Yup. Please don’t nag.
It is a fact that most parents and teachers know – deep down – that people don’t really learn from their mistakes. They only learn from when they do something right. Now – there is a study to prove this.
Ask yourself – would you be inspired when you are shouted at for getting something wrong?
Or would you rather be inspired when you are praised for doing something well?
So – please don’t nag.
Nagging and punishment just don’t really work. Just imagine – the repercussions – be it management styles, teaching style, parenting or relationships – could be enormous.
It is very easy to nag, shout or criticize because that comes more easily and spontaneously; more so if we are furious. But it is really worth it to find something to praise. You’d be surprised at the results you get.
Praise sincerely – and you can be assured of inspiring someone to do better, if not well.
Success teaches more than failure. I learn that from Vidur all the time! When I cuddle him and sweetly tell him to do something, he acts as though he wanted to do it all along. If I yell at him, well – I may as well be talking to another brick in the wall and that is certainly no fun.
Cheers!
Vidya
So true, what you have written, but so difficult to implement in practice! I am a strong believer in positive motivation – your post gives me hope!
@ Kamini – thanks so much for dropping by. You are right about the ‘practice’ bit – gotta have nerves of steel – but imagine, the benefits are worth it 🙂 I loved your blog and look forward to reading all of it. Do visit often.
Dear me, not nag and shout? And deny myself the pleasure it gives!!!
Nice one, Vidya.
@ Raji – now, now…am trying really hard not to nag just to see how it feels !! 😀 Am also trying to see if it is really hard to practice what I preach! It is!
I asked my dear wife, Rita, to read this and she later said Raji must be the Indian version of Rita.
🙂 Thanks for dropping by, Frank. 🙂 I love what Rita said!