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Stretch or Settle #WednesdayWisdom

by Vidya Sury June 20, 2018 7 comments
Should you stretch or settle #WednesdayWisdom #mindfulness #selfhelp

Often, we are faced with situations and opportunities where we can either stretch—go out of our way to do our best and strive to deliver a 100% or just settle with doing the basic-acceptable thing.

But stretch or settle – is that even a choice?

We’ve all grown up learning that we should always give our all to whatever we do.

When we don’t give our 100% to every situation, are we not letting others down?

What if we miss opportunities when we decide to settle, and not stretch to our limits?

Suppose we don’t stretch; will it help us to give more of ourselves to a bigger priority?

How happy are we with making this choice?

Are we ready to deal with the consequences?

The simple answer to all these questions is yes, you have a choice.

In reality, it is absolutely critical to identify our priorities.

When we do this, we are aware when to stretch, when to settle. Not all situations need us to pour all our energies into them. One of my favorite examples is the 80-20 rule—in my freelance writing work, I often deal with clients that suck 80% of my energy while making only 20% of my income. If I am wise, I will find a way to balance that with work that is not more enjoyable.

Identifying priorities also helps us recognize what we are passionate about, what we enjoy doing, so we can channel our energies there.

We also see what is worth fighting for, where we can grow.

Reflect: would you waste your energy over a negative comment to the point where it paralyzes you and interrupts your routine significantly? I hope you said no. So, no stretching there.

When you have your priorities in order, you also identify where you can grow, and how stretching can make a difference, both for you and for others.

Here’s something more to reflect on:

  • What stretches you?
  • When do you feel okay with settling?
  • How does it feel when you do what is expected of you?
  • When does it hurt?
  • Are there situations in your life right now where you are undecided how to react? List them. Try and categorize them into stretch or settle response.

How does it feel?

Some things are worth the stretch marks. Others are not.

And whatever you choose–stretch or settle–remember to enjoy the process.

You can tell this kid in the picture is pretty focused and won’t settle until she stretches, right?

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Should you stretch or settle? #WednesdayWisdom #mindfulness #Selfhelp

#WednesdayWisdom is a series with short bursts of easy-to-consume wisdom in the form of stories, quotes, anecdotes, and humor.

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Vinay Kumar Satyanarayan June 21, 2018 at 6:16 pm

It’s like reward or retribution….you stretch you are rewarded and you settle to be faced with guilt.

Rewards may not just mean money there’s personal satisfaction too.

Satisfaction means success!

Shailaja Vishwanath June 22, 2018 at 10:55 am

It really depends on the situation, like you mentioned.

AT times I would stretch if the person in question means more to me than the project itself. At other times I will settle if I feel the stretch isn’t worth it. Comes down to priorities doesn’t it? 🙂

Also, cute graphic 🙂

Shilpa Gupte June 22, 2018 at 4:24 pm

Hmm….quite a thought to ruminate over! Would I settle or stretch? Depends what I stand to gain from either of it…especially, peace of mind and contentment. I’ll go for these two any day in either of the scenarios.
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Sachin Baikar June 24, 2018 at 3:22 pm

Very well written post with a nice pic at the end 👍Thanks for sharing 🙂

Shantala June 25, 2018 at 9:01 pm

I feel like it’s a choice we must make every single time, depending on our priorities, and so like you mentioned, it can be highly subjective. I think your ending note sums it up – some things are worth the stretch marks, others are not. 🙂
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Magical Mystical Mimi June 27, 2018 at 12:28 am

I have settled but I much prefer stretching. My settling days are long behind me. 🙂

Darla M Sands June 27, 2018 at 8:36 pm

I make an effort to stay out of political discussions online. No matter my beliefs (primarily that all politicians are basically crooked ~grin~), I lack the debate skills to change anyone’s mind. I stretch to brighten peoples’ day, even if it’s just commenting on a pretty blouse or cool T-shirt. Namaste, my dear.
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