Yup. Please don’t nag.
It is a fact that most parents and teachers know – deep down – that people don’t really learn from their mistakes. They only learn from when they do something right. Now – there is a study to prove this.
Ask yourself – would you be inspired when you are shouted at for getting something wrong?
Or would you rather be inspired when you are praised for doing something well?
So – please don’t nag.
Nagging and punishment just don’t really work. Just imagine – the repercussions – be it management styles, teaching style, parenting or relationships – could be enormous.
It is very easy to nag, shout or criticize because that comes more easily and spontaneously; more so if we are furious. But it is really worth it to find something to praise. You’d be surprised at the results you get.
Praise sincerely – and you can be assured of inspiring someone to do better, if not well.
Success teaches more than failure. I learn that from Vidur all the time! When I cuddle him and sweetly tell him to do something, he acts as though he wanted to do it all along. If I yell at him, well – I may as well be talking to another brick in the wall and that is certainly no fun.
Cheers!
Vidya
6 comments
So true, what you have written, but so difficult to implement in practice! I am a strong believer in positive motivation – your post gives me hope!
@ Kamini – thanks so much for dropping by. You are right about the ‘practice’ bit – gotta have nerves of steel – but imagine, the benefits are worth it 🙂 I loved your blog and look forward to reading all of it. Do visit often.
Dear me, not nag and shout? And deny myself the pleasure it gives!!!
Nice one, Vidya.
@ Raji – now, now…am trying really hard not to nag just to see how it feels !! 😀 Am also trying to see if it is really hard to practice what I preach! It is!
I asked my dear wife, Rita, to read this and she later said Raji must be the Indian version of Rita.
🙂 Thanks for dropping by, Frank. 🙂 I love what Rita said!