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More Than Enough

More than enough

I turned 50 on Sept 27. As I sat back figuratively (and literally) I took stock. First of all, just the thought that I was now 50 was amazing. It doesn’t feel like it. I had the same feeling with seven times seven. As I based in the hundreds of birthday wishes on Facebook, the phone calls all day long, the emails, the text messages, I felt completely loved. My husband wrote me a poem, as usual and I laughed and cried my head off. As usual, we organized lunch at our local welfare home and initiated education sponsorships for children at the School for the Blind.

For the past week, my son and husband were hounding me to tell them what I want. I said, I have…

…More than enough

It is true. I just could not think of anything I wanted or even needed. Still, they took me out shopping, insisting I needed a new laptop. We browsed some stores and I told them I’d like to wait until the stores overflowed with deals next week. (Cheap, I know. But hey, Navratri is around the corner and I don’t want to feel stupid about spending a few thousands more just because I couldn’t wait. I can wait). So finally we returned home with a bean arm chair. Yes, I’ve been hankering for a bean bag for a while now – but when we saw the range, and sat on several, the chair seemed a better idea. Ever since we got it home, I haven’t had the time to sit in it. All in good time!

In fact, I have so much more than enough, that I am in the process of simplifying life, giving away all that we don’t need. Better that someone else uses the stuff than storing it in our shelves. With that in mind, I’ve been de-cluttering for months now. However, what took years to accumulate is not easy to scale down overnight, or even in a month and I am taking my time. I am glad the urge to purge is strong.

I am slowing down consciously. Sometimes, life becomes such a hectic rush that we end up filling our time with the routine eating-sleeping-waking-rushing plus work. When we stop to think if much of this will really matter even a month from now, it is shocking how much of what we do is meaningless. Yes, I am loving my sense of philosophy now. Here’s what I plan to do with my time over the next few months:

  • Get through the stack of books I am looking forward to reading
  • Blog, of course
  • Write that book, edit the one that’s almost ready
  • Focus on my hobbies – painting, embroidery, quilting, sewing, sketching
  • Above all, live mindfully
  • Participate in NaNoWriMo
  • Spend more time outdoors
  • Plan a few trips to explore Karnataka – our state

I am only telling you that much! Turning fifty has rejuvenated me and strengthened my resolve to choose happiness above all else, every day.

Look who made my day on my birthday! No wonder my heart is full!

More than enough

My soul sister Vanita Cyril’s daughter

I love children and enjoy watching them. Here are some random photos… click to see original size with captions

I also discovered a fun way to order food this week. Thing is, whenever we think of ordering in, we break our heads over the choices and finally decide to cook at home. When we do order, it is always pizza because my folks tend to compare the options with what we cook at home, and I am gratified they find my offering superior.

So imagine my delight when by default I received an email from Food Panda. It was one of those let-me-see-the-promo-emails lazy days and this email from Food Panda suggested I have a pizza party. Ha, I thought. But when I opened the email, it turned out to be our favorite Pizza Hut with a buy one get one free thingy.

Ordering was easy. I curiously clicked on the link in the email, and went to the Food Panda page. It asked me for my location. Next, I had to choose a restaurant and my choice of food. It gave me the option to pay online, or pay the delivery guy. Zero delivery fees, by the way.

Once I got to the page, of course I got distracted by the choice of restaurants available. I was thrilled to see all our favorite places listed and turning traitor to Pizza Hut, decided to try out a restaurant called Mast Kalandar instead – as I had heard some friends speak highly of it. What better time than now – and so I ordered.

The food arrived, beautifully packed, I might add. We indulged, quite happily. Yay for Food Panda! The website features all types of cuisines and lots of options and special deals besides the full menus. Who knew I could sit at home and order from a restaurant down the road!

MastKalandar Vidya Sury

Vidya Sury FoodPanda

By the way, I was moved to tears reading this post from my very dear friend Terri Sonoda – It’s the little things  Terri is one of the most amazing people I know. She is a beautiful soul and beyond kind, besides having a fantastic sense of humor. You’ll love her latest book “Dark Pretense” – I got it and read it in one sitting and I think the book begs to be made into a movie. Please check it out – you can buy it on Amazon!  Her earlier book “Sara’s Sleep” is also fabulous.

My friend Zeenat of Positive Provocations also celebrated her birthday on Sunday – and wrote a lovely post where 25+ bloggers share how they practice gratitude. I am honored she included me in it.

And that’s it for now.

No wait – just one more thing!  My dear friend Joy of Facets of Joy’s highly energetic I Believe in Magic: 30-day photo exploration course is coming up – the next session of class will run from October 6, 2013 – November 4, 2013. Pre-registration (with a 20% discount) is open through September 29th, 2013. It is great fun – more details here.

That really is it for now.

I am linking up with UnknownMami for Sundays in my City, my favorite meme. She means the world to me.

Question for you:

How do you like to celebrate your birthday?

 

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67 Comments

  • Reply
    Rahul
    September 30, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    That was a perfect way to celebrate the milestone achieved, Vidya:) Wish you have many more bigger treats with every passing year!

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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:56 pm

      Thank you, Rahul. Thank you!

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    Kajal Kapur
    September 30, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    Wow…quite some that you got to do on your birthday, Vidya. Am sure this milestone means a lot to you.

    I like spending my birthday with my loved ones, of course, no big party, no roars, no big bangs…just plain lone time with someone I love 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:55 pm

      Thank you, Kajal. 50 sounds like I’ve achieved a lot 😀 I am not the party type either. We call it the QDH – quiet day at home! 😀

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    Shilpa Garg
    September 30, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    I love the positivity that radiates from you and your words, Vidya!! The key to success is to simply be happy with the things you have, very few people would say that they have more than enough!!
    Hope you get a fab deal when you buy your new lappy! And that’s a wonderfully packed and catered food… very tempting spread! Looking forward to read your book. Finish it ASAP! Cheers 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:54 pm

      Thank you Shilpa – what a lovely comment! Yes, my goal is to pack up that book this year! 😀 Looking forward to going laptop shopping next week!

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    Tess The Bold Life
    September 30, 2013 at 6:47 pm

    A beautiful day for a beautiful friend! Yes more than enough:)

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    Pattu
    September 30, 2013 at 9:11 pm

    Fifty is the new forty, now. Enjoy. and do write blog posts. WE all love it.

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    Angela Artemis|Powered by Intuition
    October 1, 2013 at 12:02 am

    Happy Birthday dear Vidya,
    You deserve the best – and way more than enough!
    Xoxo
    Angela
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:52 pm

      Thank you, Angela! My heart is always open to receive! 😀 I am glad we are connected! I cherish it!

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    Sandra Pawula
    October 1, 2013 at 1:26 am

    Happy Birthday, Vidya. I’m so surprised you are 50. I thought you are in your 30’s. 🙂 I’m so happy you had a good day and I wish you a fabulous year.

    I like to spend my birthday, or at least part of it, in nature. Then, going out for a nice meal is lovely too.
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:52 pm

      Sandra, I am in my 20’s! 😀 I enjoy the feeling of thinking that I’ve got everything I’ve ever wanted! 😀 Hugs!

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    ruchira
    October 1, 2013 at 1:30 am

    wow! a perfect milestone in a grand way!

    Vidya, wishing you many more to come and yes, give me a shout out when you plan on doing a nanowrimo.
    I did it last year and my creation is in the markets 🙂 That program does wonders and the more the merrier to have during that time.
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:51 pm

      🙂 Thanks, Ruchira! Yes, I enjoy November very much. I participated last year and sailed past my 50K in mid-Nov, but mixed up the validation date. Ugh. Still, I have my 100,000 plus words! Teaming up to inspire each other is a great idea!

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    Karen Dawkins
    October 1, 2013 at 1:45 am

    Happy BIRTHDAY!!! 🙂
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    Elle
    October 1, 2013 at 3:15 am

    What a wonderful birthday you had Vidya, a true celebration in every way. And I celebrate having you as my friend. We’ve never met in person, but I still feel as if I’ve known you for years. A great testimonial to your warmth and shining spirit.
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:49 pm

      Thank you, Elle. You always make me feel wonderful! Who knows, we might meet soon. 😀 I know the Universe heard that!

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    Evelyn Lim
    October 1, 2013 at 5:24 am

    I had no idea that you just turned 50. You sure don’t look the age. But maybe because you have always shown yourself to be young at heart. Have another amazing year! Hope that our friendship can continue for years to come!
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:48 pm

      🙂 Thank you Evelyn. I have been accused of behaving like a 24 year old, and I’ve decided to stick to that age for as long as I live. I know we’ll meet definitely in the next two years. I just know! Hugs!

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    Cathy Taughinbaugh
    October 1, 2013 at 5:30 am

    Hope you had a wonderful birthday, Vidya! Fifty is a milestone, but as we grow into ourselves, all the angst we had as a younger person drifts away. It is truly wonderful to be so full of life like you are! Wishing you the best!
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:47 pm

      Thank you dear Cathy! I am feeling good. I know I am less impulsive, more tolerant and less worked up about trivial stuff. Experience is a wonderful teacher. Thank you so much for being here today!

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    Proactive Indian
    October 1, 2013 at 7:04 am

    Happy 50th! Glad to know you are also a Libran!
    A friend recently shared a secret: after 50, start counting backwards every birthday!
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:45 pm

      Pro, I am just not surprised to learn you are a fellow-Libran. Yes, I’ve begun to count backwards already. 😀 Thank you for your presence here today!

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    Mary Stephenson
    October 1, 2013 at 7:57 am

    Hi Vidya
    What a great birthday you had! Those milestones make you think you are old, but you don’t feel so old. I always thought that 30 was old. Then you get there then you think well 40 must be old. Next, surely 60 is old. In a few months I will be 67 and my gosh I really don’t feel that old. But my hubby and I were talking today and realize that our balance is not what it used to be. So we are much more aware of how we walk, especially since my accident.

    I think as long as we keep thinking young we will remain young in spirit and body.

    You definitely have a lot planned in the near future. But do take sometime out to enjoy that bean bag chair. You shall have to get a picture taken of you in it.

    Have a great week.

    Mary
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:44 pm

      Thank you, dearest Mary! Keeping ourselves busy and thinking young are the way to go. I am always surprised to realize, on my birthday, about the chronological milestone I’ve passed. I am marveling at how I’ve lived 50 years. 🙂 I am sitting in my bean chair right now – will take a picture soon! 😀 Oh, but it is cozy!

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    Richa Singh
    October 1, 2013 at 10:03 am

    Your posts always make me feel nice about life. There is so much I relate to. Like the book which I need to edit and another that I need to start. How I am waiting to buy an ipad but going to do so only in navrtra. life is similar for many of us in so many ways.

    As for books, do blog the list I am interested in the ones you read. And vidya fifty or hundred you are going to be same, trust me 😀
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 11:03 pm

      Don’t you love the connection, Richa? 🙂 A big high-five to you. Hope to buddy up with you for the NaNoWriMo next month.

      What am I reading?

      I just finished Lavanya Sankaran’s “The Hope Factory” Fabulous book.

      I am reading Rohit Gore’s “The Guardian Angels” So far so good.

      I have started the autobiography of Rajnikanth 🙂
      I am also reading Peter Falk’s “Just one more thing” I am a huge fan of his – as Lt.Columbo from the TV series.

      And several more. I can never read one book – always read three or four together.
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    Usha Menon
    October 1, 2013 at 10:30 am

    Vidya, wish you a belated Happy Birthday. This was your mile stone birthday.Actually the “calendar birthday” is only for record.It has nothing to do with our feelings, ambitions, thoughts and aspirations. I will be 78 this month but I feel young at heart. I have same emotions,same feelings and the same urge to know more, and to learn more.
    Loved the way you celebrated your birthday. The food looks nice and tempting.
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:41 pm

      Thank you so much, Usha. You are a definite inspiration. You are right about the birthday being all about how we feel. I realized that too. I am lucky to always “feel” young, because my father-in-law, who is 80, is more like an 18 year old and quite energetic and a great example to us all.
      I am so happy you visited today. Thanks again!

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    obsessivemom
    October 1, 2013 at 2:14 pm

    Not too many people, me included, would ever say “I have enough”. Found your post very inspiring.. yeah decluttering is such a necessity. With Diwali coming up I needed this push. Thanks and a very very happy birthday.. belated.

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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:40 pm

      🙂 Tulika, I am frantically trying to reach my decluttering goals guiltily, I meant to finish before Navratri started, but couldn’t. So I’ve just decided to enjoy the process. 😀 Thanks for the birthday wish. So good to see you here!

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    devangana
    October 1, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    Happy Birthday..Enjoy life the same way!!
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    richmiraclefiles
    October 1, 2013 at 8:02 pm

    Hi Vidya,
    It’s rejuvenating to read your posts as always.In any case your posts do carry the maturity and wisdom of your years,but the energy emanating from them is far far more youthful.I hope you understand what I’m trying to say.
    Any way have lots of more birthdays.enjoy this one as much as possible.
    Hope to catch up with your years twelve years down the line.And possibly you!
    many happy returns
    mona
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:38 pm

      What a lovely comment, Mona! I second your wish, absolutely. I know miracles happen ;-)! Hugs!

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    Joy
    October 1, 2013 at 11:10 pm

    Vidya,

    I love your celebration! I can feel the joy and gratitude simply overflowing from your heart! And, the food looks *fabulous*! Thank you also for the mention…birthdays and *magic* are wonderful together.

    This morning I was telling my children I am so excited to be 50 (I am 43 so have a chapter to live first!). The logistics of my life at 50 will be so different from what they are now, I keep thinking *how fun*!
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:37 pm

      Love you, Joy! I love the magic you bring into my life. Our shared laughter is precious to me. Yes, I love the changes as they happen too. So much excitement, when we see them as a glorious new chapter! I look forward to us both holding hands across the table /walking on the beach and laughing our heads off!

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    Terri Sonoda
    October 2, 2013 at 4:04 am

    Such beautiful words and pictures! Happy Happy Birthday my dear friend! You continue to delight and inspire me with every word you write. Your zest for life and your big heart make me and everyone who crosses your path feel special. Much much love! And thank you for including me in your mentions. I was humbled. XOXOs
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:36 pm

      Hugs Terri! Thank you so much. You know what my wish is – seeing your book made into a movie!
      SO blessed to have you in my life!

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    Kathy
    October 2, 2013 at 5:25 am

    The Happiest Birthdays to you!! I hope your 50th year is overflowing with happiness and blessings. ♥
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:35 pm

      Thank you very much, Kathy! I am loving being 50!

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    Kalpana Solsi
    October 2, 2013 at 10:07 pm

    Belated 50th birthday. The food ordered looks so inviting.

    I once had a bean bag and sinking into it is a pleasure.

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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:34 pm

      Thank you Kalpana. The food tasted as good as it looked!. Right now I am sunk into my bean chair!

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    sridevi
    October 3, 2013 at 8:04 pm

    Rejuvenating and energizing and yet with a gentle nudge we all need … A lovely post Vidya and so looking forward to NanoWrimo with you next month 🙂
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:33 pm

      Thanks, Sridevi. Yes, I look forward to buddying up with you for the NaNoWriMo too!

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    Galen Pearl
    October 4, 2013 at 12:31 am

    So glad you enjoyed your birthday. Thank you for sharing it with us. I’m sure many of us had the same reaction –I hope I look that good when I turn 50. Or — I wish I had looked that good when I turned 50. Wow.

    I like to have all my family together for a nice dinner on my birthday.
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:33 pm

      Galen, you look like an angel to me. And that smile? It has taken up permanent residence in my heart, bright and delightful. Nothing beats the joy of togetherness with family, and all the smiling faces around us! 😀 Thank you!

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    My Inner Chick
    October 4, 2013 at 8:59 am

    Just one more thing…

    The world is SWEETER, Kinder, and More Interesting with you inside of it, Dear Vidya.

    Love you more than birthday cake w/ cream cheese icing. Xxxx
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:32 pm

      Cream cheese icing sounds delicious, Kim. I am grateful we’re connected too! Hugs!

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    Aparna
    October 4, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    Happy Birthday Vidya… You really don’t look like a 50 year old. Its great to know that you too hail from Karnataka

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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:31 pm

      Thanks, Aparna! It must be because I am a permanent 24 year old. I live in Bangalore, yes.

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    Rekha
    October 4, 2013 at 4:43 pm

    Once again wishing you a great year ahead. 🙂
    That would have been a simple yet superb birthday. May you be blessed with enough and more always and may you always have a heart to share it with the needy.
    Like always, loved the post, Vidya ji! 🙂
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    Vidya
    October 4, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    Vidya – Belated Happy birthday. Have a fantastic year ahead. I so agree with you on most of us accumulating way beyond what we need. SERIOUS De-cluttering projects can take months / years, but you feel awesome at the end. The more one simplifies life, the more beautiful it is.. I wonder why we hold on so tightly to complexities… Love, nischala
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      Nischala
      October 4, 2013 at 5:43 pm

      That was a typo.. Name is NISCHALA 🙂
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        Vidya Sury
        October 4, 2013 at 7:52 pm

        I found it so charming when I saw the name Vidya. 😀 Ah, I thought, here’s a namesake. Sigh. 😀

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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 10:30 pm

      🙂 Thank you, Nischala. The thing about clutter is – it happens slowly, sneaking up steadily. Things find a place to settle down. Strangely, I enjoy decluttering too. I take much longer than I should, but the time spent is fun – thinking back to that moment when I acquired the thing and having a good laugh over the memories. Oh yes, I’ll get there. 😀 Slowly, steadily, surely.

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    Ayush Chauhan
    October 5, 2013 at 9:21 pm

    Ummm…First up belated Happy Birthday I guess..and secondly I am stunned that you could wait to get a new laptop…if given a chance I won’t…maybe you get more patient as we move along…who knows…
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      Vidya Sury
      October 5, 2013 at 9:54 pm

      Thanks Ayush. And no, it is not about patience – fact is, I have a laptop that is in perfectly good condition and also a desktop which is what i usually prefer to use. So waiting for a week is no big deal. Even if I bought the laptop right away, I wouldn’t be using it as I am busy with offline stuff 😀

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    Suzy
    October 6, 2013 at 7:36 am

    Looks like you had a really awesome birthday. And I’m glad you bought the bean bag. Sometimes even when we have enough, it is generous to allow for a gift. Otherwise we rob the giver of the joy of giving.
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      da Vinci Lawsuits site
      October 10, 2013 at 11:58 pm

      Wow! You really have a golden heart. There are only few people in the world who desires to give without expecting a return.

      @Suzy: I once said, that giving a gift to someone whom you think had everything is the hardest thing to do. But, after reading your comment, I hope that the receiver thinks the same way like you do. Allow the giver enjoy the happiness of giving.
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      Vidya Sury
      October 11, 2013 at 12:07 am

      You’re right Suzy and very wise! And oh, I am really enjoying the bean chair! 😀
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    Unknown Mami
    October 6, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    You mean the world to me as well. You are always a dose of positivity. It’s not every woman that inspires her husband to write poetry.
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