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What If We Focus on Self Love?

by Vidya Sury January 2, 2014 39 comments
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2014 is here and many of us are enthusiastically looking ahead, setting intentions, making resolutions, choosing that special word for the year to focus on. On December 31, 2013, the three of us at home, sat as usual, as is customary, to write down our resolutions. I usually balk at this exercise, even though I am a list-person. Still, this year, I was eager. I made my list. When my husband read out his list, I was impressed. When my son read out his, I was more impressed.

Then, yesterday, I invited my friends and fellow-bloggers to answer the following question:

“What is the ONE thing you’d like to focus on, this year? The One thing that makes you happy and feel fulfilled?”

I was overwhelmed when30 people responded. I was thrilled to see a majority of the answers were focused around self love or some form of self love, family, relationships, self care, gratitude and creative pursuits and I am honored to share these beautiful answers with you. I also urge you to click on their names to know more about them!

(Responses arranged in alphabetical order. Well, almost!)

Let’s focus on self love!

This new year I want to focus on nourishing and nurturing ‘ME‘…me as a better daughter, a wife, a sister, a friend, a dancer, a writer and a lot more! Aditi Kaushiva

The one thing I’d like to focus on this year is enjoying my life more. I’d like to do more of what I like and less of what I don’t like! I’m outlining and researching a new book and I’d like to focus on that since I absolutely love the researching and writing process. I hope to be able to take a week vacation to go somewhere tranquil, scenic and inspiring to actually write the book after I’ve done all the research. Working on a new book will make me feel absolutely fabulous and fulfilled. Angela Artemis

The one thing I’d like to focus on this year is gratitude. I believe that you will experience peace of mind and more optimism, suffer less stress, be more satisfied with life, less materialistic, often feel more spiritual, regardless of religion. Gratitude is the key to true contentment and happiness. This quote goes with these thought perfectly: “In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy.” ~Albert Clarke Betsy McKee Henry

The last 12 months brought in a whirlwind of changes. From uprooting to replanting in another location to new persons who walked into my life and became a priority, 2013 was a landmark year in all senses. In 2014 I aspire to focus on me as a better person, fulfilling my roles better, being a better life partner, a better daughter, a better person to others as well as to myself. Bhavya Nandakumar

I would like to make every moment count. This past year was like a whirlwind and I’d like to be able to take my time with life this year instead of rushing around! Cher Texter

I’m declaring 2014 a ‘me’ year – one in which I will focus on myself – my personal development, health and generally giving myself room to grow and shine! Corinne Rodrigues

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This year I’m focused on counting my blessings. Every day I’m listing 5 blessings and why I’m thankful for them. I’m giving thanks for the blessings I currently have and the blessings I know I’m receiving. The quote that sums it up: – “God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you ” ― William Arthur Ward. Elle Sommer

I would like to focus on providing as much help as I can to as many people I come across in my professional and personal life. It could be through providing advice, guidance, helping with chores, or just listening to people when they want to be heard. When I’m helping others, it makes me truly happy and alive and there is no other feeling like it. Hiten Vyas

Relationships. Our equations with each one around us make us the person we ultimately become- for ourselves and for others. This year, I aspire to a better human and therefore my focus this year would be to nurture each of my relationships. This year I focus on giving a wee bit more (than before) to all the people in my radar and hope that in the process I become a more generous, forgiving and a patient person. This year, I promise to hold my peeps even closer. Kajal Kapur

This year, my focus is on adding more pleasure to the everyday things. That includes the foods I eat, time in nature every day, spending more quality time with people I love. I know that discovering more pleasure in each day will bring more to everything I do this year. Karen Jolly

Now that I have begun drawing again, I would like to focus more on my art. I would like to focus on my writing continuing to write more fiction, haiku, and trying things in both mediums I haven’t before. Artistically I want to broaden my horizons. So in 2014, I would love to explore more avenues artistically writing and in the creation of artistic works. Kathy Combs

Myself: I am going to prove to myself that I am the only one who I need to prove myself to. Manika Garg

Your post made me think hard – because it asked what I’d want to Focus on instead of what I wish for! The brainwave hit me as I was reading the book Chef gifted by dear Richa. This is what I’d focus on this year – to not dwell on negative thoughts for I realize our subconscious mind is scarily powerful! Meena Menon

Lovely question.. I intend to pursue exploring the next level of my work.. It’s held hostage to my fears, my inability to be present and my being insensitive to people. Mohinish Sinha

This year I’m focusing on relationships, especially those with my family. I believe we’re all put on this earth to help others using the gifts we’ve been given. By reaching out and deepening our relationships with those around us, we create true connection to help and support others. In doing this, we grow the happiness of those we connect with and ourselves… Paige Burkes

Himalayas – would love to get back to the mountains.. it’s been 3 years and the calling is getting ever so strong. Ravi Kumar

2013 was a fabulous year. But it saw me getting very busy. This year I will devote all my energy towards better time management. And that will include writing and husband. I have decided to cancel out a lot of unwanted (society) commitments for a change…Richa Vikas Agarwal

The last few years I have focused on building a career after finally finishing my studies and so neglected something that was very dear to me when I was young – my personal life and ties. This year I wish to take my foot off the career pedal and instead focus more on love and friendship. Roshan Radhakrishnan

A new year always brings new hopes and dreams. And this year I would want to focus more on bettering myself in all relations right from been a daughter to a friend. To accept and love people as they are and just embrace each moment I get with my people. Because who knows what’s in store for us tomorrow?. Sheethal Susan Jacob

This year I’d like to focus on inner peace. As Master Shifu said, if you are truly at peace, you can do anything. Shilpa Garg

‘ME’ – A better husband, a better dad, a better writer, a better sharer and generally a better person. Sid Balachandran

I promised to write down one resolution that I have for this year. My one resolution is to be simpler. We complicate our life and lifestyles so much in order to please people or our egos. I resolve to make life easier and simpler. Sugandha Agrawal

One thing I am focusing on for 2014 is love. “Open your heart to love and allow your heart whispers to guide you. When you follow the whispers of your heart you will find the wisdom within.” Suzie Cheel

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Gorgeous painting by Suzie Cheel

This year my word is Joy. I’m going to be focusing on finding joy in all things and to live in Joy. “Joy” came to me in the form of a Christmas ornament and now I look forward to how this word unfolds for me. May you find Joy too in all you do. Suzy

After quite a few years of stumbling around, I feel like my husband and I are both sort of finding our footing. I just want to enjoy walking on stable ground for a while so we can focus on the view and not our feet. Tammy Soong

This year I enlarge my focus area from merely losing weight to losing it and keeping it off. At an equal focus is writing. Oh I’ve been writing pretty regularly but this year I’ll try new stuff… Fiction, poetry, everything. Tulika Singh

I would like to focus more on creativity – in writing and in music. To transition from a blogger who writes to a writer who blogs. To rediscover the joy of rhythm and harmony. In short, using both sides of my brain. Vaisakh Venugopal

Spending more time with family. Even though I work from home, I’m not always present. Vanita Cyril

I would like to concentrate on better performance in academics, better time management, taking up more household responsibilities and trying to finish authoring and illustrating at least one book. Vidur Sury

My soul and heart choose to focus more on “positive healing” this year. To facilitate positive healing in me and to those around me feels right because the empath in me wants to see everyone (including myself) completely healed. I know a positively healed world is possible…and I am going to Do my bit. It might be a drop in the vast ocean…but is a step in the right direction. I believe we each owe it to ourselves to be totally and completely healed. Zeenat Merchant-Syal

To summarize, we have:

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My heart feels full and I am so inspired by these responses.

Dear Friend,

Would you like to answer the question?

I’d love to know in the comments!

Wishing you a fabulous 2014 that is everything you hope for!

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Rainbow Hues January 2, 2014 at 11:00 pm

Wow! WHat a delightful post this has turned out to be. So many people really do want to focus on their self -self love, relationships, joy, etc. This one must serve as a reminder time and again and I guess I will personally refer to it towards the end of the year, Vidya.

Loved this post!
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Shilpa Garg January 2, 2014 at 11:07 pm

Wow! This is simply fantastic! Kudos to you, Vidya for spearheading this and making us think and reflect on that one thing we want to focus on! Hope we all are able to bring about the change that we really want in our lives this year! Best wishes to all and amen too! ♥
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Richa Singh January 2, 2014 at 11:11 pm

Wow Vidya 🙂 it is so cute and encouraging to see we all almost spoke similar emotions in different words. I am still smiling to myself. What an inspiring collection my friend 🙂 and all thanks to your brilliant thinking 🙂

Michelle Liew January 2, 2014 at 11:25 pm

Wonderful showcase of aspirations for 2014. May we all achieve what we set out to, Vidya!

Kathy Combs (@Kathy29156) January 2, 2014 at 11:30 pm

This was truly a lovely post. It was fun to read how much we all want to grow in the new year. ♥
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Aditi January 2, 2014 at 11:56 pm

Such a lovely compilation Viday…hope all our cups are filled with self love, self improvement, self reflection…almost overflowing cups 😉

Elle January 3, 2014 at 12:52 am

Wow Vidya, this is beautiful. As I read every lovingly felt line I had the strongest feeling of power for good emanating from this wonderful group. Woohoo, we are changing the world one lovely idea at a time.
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Hiten January 3, 2014 at 12:53 am

Hi Vidya,

What wonderful answers to your question about the one thing people would like to focus on this year! I really loved Vidur’s and I wish him the very best with his book.

Thank you.
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Vidya Sury January 3, 2014 at 8:51 am

Thank you so much Hiten! I will tell Vidur. I was thrilled when he answered the question immediately 🙂 Happy 2014 to you!
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Tammy January 3, 2014 at 1:11 am

Great list Vidya! and great group of friends. Glad I’m in it.;)
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Vidya Sury January 3, 2014 at 8:58 am

Me too, Tammy. I am so in love with your phrase! :)Thank you!
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Sid January 3, 2014 at 3:04 am

Great list Vidya 🙂
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Julie Barrett January 3, 2014 at 3:43 am

Vidya, I love them all! My words for the year are “joy” and “effortless”…I find if I focus on resolutions as “feelings of things I want to come on in and welcome” rather than as a specific things I must do, that leaves room for my mind to inspire me creatively and I get up and take action on that feeling all of the time. Worked last year, giving it another shot 🙂
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Jairam Mohan January 3, 2014 at 4:19 am

This was such a lovely idea to collate resolutions from people and put them up as a collective post, so much energy, positivity and motivation in this post. What a way to begin a day 😀
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Betsy/Zen Mama January 3, 2014 at 5:02 am

I love everything that everyone has to say here! I love the list you put together of everyone’s words. I may have to share that on Facebook!!
I have great gratitude for you! So glad to have you as part of my life!
xoxo and hugs,
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Vidya Sury January 3, 2014 at 9:02 am

Hehehe…Betsy, thanks. 😀 I found myself writing down the list (habit) when I thought, why not put a pic of it in the post!

I am grateful to have you in my life, too. Hugs!
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Sandra Pawula January 3, 2014 at 5:04 am

I’m going to focus on focus! Focusing on the priorities. Focusing on spiritual practice. Focusing on nourishment. And, of course, focusing on love!
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Suzie Cheel January 3, 2014 at 5:22 am

I love this post and thanks for using my heart. Such a wonderful collection with such inspiration. 🙂
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Suzy January 3, 2014 at 6:38 am

Wow this is an amazing post and what beautiful sentiments each one has come up with. Would love to see how this unfolds through the year. Thanks Vidya for making his happen for all of us. love hugs and joy to you.
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Roshan R January 3, 2014 at 6:49 am

haha… I love how that came together… everyone’s resolutions seemed to resonate around the same ideals.
So much love and happiness to share in those choices.
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tazeen s January 3, 2014 at 7:17 am

A very important basic to remember…love yourself. I intend to reflect on this and ensure my day to day activities related to family or work more meaningful….

Karen Jolly January 3, 2014 at 8:30 am

Vidya – what a new year present you gave us all! This list is so inspiring. I am so moved by the tremendous focus toward self love this year – I know all our pursuits will flow to us with so much more ease and contentment when we take the time to love ourselves first – it sounds backwards but when our own tanks are full we have so much more to give in 2014! Thank you Vidya for this gift!!!
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Corinne Rodrigues January 3, 2014 at 10:21 am

Thank you for so generously putting this all together, Vidya and seeing the thread running through it all! I think all our positive thoughts can surely turn into reality – such a wonderful feeling of shared hopes and dreams! ♥

And here’s to you, Sury and Vidur having an absolutely spectacular 2014 – individually and as a family!
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Vaisakh Venugopal January 3, 2014 at 10:46 am

Wonderful list Vidya. It was inspiring to read what everyone is looking forward to in 2014. Thank you for asking this question. It really made me think about my priorities 🙂
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Sheethal January 3, 2014 at 11:15 am

Another delightful WoW post. You always brings the best out of us 🙂
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Vidya Sury January 13, 2014 at 1:12 pm

That’s because you are the best, Sheethal!
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Proactive Indian January 3, 2014 at 1:25 pm

Great list of inspiring resolutions!
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Thank you, Pro!
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Robert January 4, 2014 at 1:20 am

Wow, what a great post – thanks a lot Vidja and I think I will copy your 30-point list. And yes, practicing self love just makes so much sense, because, let’s be honest, if we don’t love ourselves, what can we give to the world?

If we love our Self, we become love and we radiate that love into the world and allow everyone who is open for it to enjoy it.
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Vidya Sury January 13, 2014 at 12:57 pm

Please go ahead, Robert! 🙂 You are absolutely right about this: without self-love, we cannot give! Thank you for your comment!
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Obsessivemom January 5, 2014 at 7:36 pm

Love the way you brought it all together Vidya. Super post.
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Vidya Sury January 13, 2014 at 12:55 pm

Thank you Tulika! Hugs!
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Susie Lampman January 9, 2014 at 10:45 am

yes. i’m focusing on self-love this year too. To become a better and more responsible version of me.
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Vidya Sury January 13, 2014 at 12:54 pm

That’s wonderful, Susie!
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PhenoMenon January 13, 2014 at 12:49 pm

Now the saying”Charity begins at home” makes better sense no?


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100% Pheno! 🙂
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G Angela January 21, 2014 at 2:05 pm

very motivating vidya ! loved your post, set me thinking too, I would definitely like to focus on myself, improving and becoming better, thanks for sharing !
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