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Mi Vidya Sury

April 15 is my Mom’s birthday. I am particularly happy that the alphabet for today is M for Mother, Mi to me. She would have been 69 today.

By now you know how close I was to my Mom. As much as she influenced me when she was alive, she continues to inspire me every day through the wise words I received from her, the unconditional love she showered on me, her kindness and her always cheerful attitude and nature.

My Mother taught me some powerful lessons as we went through life together. I was always amazed by her ability to see the good in any situation regardless of the treatment she received. She did not have an easy life and even when her cup of peace came along from one of the most difficult times in her life, she bore no grudge.

I often argued with her about being too nice for her own good. And she would playfully say that no kindness goes waste. One thing is for sure – she smiled most of the time and kept me smiling too.

Perhaps the biggest thing I learned from her is seeing the lighter side of things.

I remember, during summer, we would get ants in the kitchen. To keep them from getting to the food, we would fill a large tray with water, place a stand in it and the food container on the stand. One day we stacked the containers in a hurry, and did not notice that it touched the edge of the tray, giving the ants a convenient bridge to reach the food. A couple of hours later, when we went into the kitchen to make some tea, imagine our shock to see a steady row of ants feasting on the food! I was about to disrupt it when my Mom held my hand, and said, no – don’t do that. They’ve worked so hard. Let them party! Then we both burst out laughing!

Mi Vidya Sury

Devi. 1945-2010

In 1995, Mom had a major freak accident. She fell from the second floor at her school – they were renovating and the staircase from the second floor had some loose steps. She slipped and landed directly on the ground floor. Luckily, she did not break anything, but the impact on her back was severe. She was advised by the doctor to go on complete bed rest for six months, which meant she had to quit school. She was upset. Then, the next day, she laughed and said she’d consider it early retirement and decided that she may as well enjoy the forced rest and started teaching children at home. This led to English speaking classes – something she always wanted to do! I learned that the best way to enjoy life is to embrace the situations life presents us with and make the best of it!

I inherited my Mom’s penchant for lists. I would always tease her about listing every little thing  – like trimming nails, bathing, and other trivial stuff – and she’d say “it is the little things that matter. See how you feel when you do those things you usually do, and check them off your list. The motivation is priceless and keeps you going”. I am glad the habit stuck with me, helping me stay focused, and now Vidur lives by lists, too.

My Mom was a school teacher and her students adored her and it was not difficult to see why. She never had a harsh word for anyone. When I was old enough to understand, I discovered her secret. “Think twice before you speak” was her mantra. Especially to yourself, she said. She taught me positive self-talk. And most of all, she fed me the classic: Be remembered for being positive, not for saying something hurtful.

I am filled with Gratitude that I am her daughter.

A tribute to Mi.

 Mi Vidya Sury

Day 13 of the Blogging From A to Z Challenge

M for Mi.

 ♥

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    KP
    April 15, 2014 at 6:01 am

    Moms are always silent and enriching influence but if they happened to possess admirable qualities as your mom did,the children are doubly blessed.It was a glowing tribute to the lady who braved it all with a smile on her face.Her legacy,the positive smile,I see is being carried on!
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      Vidya Sury
      April 15, 2014 at 9:09 am

      Thank you, Sir.
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    Sreeja Praveen
    April 15, 2014 at 10:55 am

    Hi Vidya,

    First up, A warm post about Mi, and as usual, the memories cascade out with the perfect rhythm. Loved this post for all the warmth it radiates, and for the lovely messages that it weaves through till the very end.
    It is fortunate that the ‘M’ letter coincides with ‘Mi’ and that coincides with her Birthday too, the 15th. I remember reading your Mi post for 2013, and again that was on 15th too.
    We won’t need to take an effort to remember these things, because we don’t forget them in the first place. You’re living these memories every day ! M for Memories ! 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:32 am

      What a lovely comment, Sreeja! Makes me feel warm all over! You know, April 15 every year is reserved for a post about my Mom 🙂

      I love how you notice every little thing! I appreciate you very much!
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    Aditi
    April 15, 2014 at 11:18 am

    Happy Birthday Mi! We have all had the privilege to know you through Vidya and the beautiful posts she weaves around your memories!
    This was a wonderful tribute Vidya and her radiant pic just adds to this post!
    Today is my Dad’s birthday too! 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:34 am

      Huge hugs to you Aditi! The way you started your comment made me cry instantly!
      Thank you for your love!
      Happy birthday to your Dad!
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    Proactive Indian
    April 15, 2014 at 12:03 pm

    “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” applies aptly to your Mi! Happy Birthday to her!!

    With her inspiration, you have been practising these words by Ron White:
    “I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade… And try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.” 🙂 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:35 am

      🙂 Thank you, Pro! My Mom would have carried the vodka, too, just in case.
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    Shailaja V
    April 15, 2014 at 1:21 pm

    When you speak of her, I can hear the love, admiration and joy in your voice and that tinge of longing.

    Those words in tribute are straight from the heart. I burst out laughing when I read the anecdote about the ants. Such a wonderful perspective. So much to learn and so much to imbibe. I consider it an honour to share my day with her.

    Much love and many hugs,

    Shailaja
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      Shailaja V
      April 15, 2014 at 2:50 pm

      Oof! I totally missed seeing the Birthday wish at the end of your post 😀 Thank you, Vidya 🙂
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    Corinne Rodrigues
    April 15, 2014 at 2:21 pm

    You had me in tears with this one, Vidya. The poem was beautiful! The ant story is delightful! 🙂
    What a happy confidence that her birthday and the letter ‘M’ coincided! Memories are treasures – and you really know how to nurture them well!
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:39 am

      Thank you, Corinne. Unconditional love was something my Mom excelled at. I am blessed. :)Some days, it is the memories that keep me going.
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    Martine Joseph
    April 15, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    What a beautiful tribute to your Mi, Vidya! The story of the ants is so memorable. Thank you for inspiring me today.
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:40 am

      So happy to see you here, Martine! Mom was a delightful person. Thank you for your presence here today.
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    Monica Deshpande
    April 15, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    Thanks for sharing this, Vidya. It’s tearing me up. The tribute and the poem are both lovely and I can see how she has influenced to collect smiles.
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    simple girl
    April 15, 2014 at 3:53 pm

    very heart warming post..
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    Beloo Mehra
    April 15, 2014 at 4:09 pm

    A post that is so full of love and warmth. I was so touched by this, Vidya! What a tribute to Mi. The poem is so beautiful, just like your Mom in that picture. Thanks for sharing her with your readers. The ant story is just so delightful, I am telling it to all the kids I know 🙂 Lovely.
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:44 am

      Thank you, Beloo. Of all the photos of my Mom, I am in love with this one the most. I have lots of her stories in my head. Every moment I am in the kitchen, she’s with me as I remember all the funny things she said. Sigh

      Hugs!
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    Suzy
    April 15, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    A lovely tribute to your mother. Your love for her shines through.
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    vanita
    April 15, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    your mom is simply beautiful. sadly I don’t have many pictures of my mom smiling but i do cherish the few i have. i can very much see you in your mom and i wish i had personally known her sis. hugs and love to you. v
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:52 am

      I’d love to see one of her pictures, Vani. I am so glad you stopped by. Hugs!
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    Gauri
    April 15, 2014 at 5:43 pm

    Your mom is an amazing person Vidya, and you are lucky to have her in your life 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 10:53 am

      Yes, Gauri. I am indeed lucky!. Thank you!
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    Kathy
    April 15, 2014 at 6:03 pm

    You have written a beautiful tribute to your mom. She would have been so proud of you and the happiness you bring others. She was such a lovely lady, as are you. I am so happy we are friends. ♥
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:00 am

      Me too, Kathy! So happy we are friends. Thank you for your kind comment!
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    Pratibha
    April 15, 2014 at 7:18 pm

    I love reading the posts about your mom. They are so positive and heart warming to read. It is almost like I have known her.
    I can imagine how your mom must have been, because you are in many ways like her through what you describe. Loving, caring, helpful and guiding! Love to you always. You know my oldest nephew shares his birthday with her. 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:03 am

      Wow! Happy birthday to your nephew, Pratibha!

      I’ve never quite met anyone like my Mom, so full of positivity and humor. I am very lucky. And blessed.

      Thank you, Pratibha! 🙂
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    Obsessivemom
    April 15, 2014 at 7:22 pm

    I simply love how you have imbibed your mums’s values and have passed them on to Vidur… The positivity, the smiles, the happiness – that’s why I enjoy coming here.
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    Jayanta Tewari
    April 15, 2014 at 7:32 pm

    Hi Vidya, a very warm post radiating your love for your mom through each of the words..There are lots of life lessons you mother taught you and the below one resonates with me the most…. Her reaction in the ant episode is simply amazing. Thanks for sharing this.

    “by her ability to see the good in any situation regardless of the treatment”.
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:22 am

      Thank you, Jayanta! She set high standards for herself but did not impose on others. That’s what made her a great example to emulate.
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    Priya
    April 15, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    Happy Birthday Mi! Your posts about your mum sum up your relationship with her and her picture shows what a lively person she must have been. Btw, April 15th is my elder brother’s birthday too. 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:27 am

      Wow, Priya! I love thatso many people are celebrating their birthday today! Happy birthday to your brother!

      Loved your post about meal plan for babies! Not sure if my comment went through, though.

      Thank you for visiting!
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    Kaarina Dillabough
    April 15, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    My dear friend, the apple has not fallen far from the tree. The lessons and love your mother imparted are embedded in you, and you share them graciously with the world. Lovely tribute: love you. Cheers! Kaarina xo
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:29 am

      Oh thank you, Kaarina! Your words mean the world to me. I am not shy to admit that the “tribute” I wrote just flowed naturally. Did you notice the first letters of each line add up to “Gratitude”? Blush!

      Hugs! I am glad you are in my life!
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    Birgit
    April 15, 2014 at 7:52 pm

    How beautiful and eloquent. She has a beautiful smile and she would be very proud of you for how thoughtful you are and this is seen in your writings and feelings on life
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    Inderpreet Kaur
    April 15, 2014 at 7:59 pm

    Such a beautiful story of a beautiful lady; both on the inside and out. Love the smiling snap of your mom, its a perfect picture.
    Thank you for sharing this, its exceptional.
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:30 am

      Thank you, Inderpreet! I love that photo too!
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    Shiva
    April 15, 2014 at 8:01 pm

    I would not have missed this post for anything in the worlds…like many out here I am in love with this bond you shared with your Mi. That picture is a masterpiece. What a smile she had…it shows all the positive thoughts she had around her. I loved each and every line of this post..
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    S(t)ri
    April 15, 2014 at 10:08 pm

    A lovely tribute to your mom. May she bless you with all happiness 🙂 🙂

    ~S(t)ri
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    Smile, it makes (y)our day!
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    Shilpa Garg
    April 15, 2014 at 11:48 pm

    Your Mom is truly so inspiring! Loved the ant incident. The ability to see good in everything is such a wonderful quality. Loved the happiness and positivity she radiated!! Happy birthday to Mi! ♥
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    Guilie Castillo
    April 16, 2014 at 12:00 am

    Lovely tribute to your mom, and thank you for sharing her with us. What a fantastic perspective on life. The story about the ants speaks volumes–as does the photo you included. That smile! That spark in her eyes! How lucky you are to be her daughter, to have grown up with her. Congratulations, Vidya!
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:31 am

      My Mom always said life has a way of balancing things out and she was right, Guilie! Focusing on the good is a great practice.

      Thanks so much for visiting, especially this post. It means very much to me. Hugs!
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    Susan Maccarelli
    April 16, 2014 at 1:22 am

    There is something about the way you write about your mom. I’m not sure if it is just your love for her or that you are similar or what, but after reading a posts that talk about her, I feel like I knew her a little bit. Thanks for sharing. I love the ants story. That simple story speaks volumes about her. I explain my dad as someone who will go to get an oreo and find one in the sleeve and then offer it to everyone in the house first, where I would just scarf it down and bury the gab in the trash! I saw one photo you had in another post of her and my image of her is sitting on the balcomy with you laughing at your red bra blowing in the wind!
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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:35 am

      Ah, that red bra, Susan! She never stopped teasing me about it. After that incident, whenever I looked for something, she’d remind me of it and we’d end up laughing like we had gone crazy. You know, people thought she and I were very different – in terms of nature, but I now realize I am more like her than I imagined. Not surprising, considering we were always together. She was very unique.

      Thank you for visiting today, Susan. I am glad we met 🙂
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    Chandra Senan
    April 16, 2014 at 3:14 am

    Vidya,

    You are one of a kind – a gifted, prolific writer with boundless enthusiasm, irrepresible optimism and a singular talent for whom no subject matter is off limits or too difficult. Your dear mother must be proudly watching you from afar, with increasing satisfaction with every passing day as you hone your multifarious skills. Keep those sublime thoughts flowing.

    Best wishes
    Chandra Senan

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      Vidya Sury
      April 16, 2014 at 11:36 am

      Chandra, I am blessed to be connected with you. I love how you are always encouraging 🙂 Thank you!

      Love, Vidya
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    Shesha Chaturvedi
    April 16, 2014 at 2:33 pm

    As I was reading it I was learning a lot from your mom. I do believe that Kindness never go waste! My nani was same. My mom got traits of my nani(grandma). I loved the ‘ant’ part a lot. We could have never thought of it. It was amazing. Also accepting the situations and then making another move (accident incidence) sounds so inspiring!
    ‘Thinking twice before speaking’ prevents a lot of trouble! Lovely and soulful post… Heartiest Regards to your mom!
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    Freya
    April 16, 2014 at 7:21 pm

    Thanks for sharing Vidya. I so need to learn and practice lists and positive self-talk. A much needed lesson. 🙂

    Also Mubarak. 🙂 We have a peculiar family custom, where we wish the immediate relations too. Your Mom is so someone to celebrate. 😉
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    My Inner Chick
    April 17, 2014 at 2:25 am

    Beautiful. Memories.
    Your mother is stunning, Vidya.
    I LOVE when you write about her.
    She hears you, dear.
    xxxxxxxxxxxxx
    Luv u more than 5 black panthers in Kisumu.
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    carol graham
    April 18, 2014 at 8:11 pm

    What a beautiful, warm tribute. Moms never get enough praise and you did a beautiful job. It is wonderful having such a close relationship and I loved the ant story. I lost my mom when I was a teenager and it has bothered me all my life when I hear people put their mothers down — we are to raise them up. Thank you for doing that!

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    Michelle Wallace
    April 21, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    What a wonderful tribute to your mom, Vidya! <3
    She was an amazing woman.
    (You should put those beautiful words you created on a fridge magnet, or a wall hanging, or a bookmark, or even a rug…)
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