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Self Help Is The Best Help

by Vidya Sury July 13, 2014 17 comments
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Life at the Sury household was rather slow the past week. Self help was the last thing on our minds.

First, we had heavy rains, which was welcome, after the disgusting heat. But then, even though we knew the rains were necessary, it was quite annoying as it did not actually rain consistently. It would drizzle one moment, and then the sun would shine weakly. Somehow, it did not manage to quell the heat. Then, for three evenings straight, it poured like there was no tomorrow. We rejoiced. We thought of the farmers. We thought of all the things that depended on the monsoons.

You’d think all was well. As usual, cases of the ‘flu, cold, and strep throat spread. Incidentally, if we go to our doctor and tell him we have a cold when he asks what’s wrong, he just brushes us aside and asks, “tell me, what’s the problem”. Colds don’t matter. It is a part of life in the city we live in. Pollution, allergies, you name it, we have it all in this beautiful city. We love it nevertheless.

Then, Vidur fell sick on Wednesday. First, he complained of a not-so-comfortable throat. We were confident we could drive that impending infection away with home remedies. Truth was, we were scared as hell of his forthcoming music program, which was today. Minus him.

On Thursday, he bravely went to school, thinking he would manage. Alas, Fate had different plans. And so, the throat got worse. Much worse. He thought he’d never be able to swallow again. His voice disappeared. And we mourned it, because it meant no music program.

Sadness prevailed.

I took him to the doc, who prescribed antibiotics, and, well, life went on.

The thing I hate most about Vidur falling sick is the silence. He’s the sort who hums constantly. I missed that. And seeing him listlessly lying in bed broke my heart. Still, we hoped that we would at least be able to attend the music program today, in celebration of Guru Purnima, a major event at his music school. It was not to be. Sigh.

He’s recovering, albeit slowly. Coughing a lot. So painful.

Add to that, I did a random blood sugar test and you don’t want to know the result. Let me just say it is scary-high and I can’t figure out why. I was shocked. I was miserable.

Things didn’t work out the way we expected, but I am compelled to be grateful for what is. And as Vidur enjoys saying,

Self help is the best help!

  • For one thing, Saturday and Sunday were holidays – their school usually works a 6-day week. But second Saturdays are off. This was one. We were relieved he didn’t have too many days to catch up with.
  • We have a doctor who prescribed medication
  • I am glad I did my blood test. I am going back to my super-strict diet.
  • We have a warm and cozy home, which is more than most people have.
  • We have music
  • I used a coupon just in time before it expired and saved enough to cover the doctor’s fees. Ha. Every little helps, right?
  • We had a fun visitor today. We hadn’t seen her in a while and it was really nice to catch up and reminisce. She’s a smart young lady now. I felt nostalgic thinking of when we first met her, about nine years ago.
  • The weather is now wonderfully cool.
  • I know this too shall pass.

Yes, we did the slow dance. Sometimes it is really nice to just sit back and allow life to take over.

Here are some photos from last week.

Can you see the little girl performing, walking on the rope? Sights like this scare the heck out of me. It hurts to see them risk their lives for so little. Oh, but the pride they take in their work!

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No dearth of onlookers, sadly.

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Closer home, in our yard, this Croton is flourishing

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Along with this one. See the heart-shaped leaf?

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See the statue of Goddess Lakshmi? We were returning home when we spotted her. Vidur insisted on bringing her home. The base of the statue is crumbling. But …well…. he insisted we take her home and restore her. Work is in progress. The rest of her is intact, save a few bruises which paint can easily take care of.

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Isn’t she pretty?

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That’s all I got this week. I am relying on self help to make things better.

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Obsessivemom July 13, 2014 at 11:02 pm

Aww hugs to Vidur hope he gets well soon. He’s a sweetheart for brining home Lakshmi ji. How many of us would do a thing like that? Thanks yet again for reminding me to count my blessings.
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Judy July 13, 2014 at 11:09 pm

Glad to hear everyone is on the mend. Keep your sugar at bay!

Kathy Combs July 13, 2014 at 11:12 pm

I hate being sick and have been for the last several days. No energy. My glands swelled and my ear hurt bad. Have been on antibiotics and trying to feel better. Even got glasses so now I can see. The headaches before their arrival were awful. Hope Vidur is feeling better soon! ♥
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Leovi July 13, 2014 at 11:42 pm

No doubt that goddess is beautiful. I hope Vidur has healed!

kalpana solsi July 14, 2014 at 1:20 am

In Mumbai its pouring.

I wanted it to rain to escape the scorching heat. And now my bedsheets and bedspreads hung out to dry are still damp and I want the sun to grace the sky. Humans want everything .

Vidur will recover soon.
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Romi July 14, 2014 at 2:26 am

The plants in your garden are beautiful.
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Star Traci July 14, 2014 at 5:06 am

I am sorry that Vidur is sick but I love how you found things for which to be thankful and sunny.
Take care of yourself dear!
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Sarah E. Albom July 14, 2014 at 6:14 am

It’s been raining all week for us too, though we got the sun for a few minutes yesterday. Best wishes to Vidur, and I hope he gets better very soon.
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Kajal July 14, 2014 at 10:19 am

Hope Vidur gets better soon Vidya. This post does give me food for thought today, now that I have been spiritually down for a few days 🙂
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Sulekha July 14, 2014 at 11:25 am

I am sorry to hear about the goings-on at the Sury household. Hope Vidur is better soon and can help you restore the lovely Goddess statue, Laxmi ma looks beautiful. it is a good sign that you saw her on your way back and brought her home, she is blessing you.

Beloo Mehra July 14, 2014 at 5:18 pm

Hope Vidur gets better soon. Bad throat could be such a pain, and then antibiotics have their own side-effects. But what to do, it is all part of this season, I suppose. Good to see those little plants flourishing well, I like such tropicals very much, they bring so much colour and texture even without any flowers 🙂 And that murti of Goddess Lakshmi is very beautiful, glad you brought the Devi home! With her blessings things will come to the normal course in no time in your household. Take care, Vidya.
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Ed Herzog July 14, 2014 at 7:58 pm

Love your perspective…there’s always lot to be grateful for if we only open our eyes! Hope Vidur feels better soon!!!
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Vishnu July 14, 2014 at 8:51 pm

Wishing Vidur a speedy recovery, Vidya. Sorry to hear about his voice and not being able to participate in the music program. So great you’re taking self help to heart and trying to do something about a situation you have no control over. Being grateful for what is reminds us of all the positive and good things we have in our lives.

The photo of the girl on the tightrope reminds me of what life sometimes feels like:)

Zeenat {PositiveProvocations.com} July 15, 2014 at 12:56 am

Hi Vidya,
My love and positive healing vibes to Vidur! Our household has been under the viral fever and throat infection spell since the past 3 weeks too. Haaniya had the exact same symptoms as Vidur. Then she got better..and then being the brave girl she is went to school…and now she is back to feeling down. A little bit of viral is still left in me too. Nursing a sore throat during Ramadan and fasting is a hard job.
But inshallah all will be well in just the right time 🙂
Love and hugs to Vidur and you too.
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Laurel Regan July 15, 2014 at 5:27 am

Sorry things haven’t been so great lately, but appreciate your grateful attitude in the midst of the troubles. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
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Cathy Graham July 15, 2014 at 11:13 pm

Hope Vidur is feeling better and things have improved for you. Sounded stressful. I hope having Goddess Lakshmi looking over you will be comforting.

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Proactive Indian July 19, 2014 at 5:30 pm

Hope Vidur is better now.
I guess ‘new’ diabetics tend to get complacent when sugar levels are under control. You always have to be on super-strict diet, exercise and lifestyle. Anyway, it’s good you did a random check.
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