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A Fresh Look At Life

by Vidya Sury August 4, 2014 15 comments
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As we live through the years, we tend to become blase and take certain things for granted, no? We don’t notice everything as keenly as we did, say, ten years ago. So many things cease to fascinate us, because they have become part of our lives, part of our routine.

In fact, I’d go so far as to say we don’t practice mindful living as much as we intend to. even though it is a catchphrase today.

What we need is to take a fresh look at life

What brings on this reflection?

Last week one of my gal pals and I were chatting. She mentioned she was off to a movie in the afternoon with her daughter and was musing about how movies were just one of two or three sources of entertainment during our childhood. She also mentioned how expensive movie tickets are, these days and of course, I laughed. I am usually happy to wait until a movie that I want to see airs on television. Also, the thought of spending almost 4 hours traveling to and from a cinema plus the 2+ hours sitting there freaks me out a bit. Don’t get me wrong though, I love the digital sound throbbing in my system off the huge screen as much as any movie buff…it is sheer laziness and the expense that stops me. I always think – so much easier and cheaper to buy a DVD or watch it on TV from the comfort of our own couch.

So anyway – after our phone call, Sury and I were reminiscing about the movies we watched during our childhood – with the cheapest tickets in my case as my Uncle firmly believed that no matter where you sat, you saw the same screen so why spend double? Ha! In course of conversation, we realized Vidur had never been to a movie hall. Well he has, but he was 2 and a half at the time and would hardly remember a thing. Not that we let him forget! We tease him about how he was upset there was an intermission and refused to turn around in his seat and watch the rest of it! Oh, so cute!

And thus we decided to go watch a blockbuster hit movie. We bought our tickets online – our first experience and we loved it – and waited for Sunday.

I found it so endearing that even Sury was so excited about going to a movie hall! We had lunch at home and set off for the 2.30 pm show. At the cinema, I felt so nostalgic, recalling the hundreds of movies I’ve seen. Each time the hero would appear, the audience would scream their heads off. I find none of this annoying and always marvel at how one individual can move the masses. We had decided to enjoy ourselves and we did. The weather was partially rainy and we enjoyed walking back home.

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What touched my heart was the wonder with which Vidur saw everything. He was amazed at the huge popcorn packs. But refused to buy one because it was “too expensive”. Knowing him, I had carried some snacks as backup from home – I mean, who doesn’t eat during a movie interval? We loved watching him look at all the huge posters around, the crowds, the chatter, the laughter. I nudged and asked if he would like to do it again. And he said yes!

Naturally, as we walked home, we got talking about my childhood stuff. En route, we saw a “laundry” the washer-men are called Dhobis.

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In those days, we used to have a family Dhobi who would come and collect clothes that needed to be washed. The clothes would have a specific identification mark. He would collect the bundle and return them neatly pressed and laundered. And? It used to be so cheap.

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Now, with the escalating cost of living, they’re struggling to survive too, yet the practice is very much alive. We don’t use them as we do our own washing…but I find it fascinating to see them at work.

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We also chatted about cooking and saw one of these stoves by the roadside. They are called “chulhas” We used to have these decades ago – the rudimentary stove in our kitchen. Subsequently we had a kerosene stove, and then now, gas stoves and microwaves, which are absolutely no use when there’s a power outage!

As we mused on how we’ve moved from the simple lifestyle to a more complex one with our gadgets and other “conveniences”, we pledged to appreciate everything. We promised ourselves that we wouldn’t get so caught up with technology that we forgot to be grateful for what we had.

For my part, I am grateful that I am a child of the 60s. I was privileged to evolve from a home that had no appliances to make life easy, but where the family did everything with love.

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Maybe I am hooked on technology but only to the extent of connecting with people and communication. Because people will always rule above technology.

I feel blessed to have a family that thinks similarly.

As I reflect, I think, let us never lose the wonder with which we see things.

Let us never stop appreciating the world we live in.

And let us celebrate the small things.

Because, as the adage goes – they ARE the big things.

I have no question for you today.

I just want to know, “Did you smile today?” ♥

Thank you for reading.


Linking up with Sundays in My City hosted by the lovely Unknown Mami. I am heading over there to find out what the others are up to.

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Kaarina Dillabough August 4, 2014 at 9:15 pm

The small things are indeed the big things:) Cheers! Kaarina
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Obsessivemom August 4, 2014 at 10:39 pm

Wow Vidur hadn’t watched a film on the big screen! You are blessed Vidya and of course a very sensible mum. For my part I love the whole theatre experience… Yeah including the waiting and the anticipation and the caramel popcorn too! I do remember when we were younger going to the movies was such a big deal. Still is to some extent for my kids. However it was made clear that no snacks would be bought! Now at least here in Pune they don’t allow outside snacks at all. When the kids were younger a pack of biscuits that I carried was confiscated!
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Vidya Sury August 4, 2014 at 11:32 pm

Really, Tulika? Was it one of those multiplexes? We went to a regular cinema hall (not the PVR INOX types). 🙂 Thanks for visiting!

Debbie August 4, 2014 at 11:22 pm

Hi Vidya,

How this post brings back the memories. As a young kid I remember going to the drive in with my parents to watch movies. We would all get in the car and park it by on of the speakers. Hang that on the window of the car, watch a very big screen and listen to it with the speaker. As for indoor theaters I was a teen before I went to on of them. Of course than my date paid for the popcorn and movie. LOL

Yes, we can get caught up in the technogy,But try to always be thankful for that dish washer and clothes washer and dryer.

The small things are what is really important even if it is the flowers in the spring or the leaves turning colors in the fall. have to love that.
Thanks for sharing this post and giving me a glance at another place on this planet we call earth. It is always great hearing about other places.
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Vidya Sury August 4, 2014 at 11:33 pm

🙂 Hi Debbie! Long time no see! I have fond memories of countless movies with “friends” – I was the kind of stubborn type who insisted on going Dutch! 😀 What fun those days were – movies, bike rides! I’ve never been to a drive in.

The small things rule!

Birgit August 4, 2014 at 11:44 pm

Watching movies on the big screen is an experience and seeing some films like Lord Of The Rings Trilogy or Lawrence of Arabia is better on a big screen. You are drawn into a magical place. I, of course, cheat, and carry a big purse and hide my drink and snack in there as I refuse to pay those prices so I am like your Uncle. I recall the time I also went to the drive-in with my parents and saw some wonderful films (like the Last Valley with Omar Sharif). I live so close to Niagara Falls and I do take it for granted even though it is one of the wonders of the world. When something is so close by we seem not to appreciate its’ greatness. The small things count and I hugged my mom today and that made me smile
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Vidya Sury August 4, 2014 at 11:52 pm

I love the big screen experience too! It is magical! 😀 I wish I’d known you last year – would have loved to meet you at the Niagara Falls, Birgit! 🙂

Birgit August 7, 2014 at 2:03 am

OMG-You were here! That would have been delightful!! I would have shown you the sights
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Sebastian Aiden Daniels August 5, 2014 at 12:57 am

Thanks for this wonderful post. It is always interesting to read your posts and see how life is for people on the other side of the planet. I am glad you enjoyed your time at the movies. An intermission at the movies though? That is unheard of here hehe.
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Laurel Regan August 5, 2014 at 2:23 am

I totally agree about celebrating the small things – so very, very important. Loved this post!
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Melissa August 5, 2014 at 5:21 am

YEs Vidya, Let’s never forget to appreciate the simple things in life. Loved your post 🙂
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Beloo Mehra August 5, 2014 at 6:44 am

Aha! This is a fun post reminding us of some big things. We do tend to forget the beauty and wonder of many things as we get busy with the immediate matter of life and living. And in the process miss out on lot. By the way, as much as I like movies I too go rarely to movie theatre but that’s because the kinds of movies I like to watch aren’t generally released in my area. So no choice but to wait for the DVD.
Fun photos!
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nabanita August 5, 2014 at 3:04 pm

Doing the simplest of things with family really does make us so happy no? And yes appreciating what is not there but was once a huge part of our lives has a different allure altogether no!
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nabanita August 5, 2014 at 3:05 pm

Doing the simplest of things with family brings the biggest joys to our hearts no? And ofcourse appreciating what was once a big part of our lives is indeed pleasurable..
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My Inner Chick August 6, 2014 at 2:46 am

I Love your perspective on life, your insights, the relationships and connection you have w/ others.

You. Are. A. Blessing.

Luv u more than ice cold diet coke w/ lemon on a steaming day in Minnesota. xxxxxxxxxx
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