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by Vidya Sury March 1, 2019 24 comments
My Circus My Monkeys

I never thought I’d say this: but I am having a tough time writing this gratitude post today. Forgive me for being human, but ever since the start of 2019, besides the lovely four days traveling, life has been a roller coaster ride with something or other to deal with on a daily basis. Come to think of it, life has been a shaky ride for months now.

Last month I tried really hard and picked out the bright spots to list in my gratitude post.

This month, I am finding it a wee bit harder. I am allowing the state of my mind to cloud my thinking, and keep me from enjoying the moment, the good things in my life.

So just as well I host this gratitude circle blog hop, eh? A good reminder to practice what I preach.

Can you believe that I could actually make a long list of everything that went wrong? Only when I saw it growing did I stop to focus on everything that is going right. I’ve needed to give myself that kick in the posterior every other day. I have to confess it was cathartic to make the list.

Still, allow me to whine a bit, would you?

February brought quite a bit of unpleasantness.

Social media harassment

Who knew? I am an explorer when it comes to social media and pretty much post positive stuff.

You know how much I enjoy Instagram. On 1 Feb, someone started posting photos of me (stolen from my account) with nasty captions and comments and tags. I politely requested them to take it down, and they did. A few minutes later, the photos were back. I reached out to the community for help, because Instagram saw nothing wrong with it. They said it did not violate their community guidelines. I would show you screenshots of what the guy did, but I refuse to taint my blog with stuff like that. I thought it would fizzle off, but it wasn’t to be. The guy created new accounts to harass me. He got his friends to post my photos with even nastier and hurtful captions and comments and via DM. Oh, the mental torture I went through! Of course, I told myself that when one uses social media, these are possibilities, but what hurt was not having a support system to deal with it. Sadly, only a handful of people stepped forward offering to help. Well, such is life.

Long story short, the “issue”, as we delicately refer to it, has been resolved and I pray it stays that way.

All I can say is, beware on social media. There are all sorts of people out there. Keep checking your “new” followers.

My life does not revolve around social media and I don’t hang around there, anyway. It just hurts that the little time I spend there would result in this messy situation. I am reminding myself that I have a wonderful family, good friends offline, work I enjoy and a comfortable home. These are the times when the gratitude journal is a savior.

Health and other stuff

I am still recovering from my accident. The wounds are healing. I am grateful for that.

Feb also brought the intense shock of terrible blood test reports. Working hard to get back on target and get my life back together.

This month, we are also dealing with a series of cancelled flights, which means the run-around with getting refunds and rebooking at four times the cost of the original tickets, since commitments have to be kept. Grateful that while things are taking time, resolution is possible.

My computer continues to be cranky. My UPS died, setting me back a hefty expense for a new one.

My spectacle frames broke. It was under warranty (yeah, really!) and I handed it over to the shop to resolve. Should have been an easy thing to pick an identical frame, fit the lens and voila! Except, it wasn’t. They no longer had stock of that frame. And none in which my lenses fit. So it is now an issue their higher management has to provide a solution to, because progressive lenses are expensive—the same reason I didn’t make a spare. Also, I have to get an eye-check every year and the power changes. Sigh. Managing with reading glasses and cutting down screen time. And living with a constant headache.

As if all that wasn’t enough–you know how things expand to fill the space available—just about everything I did had some problem or other. You know—debit card being swiped twice while making a payment, flights getting cancelled, someone stealing my account on a website…the list goes on…argh!

Now is the time to back track to all that I am grateful for and

. . . here is my gratitude list

I am grateful for the customer service in these places that did their best to help me resolve most of it. True, there’ll always be problems in life… but so long as there’s a way to get back my peace of mind–I am fine with it. I’d only categorize it under life-lessons.

I am grateful for phone calls with my BFFs who just seem to sense that I need to talk to them, vent, cuss a bit, and then feel remarkably better.

I am grateful for the food I eat, and that I enjoy cooking and the local market around our place.

I am grateful to live in a comfortable home.

I am grateful for laughter and conversations with my son.

I am grateful for Vanita, as always, for having my back, soothing me, scolding me, giving me great advice and always encouraging me. The girl has set daily alarms on her phone to send me off to bed at 10 and to tell me to go walk at 6 am. My Mom would be so proud of her!

I am grateful I enjoy writing. Which is a good thing, what with six blogs. I am glad to say I’ve been working on posts for all of these for whatever it is worth. For now, glad for the enjoyable activity.

I am grateful I do work I enjoy, working from home without the stress of a commute. True that the commute from the kitchen to the living room has been a bit painful the past few weeks, but it comes under the “this too shall pass” category.

I am grateful for a wonderful partner—we celebrated 22 years of togetherness this month.

Of course, the day before our wedding anniversary is the death anniversary of my Mom. It is nine years now. We miss her every day. I am grateful I have her in my heart and so many memories to cherish. Some days, that’s the only thing that keeps me going.

Signing off this edition with the following fabulous quote that fills me with strength:

Nobody will protect you from your suffering.
You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away
or punch it away or even therapy it away.

It’s just there, and you have to survive it.
You have to endure it.
You have to live through it and love it and move on
and be better for it and run as far as you can
in the direction of your best and happiest dreams
across the bridge that was
built by your own desire to heal.

– Cheryl Strayed,
Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

Make today Great! #inspiringquotes #gratitude #mindfulness

If you like motivating affirmations, check out my Wednesday Wisdom post titled Just for Today. It might be just what you wanted to read!

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Damyanti March 1, 2019 at 2:20 pm

Congratulations on 22 years of togetherness! And your post reminds me, i need to go call my BFF>
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Shilpa Gupte March 1, 2019 at 3:13 pm

Gosh!!! So, this is what happened? I hardly have much tech knowledge to know what to do in such a case! I am glad things were sorted out for you, Vidya!
Congratulations on your 22nd anniversary! Also, it’s great to have BFFs who know how to get you out of your misery.
Hugs, dear! Hope things get better this month.
Take care!
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Soumya March 1, 2019 at 3:31 pm

2019 doesn’t seem to be going great for most of us, looks like. In spite of having a few glitches here and there, like you I’m trying hard to look the positives alone. Work is killing me, but I’m trying my best to look at the bright side.

I hope your health is better now, hottie! Also, I’m so sorry that I wasn’t aware of your Insta issue. That really sucks and it is so scary. I hope you have got a good pair of glasses now and your health will get back on track, I know that you will get it back.

Congrats on the 22nd anniversary! Wishing you a much better and healing March. Sending you lots of love and positive vibes from here <3
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G Angela March 1, 2019 at 3:38 pm

I felt very sorry for what happened in the social media, I don’t know how i would have handled this, a hug to you vidya to have dealt with courage and patience. Glad to know that you have 22 years of togetherness – congratulations to you and your husband and its a blessing to a long journey. Praying for your speedy recovery and wishing you good health and happiness. Thank you for inspiring me:)
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Rachna Parmar March 1, 2019 at 3:52 pm

I am so sorry to read all that you have gone through, Vidya. I had no idea about your Insta issue. Glad that it is sorted now. Terrible stuff all with your injury, flight cancellations, glasses etc. So nice to hear that you had your BFFs to watch your back and of course for Sury and your son. Nothing like family to help with crises. I really hope that March is a lovely month for you. No glitches and no more issues. Take care.
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Marian Allen March 2, 2019 at 1:45 am

I’m so sorry you’ve been harassed on Instagram! I’ve just stopped my Facebook activity (except for posting on my pro page) and started being active on Instagram. marian.allen is my IG name. It’s pretty much my only name every anywhere. No imagination–lol! Glad you’re healing from your accident. Hugs and more hugs!

Balaka Basu March 2, 2019 at 5:39 pm

Such a terrible thing to happen. I am glad that the crisis is over. I recently switched from a private account to a business account on Instagram, after reading your post I feel the need to be careful. Belated happy anniversary to you. Hope you keep shining and spreading the smiles.

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Shilpa Nairy March 3, 2019 at 11:54 am

Its so horrible to hear! You really got lot of patience to handle it smoothly. I wish everything settle down soon Vidya. Lots of wishes to anniversary. Be happy.

Parul Thakur March 3, 2019 at 11:56 am

2019 has been crazy and though I thought I would not say this, it is the truth on my side too. You will know a little more when you get to the post.
Sorry about the online harassment. Must have been so stressful and glad it is over. Congrats on 22 years. Take care of your health Vidya. Hope you feel stronger and better soon. Love and hugs. Wishing that March is better for all of us.
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Shubhra Rastogi March 3, 2019 at 1:25 pm

I am sorry to hear about social media fiasco. Congratulations on your 22 years. A great milestone indeed.
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Anjana March 3, 2019 at 6:55 pm

Social media tantrums are a pain in this digital era! Sorry to hear that you had to taste its bitterness. All that ends is well finally. Best wishes on your anniversary and hope you have many many years of blissful togetherness.
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Rajlakshmi March 4, 2019 at 4:06 pm

Woa I would have a major breakdown if I had to deal with so many issues at the same time. You are made of a different mettle to endure it all and still see positivity. And that’s why I love you so much. Always finding sunshine😊 So glad that insta issue got resolved. Congratulations on 22 years if togetherness 😀
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Debbie D. March 5, 2019 at 6:44 am

Happy Belated anniversary, Vidya! I’m sorry your life has been so challenging and difficult recently. You, more than anyone I know, are able to see the positives in every situation. May your strength continue and your health improve! ♥ Trolls are the scourge of the internet and I’m glad you got that situation resolved. And venting is good for you. It releases tension. Best wishes!
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Sanch @ Sanch Writes March 5, 2019 at 2:42 pm

It sucks about the harassment on social media. I don’t understand people like these! And interestingly, it’s usually men who think they are entitled to do it. It’s horrible when your hard work is stolen and even worse when the perpetrator goes on to abuse you. I’m sorry to hear your health hasn’t been great either but also glad that your wounds are healing. Much love to you and hope March is a lot kinder to you Vidya!
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shalzmojo March 6, 2019 at 11:09 pm

Congrats on the wedding anniversary Vidya – thats a whole load of years of togetherness!! May the Divine bless you both with heaps more!

So sorry to hear about all of your troubles; but look at the way you seem to be sorting them out. Kudos on your gritty attitude – love your gumption and am inspired a lot by it.

Huge hugs for the health troubles and hope you are back on your feet in no time. Cheers 🙂
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Sonal March 10, 2019 at 12:45 pm

Thank you for sharing this. The vices of social media have increased and there are so many loopholes in the terms and conditions, not to mention the community guidelines and privacy policies 🙁
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Vasantha Vivek March 10, 2019 at 3:38 pm

First have my tight hugs, Vidya. Sorry to read about all your struggles and happy that you found the ray of hope too. Glad that I could help you for getting out of that social media issue. It’s really horrible. Congrats on your 22 wedding anniversary. My regards to Vanita. Wish you a speedy recovery and also the happiest March!

Kalpana Solsi March 11, 2019 at 12:15 am

Happy belated 22nd anniversary and many more.
besties are a stress-buster and we should be thankful for them.
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Obsessivemom March 11, 2019 at 6:19 am

O my goodness Vidya that’s a whole lot of not so good luck. That it all came at once must have made it no better. I am so so sorry. Why on earth would someone pick on you like this? That, when there’s nothing abrasive or controversial about the things you post, just simple happy stuff.
Glad you still found things to be grateful for. I would have probably gone off social media/blogging completely. You take care. Hope March brings good things for you.
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Natasha Sinha March 11, 2019 at 11:42 am

Dear Vidya,

First of all big healing hugs. You have always been a toughie, and you know how you keep inspiring us, but I know when life tests and challenges us, all we can do is stand with our chin held, high and say, “Try me” and not “Why Me” and you seem to be doing exactly that.

“Tough times don’t last, tough people do.” And that’s how we are all challenging the new year despite all odds.
2018, was a testing year for many of us and 2019 continues to be, but we shall never give up, and we know that. What with our circle of blogging buddies, family and friends. And a beautiful linky like yours. <3

Happy 22nd. Mine is tomorrow, and it's the 13th year. 🙂

I have a private account on Insta and even though I know it doesn't work for me stat wise, I continue to keep at that way. So way of all the social media slandering. And I have no bandwidth to create another separate business account.
My website has been hacked a multiple times in the last few months. If not the entire website but with hours of spam comments floating in. It gets challenging, but I know this too shall pass. And then with more internet access come, more privacy issues.

Take good care of yourself. Keep inspiring us with you uplifting blog posts and social media posts. You know how valuable they are for us.

Here's sending you tons and tons of good vibes and a March that is truly magical and blessed.

Happy tidings. <3

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Vinitha March 19, 2019 at 10:37 am

Hugs, Vidya! I’m so sorry that you had to endure such unpleasantness. Social media sure is ugly and scary when people using it turns out to be nasty. I am glad you were able to resolve the issue.
I love to read your gratitude posts, how you manage to find the glimmer of happiness at the worst moment. Despite all the setbacks you are sailing on and spreading smiles, Vidya. I love that about you. <3
Congrats on your 22nd anniversary!
I know I am way too late to join with my gratitude post. But here I am. Wishing you a better and happier March (what's left of it 😀 ).
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