bake and prepare. It’s SO FUN))

xxx from MN. Love you more than chocolate chip cookies.

Kristi Campbell October 30, 2017 at 4:55 am

Hope you’re feeling better and YAY to blogger meets, son’s visits, and unexpected Twitter blocks (yikes). xoxo

Vidya Sury October 30, 2017 at 4:32 pm

Hugs. So happy to see you!

Kristi Campbell October 30, 2017 at 4:55 am

PS I saw you over at Kim’s place and was like OH WOW, I know her. I miss her! So, here I am.

Vidya Sury October 30, 2017 at 4:30 pm

You won’t believe this, Kristi, just yesterday I was looking at a Finish the Sentence Friday post from 2015, and sighing. Hugs! I miss you too. And of course I stalk your updates on FB and Insta.

Mahati ramya adivishnu October 31, 2017 at 5:41 am

I am afraid of a dental checkup, I hope it works out well with your husband. Good Soup and hot water bath are really amazing to lift up our mood. My October is great too with reading, writing, and dancing.

Allie Tur November 1, 2017 at 12:40 pm

This is so amazing i really loved it.
The way you have explained everything looks so great.I was feeling so good when i was reading this.
Thanks for sharing this with us.

Darla M Sands November 1, 2017 at 8:55 pm

What an awesome attitude you have. So glad your son got to visit. And please do share your post about Navratri. Namaste, my dear.

Yara Mel November 4, 2017 at 1:03 am

I saw your comment of blog tyrant and decided to click.
Your blog is so beautiful, full of positivety and so inspiring. I love the images too, super cute!

Vidya Sury November 4, 2017 at 9:21 am

Hey! Thank you! 🙂
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Parul Thakur November 6, 2017 at 1:23 pm

Hope you are feeling better now. I love how you think of all things positive and bright. Every time I am here, I leave feeling happy and more grateful. Warm water bath, those cups of coffee/tea, working from home – all that is bliss. Good to know Vidur was around and you all had a lovely time. Hope Vidur’s two weeks of dental stuff get over soon and yes, hospitals make me feel grateful towards life.
Wishing you a lovely November, Vidya! Hugs!

Vidya Sury November 6, 2017 at 4:27 pm

Thank you, Parul! Indeed, focusing on what I already have makes everything better. Although, sometimes I have to make an effort, especially with a running fever. But much better now. (The dental thingy is for Sury–slow progress but progress nevertheless) Thank you for your lovely comment.
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Parul Thakur November 6, 2017 at 6:07 pm

Oops! I am sorry. I knew it was Sury but I think, Vidur was on my mind. He is the kid of the house, you see 🙂 <3

Vidya Sury November 6, 2017 at 10:23 pm

I understand. I address everyone as Vidur or Bala 🙂
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JayanthyGovindarajan (@JayanthyG) November 6, 2017 at 4:00 pm

You talk more like a Zen about many things! Practice definitely makes us better!! I love your post for the simplicity it shares Vidya

Vidya Sury November 6, 2017 at 4:28 pm

It all comes from life-experiences, Jayanthy. Also, thinking along those lines is soothing. You are perfectly right about the practice, because that’s what I am doing. Thank you for coming by. Are you feeling better now?
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JayanthyGovindarajan (@JayanthyG) November 7, 2017 at 1:04 pm

So Much better, Vidya. Thanks so much for asking and dropping by! Little ones grow up so quick and that’s so true. From being the fragile ones they show their strength from a very young age as little as in months. How cute of the 8-month-old to crawl out behind her granny!! The best part is their cuteness, we just can’t do that strict thing with them 😂 without laughing!

I realized I forgot to mention the Diwali celebrations on the blog post. 🤔 That calls for a separate post!! 🤣

Vidya Sury November 7, 2017 at 1:09 pm

Yes, time flies! Do write about the Diwali celebrations!❤
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Vasantha Vivek November 8, 2017 at 3:10 pm

Happy that all your blogs have been moved into secure space. Best wishes for Orange Flower Awards. I have also voted. Happy to join with you for this Gratitude post every month.

Akshata November 9, 2017 at 3:28 am

You had quite a month, loved the narrative- makes me feel like I was right there. Its nice to see your positive and infectious spirit despite the not so good things. Bonding with your son and the me time was certainly fabulous! I am linking up soon!

Vidya Sury November 9, 2017 at 5:36 am

Thank you, Akshata 💟 I’m looking forward to reading your post! Yes, son visiting always overshadows the could be better bits.
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